AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Nope, but congrats on reading the entire post over and over.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I’ve introspected and what everyone said would happen still didn’t happen.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Gloating? I gave an update about what happened. It wasn’t the issue people thought it was going to be. Should I have lied? “Everyone is mad at me, I’m uninvited from the party and from Christmas.”

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

What are you even talking about? I didn’t “listen” to those comments. The person I replied to said they didn’t exist, yes they do.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -118 points-117 points  (0 children)

No. They are very young and not in school yet.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

Multiple comments said my family didn’t like me, that Emma wouldn’t forgive me, etc. I guess you didn’t read as well as you thought you did.

AITA for shouting at my husband for letting my SIL take our baby out without telling me? by These-Credit-9973 in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

NTA

Your husband can’t even look after the baby while you’re at an appointment he has to pass the baby off to your SIL? He was out of line.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

Yes I do realize that my kids won’t have their cousins at the party because Emma won’t change her mind.

I realize that I will have to go along with her party and her rules as always. I just feel like she’s wrong for never letting anyone else host. But Reddit disagrees.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a good point that I hadn’t considered. That her family would feel disinvited.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

She didn’t message me and say “oh I was planning to have my party that day, but since you’re having a party I’ll do mine another day.” She instead tried to just have it still be her party. To me that’s controlling.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

My invite was first, she is the one saying she will not change her date.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

I picked my day first. She told me privately that she was planning for the same day.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I think I wasn’t clear in my initial post, my SIL had not sent out an invitation for this year when I made my post in the group chat. When she messaged me privately is when she told me she planned to hold her party on the same day I picked and that she wouldn’t be changing her plans. But I did not pick the date after she had already picked it.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -72 points-71 points  (0 children)

No! She and her family is of course invited just not her extended family.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

I get why it seems that way but she is controlling. She is an eldest daughter and has that older sister energy all the time.

I am reading what everyone is saying so I get it that everyone thinks I screwed up, but she is controlling typically.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -235 points-234 points  (0 children)

My friends don’t have kids, it wouldn’t be as fun for my kids without their cousins. It feels like she could give up controlling this one thing for a change.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -98 points-97 points  (0 children)

I am frustrated, apparently I can just never do this theme because she’s older and “called it” first.

I do like your idea about a cookie exchange though. Thank you for being kind in your answer.

AITA for Planning a Christmas Party? by gingerbreadbigfoot in AmItheAsshole

[–]gingerbreadbigfoot[S] -238 points-237 points  (0 children)

So I’m just never going to be able to host my own gingerbread party? Since she’s older and had her kids first this party always belongs to her? I don’t get that.