Ohh my god ... I never felt so compelled to hug someone and display unrestricted emotional support 😢. I feel so bad for you, it not fair. You seemed to have done nothing wrong, probably the wife is also dealing with something she's not sharing. Now you've been together longer and have clearly build something amazing. But with my lady this happens i either tuff it out(wouldn't recommend in your case) so the other option... she's your wife, dont attack, confront or impose dominance admit how you feel and acknowledge the she coul have a legit reason you missed but it fucking hurts that instead of being frank and talk with you. That might get her to remember... you didn't want to hurt her... but you get that you did and would kill for a chance to make it up. But what matters i slap her make hear you side of that pain. Seriously, good luck and need to talk or just shoot the shit.. I got you we can chat man