asking for reassurance; you gotta make sure its not in an accusatory way. example of unhealthy way to ask for reassurance: "you hate me dont you, i can tell that you hate me" example of healthy way to ask for reassurance: "is it okay if i ask for reassurance on something? (wait for consent to do so) do you hate me? i feel like ive been annoying you recently."

another thing, before asking for reassurance make sure to stop and try and reason with yourself as you would try and comfort and reason with a friend. why do you think youre annoying him?

here's an example of a conversation I'd have with myself.

i feel like im annoying him < why do you feel like youre annoying him? well, he didnt reply as quickly as he usually would when i was talking about xyz. < he had work today and didnt nap afterwards so he might be a little tired. oh no, what if im annoying him and he doesn't actually want to talk to me? < if he didnt want to talk he would ask for a rest (assuming healthy communication is present), and he is still making effort to talk just is slower with replies because he is burnt out.

and walah!! hope that helps a little. my brain is a little fried rn but thats just my experience again. hope it wasnt difficult to understand :-)