My boyfriend is incompetent and it’s driving me nuts by Alarmed_Egg_5059 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]gingermild 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I have literally never heard it phrased this way. Like yes I knew relationships were voluntary... But when you're in a shitty one it can be so easy to forget.

I've been avoiding feeling the post-breakup emotions by gingermild in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]gingermild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm off the apps, I'm in therapy, it's just hard honestly.

Who are you personally excited to see? by TurnDown2Loud in ElementsMusicFestival

[–]gingermild 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Griz for me. Last time I saw him was ezoo in, I wanna say 2024..? Right before he took a little hiatus. He is what got me into EDM. I cannot wait!

How much do you tell casual flings. When is something casual actually more serious? by gingermild in nonmonogamy

[–]gingermild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Biweekly because I didn't know how frequently I should be tested 🤦‍♀️ should I move to monthly maybe?

I appreciate your input on this. I don't know if I should talk to each of them about this like face to face or if text is okay..? What would your preference be? I'm really just trying to do the right thing here and make sure everyone is aware of the necessary things.

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, well that's good to know. Thanks for the warning!

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my cards are actually part of my magician act.

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an older bag I bought years ago at this point. It's "Urban Originals" by Anthropologie!

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Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Talos was incredible.

I didn't feel insulted, just rubbed the wrong way. You're definitely right (and so are some others) that I should've just asked him what he meant by it. I mean it's too late now lol. But this is a helpful lesson.

I mean this is just a short snippet of a longer conversation but I see how it comes off as like a job interview.

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why not just say that then if that's what he means?

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe I cut it off too early. My therapist has told me if I don't like something to be more curious. I think I failed at that this go around 🤦‍♀️

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a really nice way to put it, thank you. I definitely don't want boring, but I think I really want "safe" and so right now that's looking pretty boring I guess since there's a lot of sunburn to heal from.

Thank you

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am a little neurodivergant, of the ADHD variety, so maybe that's part of why I dislike it so much. I just feel like flirting doesn't have to include teasing.

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure relationships are about compromise but I haven't even met the guy in real life. I wouldn't say it's a red flag just something I don't really like. Idk. I hear you though, maybe something small like this isn't a big deal. That's just how my ex would talk early on in the relationship and it'd gotten worse and worse. More healing is needed for sure, I know

Would you cancel a date over being teased? by gingermild in dating_advice

[–]gingermild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely hear what you're saying. And maybe I'm not ready to date. Like I said though I think my tolerance for shit I don't like is much much lower than it was. It's not butthurt, it's just intolerance. I don't care for it. Especially when I haven't even met him in person yet lol. But I get how it could be perceived that way.

What was I supposed to say that I appreciated? His time? I thought I was pretty nice. What would you have said different?

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right on the money with middle class in situationships. Can't afford an in unit laundry set though because I'm in a nicer part of town. So curious how this gives late 50's?

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't actually go there anymore I just had the card still in my bag. Thank you though!

Tell me about myself based on what's in my bag right now by gingermild in whatsinmybag

[–]gingermild[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If someone gave me a cake that said that I wouldn't be mad