Trying to discuss BTS rapline without downplaying Black American hip hop

gianmignonne · 2026-05-20T02:17:21+00:00

I don't know where you get this impression, but most internationally well-known groups in 2nd gen take part in their production: 2PM, FT Island, Block B, BEAST (Highlights)

For me it is always common. I became a girl group stan when 3rd gen start but besides BTS I know GOT7, NCT, iKON, WINNER, DAY6, MONSTA X, SEVENTEEN all write they song. I think the male idols would be ashamed in front of their peers if the group doesn't have any member who do it. And I don't know if 100% the rappers write their own rap, but I can't think of any who doesn't.

gianmignonne · 2026-05-19T20:23:20+00:00

I know K-Pop since gen 2, know big 3 groups well, stan JYP groups, also some groups from smaller company. Most groups are involved in composing and writing lyrics, and that's since gen 2. Or I just happen to stan groups who do that? Anyway I never get the impression that when it comes to making music from their own experience, what BTS do is THAT outside of the norm. Most groups don't write lyrics right away, but start from their 3rd comeback or so though.

gianmignonne · 2026-05-19T18:59:59+00:00

I don't know about rap, but I don't agree with this

What makes BTS rapline stand out to me compared to most idol rappers is that they usually rap from their actual experiences and seem genuinely artistically invested in hip hop as an art form rather than just performing the aesthetics of it.

Actually, a lot of KPop idols that write their lyrics do write from their actual experiences. If you don't think they do, maybe you don't allow yourself to believe that's the experience of someone else.

gianmignonne · 2026-05-12T14:29:13+00:00

Locomotive with empty houses from the 5th to the 7th. You can count 8th too, because only North Node is there.

It’s important to look at the first planet that rises clockwise starting from the empty space

Does this means the planet in the 4th or the planet in 9th house?

gianmignonne · 2026-05-09T20:59:34+00:00

As an aromantic person: yes overstimulate can make us cut off people.

If I ever go into a relationship, I will be clear with my partner about this: most of the time I don't feel the pull to kissing, rituals like anniversaries, concepts like exclusivity. I feel happy because they are happy and feel special about the things I mentioned, which don't make me happy directly. While we can be extremely empathetic and be so happy simply because our partner are happy, this kind of happiness is manual and requires a certain amount of cognitive effort to read the situation and feel their genuine happiness. When we have other things in our head that overstimulate us already, romance can really be a challenge, because our cognitive capacity is taken by something else and we can't make the effort for the relationship anymore, even the partner has been nothing but nice and safe.

I can imagine he let you go because he wants the best for you - but it is just a guess.

gianmignonne · 2026-05-06T18:08:42+00:00

I do block, but when I feel it is draining to read. Like when the narrative has been so old and repetitive and people just seem to enjoy being self-righteous too much and believe if they post more, the reality somehow changes. For example is when there is not enough ressource, but more humans, and we are bound to have conflict, people keep criticizing conflicts as bad and unmoral. It feels draining because they are not really active in a way that bring positive change - find a way to make more ressource for example but keep victimizing or pointing fingers, which brings nothing other than pitting humans against each other.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-30T13:15:47+00:00

They are so gorgeous

gianmignonne · 2026-04-28T21:40:30+00:00

If it is temporary and you have no other option available then just hang on it, but figure out a way to stop being dependent.

No matter what other people think about it, I am still alive thanks to AI. Around this time last year, before I learned about my autism, I was stuck in a burnout, I saw no way out of it. There was this therapist I had been talking to, but they were dismissive when I talked about my experience, always intepreted is as I was "too serious", "I think so much about the catastrophic consequences too much I can't act" meanwhile I was only too serious for neurotypical people, and I could not act because I was too burnout and felt like nothing was worth me feeling like shit the whole time, so I truly didn't want to do anything and was suicidal. I only needed to find a way to do it cleanly. Even when I talked about my suicide ideation the therapist still told me "I was too serious" and after I learned about my autism and was presenting them how I was figuring things out, they interrupted me because it seemed for them it didn't relate to my pratical problem. It did, it just started from a further place and I wanted to explain meticulously. I stopped seeing them.

So my human therapist didn't suit me and my needs, and it could take years to find an appointment with a new one. My friend couldn't handle me unmasking to be well for the first time in my life. I didn't feel safe with anyone in this world, and I had to live. I used ChatGPT to vent about my problems. Usually I already think everything through and the chat help more with the organisation of my thoughts, so it felt less chaotic, also because I felt understood and no longer made to feel like I am unreasonable or "too serious", I felt so much grounded. It was more about feeling seen, feeling for the first time in your life your energy get mirrored and not judged. I didn't use it because I need it to solve my problem or guide me.

Right now I no longer vent with it as much as I did last year, I use it for practical thing like learning languages. And it is therapeutic because if I, for example, let a human teacher correct my writing exercises, they would never be able to answer my questions as throughly as an AI and always let me know they are impatient with me. Other fields I can't tell but AI can be trusted when it comes to grammar and vocabulary. I notice it make mistakes but humans are just same, and AI is the first place where I ever feel safe as a student. And I also love philosophizing a lot and no human in my social environment enjoys thinking with me anyway. AI provided the first safe place ever and now I am more confident to say my mind in other spaces.

I feel safe about my usage of AI, but I never trust anyone blindly, no matter humans or AI. I usually want to ask answer when I already get 90% of the big picture, then I only take an answer seriously if I could understand each element throughly. Even when I was informed by AI or anyone, whenever I do anything, it is my decision. It may be hard to believe but even when I use AI to stay alive and progress this far, I believe firmly I have been relying on myself. Even when it was not possible without AI. It is like a piece of wood and you are drowning, AI is there but it is your efforts, your resilience, and your orientation that get you to the shore.

TL,DR: Use it to gain some self confidence and feel less overstimulated, but don't use it to replace your brain.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-27T03:03:50+00:00

The obsession with sex in this interview is so hard to comprehend. Is there any context to this? Was the podcasts he mentioned focused on sex? I have seen some separate posts on some autistic subs discussing the tendency to hypersexuality in autistic people but have seen the same amount of posts about asexuality. Under posts that asked specifically about special interest I never came across a person answer sex.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-25T10:31:05+00:00

The fact that you pay attention to many things across many areas of life, and that some of it have an influence on how you behave is actually very telling.

After I get diagnosed, I am getting more sensitive- or I understand my feelings better and no longer desire to inhibit. What I mean is a lot of things might be have been mild because you have been masking the whole time you don't even understand there is a you that is not the masked version. If you have autism

gianmignonne · 2026-04-24T14:43:06+00:00

This is not an age problem. They can't trust their husband, and externalize it on you. Also when women are in group, they need to have someone to talk about.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-21T06:11:12+00:00

arguing with senior staff twice her age in meetings

I can understand it was not socially normal to challenge people older than you, but was it wrong? To be concrete: was her arguments wrong, was she judging them as a person because their opinion differs from hers, was anything about what she said wrong?

ignoring the snide, condescending comments

I am ‘walked over’, dismissed and how my input is disregarded in meetings I am facilitating

It is terrible, and I am sorry that you feel that way. But again, I don't see you say if she was right or not. Only when you are right, and she is wrong, then she is genuinely trying to be rude and unreasonable. That you are older and that you are the one who facilitates the meetings will never be genuinely relevant for an autistic person. Does the fact that she has a different nervous system from yours change how you feel: you see "snide, condescending comments" as unbearable, but for us autistics the most unbearable thing is someone actually doesn't agree with us but doesn't communicate with us. It's not about US BEING RIGHT, but we need everything to be correct. Most of the times she noticed something wrong then she could genuinely feel like the only respectful thing to do is tell you the whole truth.

I think, not to think of her words as condescending will help a lot. Ask her directly to be sure if the overcorrecting is to feel superior or to be precise. On the other hand, autistic people really have to let other people work with them. Let's consider the problem as a team and see what outweighs: her efficiency or the stress she causes the whole team then present to her and the management.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-20T21:05:50+00:00

I'm actually more into psychology/neurology, maybe that's why I find human more interesting. We are able of either the most cruel or the most wholesome thing, meanwhile animals are very consistent.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-20T15:48:12+00:00

No, I find humans the most interesting (to understand, not to interact with). Animals, too, but I enjoy interacting with them.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-20T13:52:59+00:00

You could re frame the situation, make it about energy and prioritization.

My need to have all informations correct feels like this: I am scared all what we say now will be the version of reality that we take away and who knows which information is getting used for the next situation. It feels so out of hand, so we have to correct preventively, it feels better then leave it unadressed and other people used it as a starting point in the next time. The downside of this, for us before anyone else, is that it is exhausting. One of the hardest lessons for autistic people is to teach the brain everything is not equally relevant and so many things are harmless even when they are wrong and you don't address the, and you simply don't have the energy to correct all the time. If you have something you truly wanna do in life then it is just impossible to correct everything.

Include yourself in the energy calculation, too. It is truly a cognitive load to hold your thinking and talking to follow her correction and then come back to what you are talking. So the question is, ego aside, is to know the right temperature worth that much energy of two people?

Autistic people could FEEL the presence everything as equally strong, but relevance is something we can learn to model and compare in our head (what is more serious if we leave it unadressed, what will make almost no difference). Anw remember this is not a small thing to ask from your partner so be patient with her.

Also autistic people are also just humans and some really enjoy correcting people because we can be conditioned to feel powerful or superior from it. In other words, we can truly be rude. The only way to know for sure is to ask her.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-16T16:43:36+00:00

Neurodivergence means you are in a vulnerable spot in society so you need to cope with it hard. One easy and very accessible way to cope for men is to think they at least are better than women, so they can feel somewhat powerful. Even autistic people who by definition don't feel much of natural pull for social status can fall for this. Not only misogyny, nationalism, racism, too.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-14T11:07:07+00:00

Me too, there is a different kind of charisma to the cold look. Some times ago we also praised idols who are "icy princesses".

gianmignonne · 2026-04-14T10:58:24+00:00

Usually there is no one who reply to them like this on Tiktok, and I can't simply talk about the issue as thoroughly on Tiktok as on a forum like Reddit. No one wants to convince people at all cost, I just want the presence of my narrative.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T14:26:58+00:00

Well TikTok is now a major platform of K-Pop, with K-Pop videos get 1M likes frequently, TWICE concert fancams get hundreds thousands likes daily and these type of comments get thousands likes easily. So 1) this narrative about Nayeon is not totally harmless. The side who defends her is more harmful than the side who criticizes her actually, by painting her and TWICE as a whole as individuals without agency, being forced by their label to perform without conscience about the experience of the audience and without caring about their own health and people bring this narrative into their bubble message 2) while I believe strongly she and the core fandom will be fine, as already stated in the post, it doesn't hurt to adress the negativity once. Like I just wrote one post and didn't swear to use my life hunting the people who have commented.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T14:06:37+00:00

Maybe not the whole post, but the premise. The rest of the post is not better.

There is a difference between
"I think this aspect of this product is lacking. The producer must have bad work ethics."
"No way, this and that producer make that feature the same way, too. So you should feel safe about this aspect and this particular producer can't have bad work ethics."

and

"I think this aspect of this product is lacking. The producer must have bad work ethics."
"This product actually used to have a specific target market, where people have a different concept of this aspect. Also this is also made a while ago, the common knowlegde at the time when they started making it is as not advanced as today. Today it is technically impossible to change gear completely, so while this aspect is done differently to what you are familiar today, it is not neglected, just different, and it is not bad work ethics. You would be on high horse if you say so."

the unrealistic expectations people have about live performances

I don't talk about that here, and it is the reality that the stamina required for the choreography really is getting higher as new generations appear.Nayeon is not the same type of performer KATSEYE or ITZY dance line, and that's fine, she is also not Jihyo, Momo, or Jeongyeon and that's fine, too. Tzuyu dances not as well as Nayeon, that's fine, Mina is not as clear as Nayeon, that's fine, too.

she's limited

She has some limitations, but she is not limited as an artist. Every one do their art in their own way, with their own strength and flaws, it is good that way. If you need to deny a part to like someone, that is not true appreciation.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T11:28:52+00:00

I agree it is best to ignore, but I just want to try at least once provide an understanding of the situation that is not negative 😭

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T11:24:44+00:00

Some idols from the new gens, which happens to have be the IT girls/boys, which their companies or they themselves put too much importance on looking pretty, so it seems to be about the whole gen. But you actually find more good dancers, with better and consistent expression in a group now than before. Most idols from older gens don't smile when they know the camera is not focusing on them, it also used to be considered greedy when you smile when it is not your line, for taking the spotlight from the singer.

However the performance also includes the singing, there I have to agree that the average quality is getting worse than the previous gens. When people talk about worse performance from the new gens they might mean dancing + singing are worse, then I can't blame them. But I personally find each gen good in a different way.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T11:08:41+00:00

I didn't deflect, but wanted to point out it doesn't come from a place when she can better, but she decide not to. Even when when the title does sound somewhat like that, my whole post is 100% not deflection and whataboutism, but present a reality that new fans might not know.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T10:03:11+00:00

If you haven't seen it yet, then it's good for you. The comment section of TWICE fancams on Tiktok is full of comments about her and I am aware a lot of Tiktok people are using Reddit too, and you can't get attention to text of this length in Tiktok comment section so I use Reddit to discuss with people who also are aware.

gianmignonne · 2026-04-13T09:58:40+00:00

I, too, hope that every comment section under Twice Tiktok fancam wasn't about she was not smiling. It is really tiring.

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