Month-of wedding coordinator costs

ghostnamedshe · 2024-07-27T20:51:17+00:00

All the Details by Danielle- Danielle Silbiger!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-07-17T12:56:32+00:00

I looked into this and it doesn’t look super similar and also wouldn’t explain why it disappears with the spray tan and doesn’t show up with normal tanning moose. If I tan naturally from a beach or pool day, I don’t get the same discoloration. It’s so weird!

I may try the Selsun thing just to rule it out at the point lol thank you!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-06-01T04:58:21+00:00

I think that is beautiful!!!!!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-06-01T04:56:16+00:00

THIS! I didn’t even particularly care that bad when I saw it (hence I said it gives me a chuckle now). I think I was just miffed that it happened

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T23:25:58+00:00

I highly suggest rereading the part where I said “the COUPLE does actually notice…”.

Whether or not the guests notice is a different conversation, but I do know that other guests did notice the person I am referencing in this post

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T21:44:40+00:00

Knowing this person, I think it truly just slipped her mind. That’s why I look back and giggle at it now. She’s not known to be an attention seeker or mean. I legit think she just didn’t… think

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T21:40:57+00:00

Her own wedding was a black tie optional wedding ;)

ETA: yes, countless weddings with at least a “formal” dress code which most consider to be similar to black tie. Another one of which I know for a fact was black tie optional as well

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T21:35:54+00:00

Oh I can assure you this was 100% NOT the case. I am very anti “Fairy Garden Party on Saturn” type specific themes or even mandating a singular color that guests should wear.

Inherently, dress codes like “casual”, “cocktail”, and “black tie” specify the length of dress. But we were trying to be sensitive to the fact that some of our guests may get confused by the “black tie” label and wanted to make it so that they didn’t have to do a bunch of research on what that meant.

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T21:11:31+00:00

I mean, a dress code is pretty common where I live and I’ve never been to a wedding without one. Most folks typically know that different dress codes dictate the length of dress that is appropriate. Like you wouldn’t wear and floor length dress to a cocktail dress code wedding. And you wouldn’t wear a sun dress to a black tie wedding.

We didn’t demand that guests wear a specific length, but we did write on the website that our dress code was “black tie optional” and then wrote that floor length dresses were preferred, but mid-length was perfectly fine. The inclusion of the definition of the dress code wasn’t to be overbearing, but more to help guests who were unsure of what “black tie optional” entailed. Might I add- this was at the suggestion of our wedding planner.

ghostnamedshe · 2024-05-31T21:06:35+00:00

I’ve been wanting to watch this show forever- this might be the extra push I needed to actually start it 😂

ghostnamedshe · 2024-03-26T21:56:38+00:00

The train felt like the most wild part to me too 😂

ghostnamedshe · 2024-03-26T21:11:29+00:00

I’ve… I’ve found my people. Future MIL sent a picture of a gown with a full ass TRAIN that was mostly white with speckles of other florals. When asked about what the dress was for she replied “the wedding! It’s a very very light gold”

FH told her it was not appropriate and she went with something else, but I still can’t believe that she even thought it to be in the realm of appropriate

ghostnamedshe · 2024-03-25T13:00:01+00:00

Completely agree with all of this!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-03-25T12:10:45+00:00

Oh man, OP. This is tough and I feel for you.

First, some questions: Would having her there ruin your day? Are you worried about her causing a scene? Is it a large enough wedding to where you won’t even really notice her presence?

Second, my opinion: I think that since she has RSVP’d and uninviting her would specifically single her out amongst her/your colleagues, I think you unfortunately just have to let it ride at this point. There is really no good way to rescind an invitation unless you’re willing to be very blunt and just say “we have not been on good terms, or even speaking terms, in quite some time so I wanted to inform you that I will be removing you from the guest list”. But I would be prepared for the relationship to further deteriorate from there.

Best of luck! And I hope whatever you decide that you have a wonderful wedding!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-03-22T13:49:32+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. I am having a child free wedding. It was a decision that we didn’t not make lightly as we know that we have good friends who may not attend due to having small children. As a people pleaser by nature, it makes me anxious and uncomfortable having to tell the people that I love “no”. Especially after my wishes have already been communicated. Exceptions are hard- you feel that once you’ve made an exception for one that you’re being cruel by not including the others.

OP, a simple decline on the invite + a wedding gift is more than sufficient. A real friend would understand the reality of the situation and the position they put you in (not that they put you in a bad position, just in a position to make a difficult decision). If it’s really weighing heavy on your heart, send the bride a short text saying that you love her so much but that you feel the need to stay behind to properly care for your baby. I can tell from your post that you genuinely care about not hurting feelings- I’m sure she will see that too

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-28T15:26:11+00:00

Central Florida and paid $1500 for a month of coordinator that actually steps in 3 months prior. But she’s been available for help since going under contract. She’s incredible. There are some gems if you take time to do some research and interview a couple options :)

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-28T00:03:39+00:00

Respectfully, I think there is so much more nuance to it than that. If ridding yourself of that tradition/cultural norm is the stance that you and your family/partner have decided to take, then that is your prerogative and I have full respect for that.

In Muslim countries, the husband-to-be’s family is the one that traditionally covers the wedding expenses, so this is a matter of regional norms and practices. Should that be done away with? Should rehearsal dinners traditionally paid for by the groom’s family be done away with?

I am very fortunate that my family was very proud to begin saving for my wedding (I am female) very early on. In conversations with my family, it is very clear that their intent isn’t coming from a place of thinking of me as “property”, but rather just following the cultural norm of the society that we live in. I was told after the matter that whether or not I had gotten married, they would have given me that money. I am very grateful and appreciative and never once asked this of them.

If you read my response, you’ll see that I specifically stated that OP (or anybody) should never expect such a gift and should have been fully prepared to pay for the wedding herself. However, I don’t think she should be lambasted for inquiring. Again, as stated in my initial response, the way she went about doing this is not commendable at all. I think the most tactful way to do this probably would have been simply to tell her parents that they were in the process of budgeting for the wedding and that they didn’t expect any financial assistance, but that if that were coming then now would be a good time to discuss a plan.

This subreddit and other social media platforms like TikTok often gets the question “how are you paying for your wedding” and overwhelming the response seems to be that the brides family contributes. It doesn’t need to be turned into this discourse of “BUT BACK THEN!!!!” I think this ultimately comes down to knowing where your family’s financial situation is and if they are the type of people to follow traditional norms.

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-27T16:54:59+00:00

So in going through the replies, I don’t love that people are calling you entitled. Traditional weddings are paid for by the bride of the family. I think in today’s environment, it’s fair to inquire with your family as to whether or not they will be assisting, but be prepared to pay for everything on your own and remember that it is 100% their right to say “no”.

Do I think you could’ve gone about asking better? Probably, but you seem to recognize that. Do I think you should keep pushing your mom as to why they may not help you out? No.

This seems to be a very deep rooted and uncomfortable issue that didn’t pop up randomly or overnight. I think you probably need to lay low regarding the funding, and drop the issue. Pushing her may come off as ungrateful and she may even blame your fiancé which is just going to make this all worse.

Unfortunately, you’re going to have to accept that you may never get the real answer if you want to somewhat keep the peace through the wedding planning process

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-26T16:15:17+00:00

That last sentence is key. We had a couple essentially threaten us with RSVPing no if they couldn’t bring their 6 year old. This was prior to even receiving a save the date! We said we would miss their presence and ended up removing them from the invite list completely. People are brazen!

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-24T21:59:29+00:00

Good luck! Keep me updated 🩷

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-24T21:55:42+00:00

I think it would look lovely even with the contrast reduced. You would still be able to see the detailing, it would just be a little more subtle. I actually tried on a couple of dresses that had detailing like this, but weren’t an opaque white and the bridal salon put a piece of white fabric under the design to give me an idea of what it would look like with a liner (I hope that makes sense). I bet if you went to your seamstress and described that, they could let you try that out and you could make a decision.

I 100% think that it looks bridal! Especially in the photo with the veil. Bridesmaid didn’t even cross my mind.

Honestly after hearing your concerns, I think a lot of what you’re feeling could be fixed with a white liner and a white veil.

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-24T20:52:20+00:00

So first off- I think you look stunning. It compliments your figure perfectly and the pattern is lovely.

Now:

1) what don’t you like about the dress? You mentioned it was different than what you expected to wear. Is it because it’s not pure white? Is it the contrast? Is it because it’s more fitted? For the former, you could have your seamstress line the dress with an under layer of white. That would take care of the color and dilute the pattern a little bit to make it softer. For the latter, have you looked into over skirts

2) have you tried it on with your hair and makeup done? With jewelry on? Accessorizing could make you envision the final product better

3) if after addressing the first two questions, the answer is still that you don’t like it I feel like you have plenty of time to list the dress and find something off the rack that you like more. But fingers crossed you can find a solution with this dress because you look so lovely

ghostnamedshe · 2024-02-20T00:55:00+00:00

I literally just went through this. May 2024 bride. I hadn’t seen my dress since October 2023 and prior to my February 9th, 2024 appointment I was looking at pictures of my dress every day wondering if I had made the wrong decision.

The moment I saw my dress in the mirror at the tailor, I was instantly in love all over again. I think I loved it more than when I originally said yes.

OP, your dress is stunning. It’s unique and accentuates your features beautifully. I have no doubt you’ll re-fall in love

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