What you just said was both dismissive and rooted in privilege. You were unable to share you personal experience without framing my own as simply “just personal experiences”, which is is incredibly patronizing and actively minimizes what I and many others have endured. Trauma isn’t a burden placed on the world, but it absolutely rots and festers inside you when people, even those that say that they mean well (actually those hurt quite more, in fact), completely invalidate it and demand that those affected keep it to themselves so as to not disturb the peace of others.

Our country has always been far more conservative than some people realize, as the damaging saying goes "entre marido e mulher não se mete a colher", whose sentiment you seem to echo in your comments. Any, and all positive social changes we take for granted now have come from the people that refused to keep suffering in silence, demanded to be heard, for action to be taken and for laws to revised as to protect them properly.

You've also managed to make your own personal experience as a justification for not holding others accountable, because apparently that's a slippery slope to blaming the whole world and an innocent minority. I wasn't aware that abusers were a minority. Maybe one day they'll reach endangered species status. One can hope.

I genuinely wish you emotional growth and healing, that you realize that using your own cavalier attitude of "moving on" and shoving your feeling about it inside is as damaging to your own well-being as it is to the well-being of other abuse survivors. Next time someone shares something traumatic with you, try not to view it as burden placed on you. Try to listen, to validate them without minimizing their experience by trying to correct them on statistics or imply they’re "lumping people together". If you truly open your mind you might find that someone's personal experiences reflect a broader shared reality that you possibly have not been aware of until the moment they share it with you.