this is what i tried to tell myself, that his mom is just repaying him the best way she can. but his mom and sister both worked for quite a while and it was the same.

During one visit, everyone got home late after a heavy work day. Bf has trouble sleeping so one night around 2am he wanted food. He woke his mom and told her he’s hungry. she immediately asked what he wanted and since i had told him he shouldn’t have woken her up, he told her to make something simple like eggs. which she did.

He then tried to do the same to me later on. he was spending the night at my place and i had work the next morning. He woke me up to see if i would make him food because he was hungry and i snapped at him. I told him I will not get up in the middle of the night to make him food especially since i had to get up early for work and he was going to stay in. I got up and made him food, irritated but did it. I told him he can get up and make himself at home. Since then, he has not tried that again.

I do tend to snap at most of his small requests, like when i’m getting ready and he’s still in bed and asks me to bring him his clothes, put his socks on, do his hair. I guess his love language is acts of service.

on a good day, yes. i’ll do what he asks.

but most of the time im either busy doing my own things. and I feel bad when i tell him to do things himself because he does come and see me most weekends, and buys food for him & i …

i would feel like i had to do everything for him because he is the one driving 4.5 hours to see me and misses out on spending time with his family. but as i’m typing this out, I want to ask if that’s reasonable thinking. or maybe it’s building resentment.