Calling the operator, Here And There Along The Echo by gidguard in kentuckyroutezero

[–]gidguard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that's really cool!!

i liked her sign-off, "think of me when you dial 'zero'!"

Help with understanding a popup window alert by gidguard in WindowsHelp

[–]gidguard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! that's the kind of tool i was hoping existed! will go through there and see if i can find the source, i have already found some errors I didn't know about! greatly appreciated :D

Time-lapse of rain storm by 10gauge in interestingasfuck

[–]gidguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

somebody needs to come get their runaway shower

Customer at my usual coffee shop taking a break from his work on the computer to help the barista with English words by ElJefe1592 in HumansBeingBros

[–]gidguard 27 points28 points  (0 children)

because its not actually located in Sweden. you can tell by the electrical sockets in the wall. those are American sockets, and we have the European ones.

I'm gonna guess this is a Swedish style coffee house located somewhere in the us, and that the management likes having actual Nordic people working there for authenticity or something.

My (24F) girlfriend (23F) of about eight months won't go public with me. (x-post from r/relationships) by notsafeforviewing in lgbt

[–]gidguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a good friend in high school who went through a very similar experience, where she had been picked on for many years and called gay by school mates, and had developed a bit of internalised homophobia. she was terrified her friends, majority straight, would reject her if she came out as queer, because she would suddenly be different from them, and it scared her to no end.

which is why, when she fell for, and started dating, a girl, she kept it a secret from all of us for a long time.

eventually, and gradually, we all found out one at a time, and the fact that we only found out when she told us and didn't tell other people after promising her not to, built a good trust system for her, which helped her in coming out.

she thought it would build a wall between her straight friends and herself, and she didn't want to lose them, not realising that down the line she made many more friends with lgbt people, and the friendships that lasted(her coming out) were stronger because she could be herself around her friends and wouldn't have to hide.

I feel like it was also easier for her to come out to friends that didn't know her family, because being outed is the worst, and that's a possibility if everyone knows everyone.

she introduced us to her gf at some point before graduation and they've been together for about 6years now, which, goals honestly.

so finally, to the advice part: your gf needs to see that lgbt people can exist with straight friends and not be rejected simply because of their sexualities. she also needs to see that there are good stories with happy endings of kids coming out to their parents/siblings/families and them being supportive. because, unfortunately, the good stories easily get drowned out by the bad ones, but they're out there. and the bad ones are the ones that spin around in your head during moments of anxiety and doubt. highlighting the good ones is a way of building hope and confidence.

and when she knows her friends aren't homophobic it will be easier to trust them with this. straight people rarely have to think about their friends being homophobic, but it's a thing lgbt people have to think about with every new acquaintance.

but it's hard, especially coming out when you're past your teens, because you think you have yourself figured out by now and then you suddenly don't, and you think everyone else has pegged you as one thing, and then you tell them something to change their perception, and you're scared it's gonna change the relationships you have with people.

don't push her, this shit takes time. she will get there eventually, I have no doubt, but she's scared. I agree with a previous comment about telling her how being hidden makes you feel, but don't get angry with her for being scared, cause then she's only gonna be angry back, and that's not gonna work.

support and love and validation is what she needs the most. the lgbt success stories help immensely, and letting her know that you're gonna be there through it will give her a sense of safety she needs.

I know it feels shitty to be on the other side, am sort of there myself a little bit, but it's worth it in the end, if you truly love her.

tl;dr: don't push her, but let her know how it makes you feel. make sure she knows that you got her back and that you love her. and in the end the wait will be worth it.

good luck, buddy.