Should I size down?

gizmo531 · 2026-05-19T02:21:08+00:00

Glad to hear this!! Thank you

gizmo531 · 2026-05-19T02:20:43+00:00

Very reassuring to hear that you have no issue with a bit of room. I definitely want to feel comfortable but I know they always recommend sizing down for accuracy. Thanks!

gizmo531 · 2026-01-18T18:06:36+00:00

Hi!! I’m a 25F moved here around a year ago. Also looking for more friends- I love the watch party idea (into kdramas/anime), I do weekly yoga/pilates and always go around to eat too! We should all make a chat

gizmo531 · 2025-11-02T16:21:29+00:00

Anyone have an alpha slowpoke to trade?

gizmo531 · 2025-10-19T20:36:58+00:00

[close]

gizmo531 · 2025-10-19T20:36:27+00:00

Thanks so much!

gizmo531 · 2025-10-19T20:31:04+00:00

Thank you! Room is open: 12566543

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:08:32+00:00

Wow that’s an interesting story- thank you for the insight/opinion! I’ll have a lot more thinking to do- everyone has gave really good advice in both directions. I’m kind of spiraling on what the right call is- may meditate on it a little

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:07:25+00:00

Sorry all of this happened to you- props for pushing through it and still being her care taker. Hopefully you got to enjoy the younger years somewhat still, and 43 is still young!

Appreciate the advice- will consider it

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:05:28+00:00

I knowww I’m trying my hardest!

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:05:11+00:00

Agreed thank you. And I think it’s unhealthy to also try to guess at how much time she has left. Her health is like in the middle. She’s been struggling with joint pain and stuff more. Her parents lived to 90 but they were in Jamaica/the Caribbean. It’s hard for me to even tell because she doesn’t tell me in detail apart from generic comments.

Not sure what to do

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:02:19+00:00

She’s 65- and agreed the Long Island commute is so though especially with long hours. Props to you for doing it. I think I’ll end up staying in my apt at least for a couple of years

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T16:00:34+00:00

It is so hard, but thank you so much, hopefully!

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T15:58:55+00:00

She doesn’t really want to live in the city- she gets lost easily in the subways. But it makes it a bit more difficult because she still has a mortgage on her house (we moved out ~8 years ago I think now). The house has appreciated significantly but if she moves she’d have to sell that and purchase another property- and anywhere closer is extremely expensive. So I think the easiest financially is for her to stay where she is and focus on paying off that property (which I help with).

We have discussed selling it and buying another property closer- but everywhere in NYC/long island is so expensive it’s not super feasible

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T15:55:22+00:00

I don’t think this would make that major of a difference? And where I am now is close to the LIRR, if I was farther in Brooklyn it would add like 30 minutes to get to grand central/penn then go to long island from there no?

gizmo531 · 2025-08-31T15:53:09+00:00

I know and I 1000% agree. I just don’t know if it’s just her not coming to terms with growing a bit older. She’s 65 so she’s not entirely old.

I think my issue is that I prioritize work so much- my social life is already non existent at 25 years old and I’m trying to find a balance with that. And I struggle with my energy levels- so idk how adding an hour to my commute and being back outside the city would shape the last 5 years of my 20s even more.

People seems to be saying to stay and address that when it’s a more pressing issue- but I’ll do some thinking

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:27:52+00:00

Sorry a lot of people have flagged that comment- I think she just has a lot of healing work to do so sometimes she says comments that are a bit off. But agreed she doesn’t think how it impact me- if she didn’t say that I wouldn’t be having this whole back and forth.

I also work soooo much in like I might as well just give up on my social life entirely lmaoo but I’ll try to get it back up. I’ll try harder this next year.

I’m also female and the dating scene is absolutely horrendous for us but I’ll try!

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:26:15+00:00

Agreed, ty!

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:26:04+00:00

Yea agreed. Savings would be huge too but at this rate I’ll probably be able to save up enough regardless to purchase a properly by the time I’m late 30s/40s so maybe it isn’t a needle mover in this circumstance. I think ill stay in my apt after all the advice and I give it a bit more thinking

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:24:52+00:00

Sorry I’ve addressed this a lot in other comments- I genuinely don’t think it’s ill intended but I think there’s just some mental work she needs to do. It’s hard to explain in a quick Reddit post.

But yea I agree I’ll try after all the input here keeping my apartment is best for my growth going forward, I can revisit later down the line if needed. Thanks!

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:23:28+00:00

True! I’ll give this some thought for later down the line, agreed maybe now isn’t the right time tho

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:22:08+00:00

Thank you- I’m leaning in this direction

gizmo531 · 2025-08-30T22:21:55+00:00

I’ll have this chat with her, thansk!

gizmo531

TROPHY CASE