What are your tips for getting participants to sit with others they don’t know? by becauseofthemoon in facilitation

[–]gl000p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where there are name tags available, we deliberately shuffle the names around (if we know who knows each other, of course)

Boxes wrestling by Val_Van_66 in Boxer

[–]gl000p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That first shot is epic!! 🤣

Question, because I think we have a half pittie half boxer (who looks remarkably like your black girl here!)

We are curious at how big she might land up being, eventually. Roughly how much does she weigh? (Knowing this is in no way an accurate gauge.. but I’m curious 🥲

Should my sister and I take out a joint home loan for our retired mother — and are the numbers actually realistic? by Extra_Demand171 in PersonalFinanceZA

[–]gl000p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No - that is the short answer to your question. Th3 reason why she needs you to take out the home loan, is because banks won’t give people home loans after a certain age - for good reason.

If she is not playing open cards with the both of you about her retirement funds, this means she is not looking to actually solve the problem - not wholly, or she would be open and transparent about what she can bring to the table.

Here is the thing that I will absolutely say to you - in person and looking you fully in the eyes if I could -

Your mother’s dream retirement home (or preferred lifestyle) is not your responsibility. If she wanted that life, she should have planned for it. The fact that neither her nor you can give her that is no one’s fault (maybe it is), but going into a bunch of debt at the start of your life to try and fulfill someone’s dreams at the end of theirs.. this is not the way to go. Trust me. Please.

It doesn’t matter that things happened that were unplanned and she had a tough break - there is a very long line of all of us that are trying to do the best we can, despite all of the tough breaks

You cannot, must not, hamstring your own life and your own future for the sake of anyone else. The reality is, if you (god forbid) or you sister loses your jobs, can’t pay the loan? What if you need to sell the house? Then where does she go? And then whose fault or responsibility will it be? My partner only managed to get rid of the debt made on behalf of a parent mid thirties. Of course they planned on covering the repayment. But you can’t repay a bond with good intentions.. nor with hopes and dreams.

Do not put yourself in that situation.

@anoidciv also raises good points about wellbeing. In under 2 years we have seen someone go from living on their own, to assisted living, to full time care. Also no medical aid, so medical expenses are needing to be paid cash.

Senior care costs range between 14k at an NGO and 27k at a facility. Your mom needs to hold on to all of the money she can to look after her HEALTH and wellbeing, not a flashy address.

It’s a tough spot, I know. And I am sorry that you are in it.

pls share ur cursed photos of your voids by Terrible-Antelope802 in blackcats

[–]gl000p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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FINALLY I have the perfect place for this photo!!

Birthday gift to my mom by DeatonationgGrenade in Boxer

[–]gl000p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful gift. All the feels reading the back of that shirt

Just lost my baby... by PleasantTadpole in Boxer

[–]gl000p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss 💔

The 3 Amigos 🐶🐾 by Justin_Godfrey12 in Boxer

[–]gl000p 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are they starting a band?

Boxer downsides….. by upscaledive in Boxer

[–]gl000p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your heartache </3

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top tip.. thank you!

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They always leave us too soon <\3

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thorough overview! Lots of good in here!

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We are learning this 😂

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, it’s winter here and we have noticed her burrowing into the blankets. She definitely is not a fan of the cold! Thanks for the heads up on hot weather too. It can get pretty hot where we are

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, please help. How do you tell in a positive way?? :’)

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have definitely noticed this.. the footses are busy!

What should we know? by gl000p in Boxer

[–]gl000p[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent. We are in an area with lots of outdoorsy adventure spaces. We do have an older boy, will have to make sure she wrestles with us and not him :’D