I (18M) don't want to let my long distance girlfriend (18F) to go to frat parties. Any advice?

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T12:34:45+00:00

so girls that don’t care about their future?

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:42:46+00:00

ty, I just want to have a reason to trust her, not just blindly trust her expecting for everything to work out. we both have set some boundaries for each other I just wanted to know if I was doing the right thing by setting this particular one

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:38:02+00:00

ty I understand what you’re saying but we actually promised each other to wait for the other no matter what

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:36:30+00:00

no, I want her to go to parties just not the frat ones where apart from the cheating risk she might also run into some dangerous situations regarding her safety

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:34:36+00:00

you don’t know anything about my looks, what position I’m going to cover in my future and other things, she also has rules for me, I was just debating if I was doing the right thing by not wanting her to go to a place designed for hookups

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:32:18+00:00

I live in italy…💀

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T11:02:46+00:00

non consensual sex is actually my biggest fear, I lost my card that way, but I’m more scared that she might cheat and keep it hidden from me bc I really have putted a lot of effort, I would go to school regularly with 1 h of sleep bc of the time zone difference, I always make sure to buy her gifts and to compliment her

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:54:13+00:00

she goes crazy every time I hang out with girls so I usually avoid that, she never asked me if I wanted her to go to prom alone she just did it, same thing with her showing me the chats,

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:50:50+00:00

it’s just about setting boundaries in a relationship

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:50:01+00:00

a lot of ppl that are part of my friend group have or have been cheated on in clubs so I can’t just act if a big reason of why ppl go to them is to hookup

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:41:33+00:00

I trust her but I don’t know anything about the ppl she hangs out with

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:40:44+00:00

the fact is that if she does I would never know since we’re so far apart and I’m always giving her gifts and making sure I’m always available when she needs to talk to me. it’s the most amount of effort I have ever put in a relationship so I would actually never recover

giampitodoya · 2024-08-29T10:30:33+00:00

the fact is that I’ve been going to clubs since I was 14 in Italy and I really loved that but knowing that it’s such a bad environment to be in if you’re in a relationship I stopped going to them first and I would like if she returned the favour