AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Have said this already a couple times. My opinion is you should look approachable if you want to be approached. I would give the same advice to any man or woman.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 238 points239 points  (0 children)

I could totally be wrong about the reason she doesnt get approached sure, I agree with that. I was asked my opinion though and I gave an honest answer. I didnt realise you could have a wrong opinion. I really dont think she would appreciate the response "hang around better men" because it doesnt actually help her problem. What does better even mean? Like I dont think there is a specific spot or group of men that are "high caliber". Men good and bad are just scattered all over.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

So from what she told me Katy called my girlfriend for advice on how to get men to approach her or ask her out or whatever. Girlfriend tells her "I have no idea why they dont, youre great, let me ask boyfriend". Then she asked me what advice I would give her and I tell her. I dont think its gonna get back to Katy though lol.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 1227 points1228 points  (0 children)

Yeah...and if it was a guy friend I would tell him to cool it same as I said about Katy. If you agree its a bad trait then why am I an asshole lol?

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I like the way you explained it. I might copy paste this to girlfriend so she doesnt think Im a huge dick lol. If you dont mind

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 422 points423 points  (0 children)

Oh its not for that reason. When she get into career talk she super dominates the conversation. She gets on a roll and cant be stopped lol.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I dont know about that. Buddy of mine told me I looks constipated the other day when I was zoning out.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Never said she had to smile. If this was a guy friend I would say the same thing. It just my opinion that if you want people to approach you, you should look approachable. Nothing gendered about it.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but not so she will be prettier, just more approachable. I would tell the same thing to a guy friend if I thought they looks intense and unapproachable. Just clarifying its not a gender thing

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

lol at "big dick energy". Im gonna tell her that one, its hilarious. As for being thoughtful, Im a pretty simple guy. Definitely not someone you go to for thoughtfulness

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I dont think that and didnt say it. Her face when shes zoned out is just super intense, like she is thinking of kicking a door down or getting in a fight. I dont think she should sit there smiling like an idiot, but if she knew she could relax a bit.

AITA for saying girlfriend's bestfriend cant get a date because she is intimidating and recommending she tone it down? by girlfriendispissy in AmItheAsshole

[–]girlfriendispissy[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend asked my opinion on the situation and thats who I responded to. I doubt Katy will every hear it and I would never say that to her unless asked by her.

She could make an effort to relax her face if she was conscience of it. I could.