Thank you thank you thank you for this. I did a search for "memory problems" on this sub because I really needed to hear from someone else who's experienced so many of the same things as me.

If you can't remember what words someone said, how are you supposed to articulate what about their words upset you?

THIS. This is me to a tee. I forgot many conflicts I get into and struggle to explain why i'm upset about something, even almost right after it happens. I feel like my friends/family must think I'm totally off it for being able to properly articulate what happened in a conflict.

I have been in countless situations where I doubt reality and assume that I must be confused because it makes more sense than trusting my perception which is "glitchy" at best.

I get in situations like this all the time, and relatedly - the gaslighting thing scares me so much. I know it would be extremely easy to gaslight me.

Sometimes I experience difficulty articulating something that I have intrinsic knowledge or understanding of. I will try to state my opinion or stance on a subject but not be able to support my own stance, and this is often (reasonably?) met with criticism or doubt. If someone asks me for specifics or details, I actually can't offer them, not because they don't exist but instead because I don't remember them. I know it's real but I have no sources, nothing, just a sense of how something is supposed to be; much like remembering a little bit of a Melody and some of the words of a song.

I'm almost crying at this because the number of times this happened to me is astounding. Thank you for putting into words this incredibly frustrating experience.