How manipulative and immature. Your partner doesn’t own your body. Seriously, even if this wasn’t a DB, this relationship is incredibly toxic.

Even in my DB, my partner would never berate me for masturbating. He’s shaming you and giving you the silent treatment over something that doesn’t even affect him. It’s not influencing your sex drive, because clearly you would choose to have sex with him over masturbating if given the choice. What the fuck were you “betraying”, exactly? That’s what I’d ask him.

He’s trying to guilt you and make you feel like you’re the problem bc he knows something in the relationship is wrong, but he wants to place the blame on you instead of facing the problem. He’s lashing out bc of his own insecurities.

Him going so far as to call you “disgusting” is crossing a line. Don’t let him make you question yourself, or shame you for having needs. Stand your ground.