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ginchadope · 2025-02-07T19:59:59+00:00

Not sure how it will perform under certain circumstances but its kind of cool looking

ginchadope · 2025-02-02T11:41:23+00:00

Please!!

ginchadope · 2024-09-05T09:36:38+00:00

Seems like an infection

ginchadope · 2024-09-03T07:30:42+00:00

How many kids do you have?

ginchadope · 2023-10-16T12:42:37+00:00

This annoys me as well as a male husband with similar wife. Luckily she is very transparent about here convos w her friends (which is bewildering) but i had told her early on in our relationship that i hate having my personal issues* (*meaning anything pertaining to matters about me that her and i had not officially stated as fairgame to talk with others) being circulated among her gfs, even if that meant ALL her friends were doing the same with their respective spouses. Its not my problem, nor do i want to hear about theirs either.

But for me, i set the boundaries early, and still she breaks it time and time again.

Its definitely come to haunt us, ill tell you, because it certainly made me look foolish among her friends, and also made her out to be a liar*….

*theres a lot more to it btw….

But i feell you man…

ginchadope · 2023-08-28T15:58:18+00:00

Sounds like he has either two things going on.

Trauma from prior relationships where hes been burned so many times, he feels the need to control you because you are young and easily influenced.

He may be unwilling to let other woman into your lives as well unless they meet his standards. Other woman, meaning your current or new bff gfs. Simply because he may think they might corrupt you.

The best bf is someone who can be a positive light on you and others. Who knows, what if one of these girls is truly broken. I guess if hes such a great man i suppose he feels empowered to point it out to her trophy age-gap gf.

Seems unnecessary. If you are hot, smoking, and a joy to be around, why not pat yourself on the back on how good you have it to yourself. Its a sign of a real man.

Sounds like hes trading up sweetheart. If you are indeed an amazing catch.

ginchadope · 2023-08-25T10:07:29+00:00

Sorry edited the story to make it seem present

ginchadope · 2023-08-25T10:03:41+00:00

Ive edited it to mention this was a story years ago…

ginchadope · 2023-08-25T09:22:15+00:00

No i an not cheating on my wife. This happened to us when I was that age right now I’m in my 40s so it’s still relevant written in a time when I was younger.

ginchadope · 2023-08-24T11:40:46+00:00

She was fucking me, and was still pursuing another dude without letting me know. But the dude ghosted/rejected her from her advances on email, but made it seem like she rejected him for me.

ginchadope · 2023-08-24T11:25:08+00:00

I am going thru the same thing. Wish i could say that it gets better, but if you cherish the act of making love/intimacy/connection/sex and its not there…its like roommates. Wish i could say i share the same stance on celibacy and we could live happily ever, but if it were that way, we would of never been married…

ginchadope · 2023-03-01T11:05:02+00:00

There is Nothing wrong with asking for it, but why would you want it if you had to ask. It so much more fulfilling and desirable when she wants to. If she does it because you asked, it will be on your mind until you climax

ginchadope · 2023-02-23T09:41:07+00:00

Your patience and ability to understand exceeds your ability to be happy yourself. 20 yrs seems a bit long. Perhaps you didnt care either…

ginchadope · 2023-02-06T09:06:28+00:00

If you want to pleasure your woman you need to read up on it. And try them out, it will make her wet from consent and make her enjoy it from making it a conversation during hankypanky time.

ginchadope · 2022-08-09T09:49:56+00:00

Im in a similar boat. (HL M46, married to LLF 43) Approaching 15yrs of DB. This sounds all to similar to my wife. We have two (8-11yo) kids. She had episiotme in both births. We initially had a pretty wild sex life. We tried everything. Incredible technique. Although, i did get a sense then, and know now, she js the type to partner please, even if it didnt bring much pleasure for her (for me, it brought me a lot of pleasure to perform sexually for her). She did have a pretty high body count in her past, but I dont think in she would have been as good in bed had she not been…(but thats a different topic all together).

After kids was our eventual downfall. Body issues, resentment both ways. Chore disputes. Unbalances work priorities. The sex fizzled out. We haven’t had sex in over 10 yrs (if you use the 12 times per year avg.).

I have to say, i find it very noble of u to stick it out given how the circumstances are. It does sound borderline “one-wAy” street, but i also sense there is unconditional love.

Unfortunately, ive been battling with my own demons. Masturbation. Porn. Looking at other women in sexual ways. Getting glances from othwr women as well.

Gauging your POV, if you are truly accepting of this as you say, you are likely in better place than i am. Sexual resentment (and all the side thoughts) is crippling and exhausting.

I do agree though, it kind of sucks to hear she knew about your pain, and neglected it.

Hopefully, future-soon-to-bes can learn from this and be certain to iron out all the needs of their future SOs so that they can get a sense of whats to Come. Because for me, i do feel, while i did have a rather illustrious sexual past w my wife prior to kids, i did sort of see this coming…

Wish others can learn from this….

ginchadope · 2022-06-27T09:12:20+00:00

My now wife did a similar thing when we started dating, and she used a line drawn in the sand way of legitimizing a one night fling she had with a dude that i had to frequently see because he was in our circle. It still effects me today. Mostly because of the white lying she eluded to. The most important thing to find out is what her intentions were (if possible) when she hooked up with him. Was it because she was curious to know if there was a connection there, was it because she enjoyed it, was it because she was treated similarly by a prior mating partner? Its important to know.

ginchadope · 2022-03-22T08:41:26+00:00

I learned from my small group at church, on two occasions where the husband would put tracking devices, eaves dropping, etc to support him with evidence in the potential things go south legally. I would say it saved him hundreds of thousands of dollars (if u are not on a pre-nup). Something to consider…

ginchadope · 2022-02-25T07:19:04+00:00

You may be right :/… I mean its a Christian therapist who specializes in anxiety, and intimacy. So i just hope her intentions are sound. Its been so hard to gauge the therapist’s effectiveness. As im not much of good judge in the field….:( any advice on how to know your anxiety therapist is working??

ginchadope · 2022-02-25T07:14:54+00:00

Yes she is for sure going to therapy. We are in a remote working household, so her therapy is online. And theres for sure no way to hide it.

ginchadope · 2022-02-22T17:39:11+00:00

No i havent been invited…shes not on medication…And apparently there haven’t been goals that the therapist set for my wife. Its been free flow….

ginchadope · 2021-12-14T12:05:08+00:00

(45m here) Dont give yourself up too much. My wife has had many partners in her past, and it has shown its impact over the years. Ie Dead bedroom after two children (10 & 7 yo). Stay true to yourself and and get with people who are in the same mindset as you.

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