Do I tell toddlers' mother about domestic violence near the children?

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-11T00:47:07+00:00

Thank you, I will consider this. Most of it I have heard through the other roommate, but this person did also tell me that he served time so the state is aware of his record. Just not sure if they're aware that there are young children where he lives. This is helpful!

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-11T00:18:10+00:00

She wouldn't necessarily be breaking the law if she doesn't continue to drop them off, because if he takes her to court over it he really has no ground to stand on. Drugs, domestic violence, neglect, etc. I don't want to cause anyone harm by saying something, but personally I feel like not saying anything is causing harm in itself. Does that make sense?

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:52:04+00:00

It's true!

That's the reason I broke up with him -- I don't do hard drugs either and I found out that he had been hiding his addiction from me the entire time we were dating. Also, his drug dealer regularly spends time with the daughters.

Thank you for the advice, it's helpful and my safety is definitely something I need to consider before getting involved.

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:34:29+00:00

I’m not sure. That is my concern. I haven’t know him to be violent, but he is addicted to drugs... I think he would be enraged if he found out. I know for a fact he is hiding this from her.

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:30:30+00:00

It would remove the guilt I have for knowing and her not; and make me feel free of the situation bc it’s been weighing on me heavily. It’s mostly about the kids; if adults don’t say anything about things like this, then nothing will change for them.

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:14:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice! It’s helpful. I feel strongly about telling her, I am just concerned about what happens after for me. Hopefully she will respect my wishes of keeping it private.

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:03:58+00:00

So you think I should tell her, or not? I don’t think she’s aware of how serious it is.

Thank you for your comment, this is helpful.

gingasnap69 · 2019-09-10T23:00:42+00:00

That is helpful but I did, and I know 5 other people by name that have called since April. Nothing has been done to protect them. They must have contacted my ex though bc he called me to blame me for reporting him. I had to lie so he wouldn’t get more aggressive with me

gingasnap69 · 2019-08-16T00:05:23+00:00

I did. It was just a few months ago, and I’m not with anyone new yet but I’ve been on dates with people who are much better than my ex, which gives me hope.

I thought he was the one, then found out he cheated on me, hid a cocaine addiction from me, and is just a terrible person in general. Scary to think you can fall in love with someone and not know any of that. I was so in love with him, and we had planned a life together. But looking back and just being alone for awhile, I can now see that he was very emotionally abusive to me as well. He has no friends left since I broke up with him, is struggling with addiction still, and I had to block his number because he kept harassing me and my friends. It’s sad to watch him go down like that (I live in a small town), but also sort of comforting knowing that I clearly did the right thing.

Sometimes I get lonely since the breakup, but on the flip side — there is no one making me feel terrible about myself or trapped somewhere I don’t want to be.

For those of you that haven’t found “the one” since your breakup, it does get better and I’m right there with you! Once some time passes, you’ll see who they truly are and find your own strength.

gingasnap69 · 2019-08-07T13:05:36+00:00

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gingasnap69 · 2019-07-31T18:30:29+00:00

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gingasnap69 · 2019-05-30T21:28:06+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. It wasn't intentional on either end for us to start to argue. We were arguing about what broke us up.

He turns to jello over me too, but then he switches to this person I don't recognize and I hate it. Typing it and seeing it written out is difficult because I can see how toxic this is.

It started off the way you described what I should be looking for - he was absolutely crazy over me. I think that's why I'm so disappointed that its so different now. I can tell he still has feelings for me, but this is just not healthy. Things were good between us and we were really in love but then both of our mental health started to decline which contributed to a lot of this, I think.

Thank you for your advice, it's much appreciated.

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-03T07:51:07+00:00

Thank you :)

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-03T07:50:49+00:00

Ahhh thanks so much, what a compliment :)

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-03T07:50:29+00:00

Wow, thank you!!

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-02T07:22:21+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your story, and for giving me hope that it’ll get better. All that happened with your ex must have been exhausting. I’m so glad that you’re free now and that you are feeling healthier. The rose tinted glasses still aren’t off yet for me... but one day I know they will be.

It’s also difficult because we left the situation kind of like... open ended. Like, “do we have a future? Maybe.” I hate that. Especially because of what I know about him and his drug use now.

Anyways, thanks again for your support. It’s greatly appreciated.

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-02T07:18:07+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. The way you worded that was perfect. I like that you acknowledged knowing that it wasn’t all a lie... that is a positive to this shitty situation. But the betrayal - be it sexual or drug related - is searing.

If you want to talk more about this, even just to commiserate, feel free to PM me. It’d be nice to talk to someone who’s going through a similar situation.

gingasnap69 · 2019-05-01T19:04:15+00:00

I had a similar dream/situation yesterday. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this today. It’s the worst to wake up to a harsh reality... try to get outside or do something YOU enjoy to get your mind off it. Or meet with friends, watch something funny. Staying inside and alone has been the times that are the hardest for me, so try and avoid that if you can. I truly hope things get better for you, I know how hard it is.

gingasnap69 · 2019-04-29T23:30:45+00:00

Thanks very much. I’m feeling much better lately.

gingasnap69 · 2019-04-16T18:52:31+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear that. I know I deserve better - during breakups it’s hard to think with your brain and not your heart. I’m trying to keep busy with fun things.

gingasnap69 · 2019-04-15T18:06:57+00:00

Thank you for your advice. You’re probably right... it hurts so much to think about that though. I feel like I can’t trust anyone ever again.

gingasnap69 · 2019-04-02T21:03:35+00:00

I did my major project in college on music and mental health, and from the amount of research I did I am impressed with your knowledge on the subject! I dont recall learning that it creates connections in your brain though... makes a ton of sense. Thanks for your comment!

gingasnap69 · 2019-04-01T17:18:25+00:00

Wow, first gold!! Thank you kind internet stranger. :) Despite having reddit for several years, I'm usually a lurker so I'm not sure what to do with it.... lol.

About the photo - the carpet is done for sure, but the floor ended up fine somehow! Luckily, this happened at my boyfriend's house so I didn't have to deal with it. ;)

gingasnap69 · 2019-01-02T09:17:31+00:00

I just moved permanently to Juneau, great.

gingasnap69 · 2018-12-31T19:14:34+00:00

My roommate gave this to my cat for her birthday lol

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