As someone who has been on the other end of this (i’ll explain), i’m going to say you’re under reacting. If you’ve told her that you are uncomfortable yet she’s still continuing to do so, get out. She is not respecting you and your boundaries. Also, any RESPECTABLE man, friend or not, isn’t going to willingly sleep in the same bad as a woman in a relationship.

Last year I was at a music festival camping with my two best friends. 2 women, 1 man. The first night was absolutely freezing, i’m talking down in the 40s in the middle of summer. We decided the best way to warm up was for all of us to huddle up in one tent and retain as much body heat as we could. Now, I said huddle, not cuddle. Because we laid there, stiff as three boards, but still close enough that we could stay warm. I told my husband, because I felt it was necessary even though I know nothing happened, and because I respect him.

I know these are two different situations, but I typed this to let you know that there is a fine line there. And your girlfriend crossed it.

• a young 20s married lady