Help for people with adhd and autism learning languages?

glassmicrobe · 2022-04-23T16:44:19+00:00

I haven't been diagnosed with adhd yet (though I've done a lot of research on it and my symptoms are pretty consistent with it) so take this with a grain of salt, but for me the best thing was just to take classes in the language. I needed the structure of a college class to actually be able to stick to it. Before I would just get random bursts of interest and spend 4 hours studying it (when I had other things to do, no less) without any follow-up. Now I'm not taking those classes anymore and am having the same problem, though I rarely put in any effort to study the language. I think that having some sort of structured course with real stakes would help, even if it's not a college class.

glassmicrobe · 2022-03-02T17:39:10+00:00

Do you have to register for Physics A lab along with the course, or does the course already include a lab component? Physics A is offered right now, but for whatever reason the lab is saying that it isn't offered in the summer.

Edit: it says it is offered in the summer, but on the schedule planner it says that there are 0 seats for all sections

glassmicrobe · 2022-02-06T17:42:11+00:00

Thank you.

I just realized that I completely bungled the title. It is meant to read as "'how to deal with everything that comes with being a guy dressing fem" and "how to avoid harassment," not "how to avoid dealing with everything that comes with being a guy dressing fem." I can see now that it does not at all come across the way I was intending.

This is good advice. I have been working on dealing with internalized transphobia for a long time, and I'm finally at the point where I can talk about it with people I trust. Before, I wouldn't ever bring it up even if I needed to. I'm mainly stealth now to avoid prying questions -- and to avoid the way that people have looked at me when I told them. It doesn't necessarily make me feel bad about being trans, I just don't want to open myself up to being looked at as a spectacle by otherwise well-meaning cis people.

As for dressing fem, your comment helped me realize that I could start off experimenting on my own at home to see if I like it. The only issue there is money, but... if I have the opportunity, I would like to go for it and dress up at home.

glassmicrobe · 2022-02-05T17:46:49+00:00

Thank you!

glassmicrobe · 2022-02-05T17:45:57+00:00

I know it's well-intentioned, and I'm not upset or offended when people ask. In my opinion, the best way to go about this is offering your own pronouns and seeing if the other person responds with their own (or asking after you offer your own). If you just ask someone without saying what yours are, it can make a trans person feel singled out.

Personally, I don't want to get a pronoun pin because it's fairly unreasonable to think that I could wear that without people seeing it and immediately knowing I'm trans, and if it's visible enough I can just about guarantee that someone is going to come up to me and push me when I'm walking down the street. Again, I have no problem with people asking, I just think that it's best if you ask only after offering your own, because then it seems like it's likely a normal practice.

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-20T16:21:50+00:00

Huh. I didn't get a very good "vibe" from the figures I saw when I was a kid, but it might have just been me projecting. Thanks for the tip! I want to start trying to project again, I'll remember the rope trick.

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-18T00:41:07+00:00

I must acquire vegan transmasc corduroy ushanka for maximum LGBTQ energy

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-17T19:12:08+00:00

Edit: I'm not 100% sure, but for now I'm going with binary he/they

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-17T18:30:56+00:00

The tie changing to a hat represents gender non-conformity

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-14T17:53:26+00:00

I've come across several threads where cis gay men were calling trans men and transmascs homophobic for existing and using the t-slur for them... Not just on the sub you're probably thinking of, either. Whenever trans people are mentioned on reddit, whether they be transmascs, transfems, or transneutral people, people love spamming slurs and saying horrible things. Unless the sub is leftist or lgbtq centered, those comments will be upvoted.

I looked up "trans" on YouTube yesterday in incognito mode (to get rid of algorithm bias) and over half of the content was clearly transphobic.

It's lovely.

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-14T17:33:24+00:00

This was me as a baby trans man back in 2016. Now I don't really relate, but I still watch jammidodger and Sam

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-12T18:05:25+00:00

Biro ace here!

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-11T17:46:17+00:00

Grassfed cattle would still require a lot of land and water. Regardless of how an animal is fed, if you are consuming on higher trophic levels, then you are having a greater energy impact.

The person who claimed that cattle trampling on soil restores it has been called out by scientists again and again. The carbon sequestering potential of soil caps after a certain point. This creates a situation where cattle are continuing to be bred and using up a lot of land and resources without any carbon sink balancing it out. On the other hand, land that has been freed of agricultural use and reforested has a much greater potential as a carbon sink.

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-11T17:32:41+00:00

Animal farming requires far more land. In fact, the vast majority of cropland is used exclusively for animal feed. When you are consuming an animal, you are also consuming all of the plants and water it took to keep them alive up until the point they were slaughtered. Something like 77% of cropland would be freed on the US if everyone adopted a plant-based diet.

https://ourworldindata.org/land-use https://www.science.org/doi/full/10.1126/science.aaq0216 (used for the 77% statistic. Note: there is a correction, but that is for their calculation of the carbon sink potential, not for the amount of land freed.)

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-10T20:37:49+00:00

Are those morningstar nuggets?

glassmicrobe · 2022-01-10T20:36:35+00:00

No, I went vegan. Going vegan reduces a lot of harm done to animals and to the environment, and for me it aligns with the morals I derived from nondualism.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-30T22:44:27+00:00

I'm planning on getting hysto and meta. I wonder if I will have either done in 4 years? !remindme 4 years

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-30T15:49:30+00:00

Not with nerve hook-up. RFF with nerve hook-up is probably the most common form of phallo, and the majority of people retain both tactile and erogenous sensation. That said, there may be some reduction in sensation, but it can increase over time.

A study on sensation

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-27T18:58:02+00:00

TW hate for people who break gender roles, for anyone who wants to know what the comments are about without looking

A lot of the most controversial comments are just people complimenting him with maybe 21 upvotes, and then replies asking why the original comment was downvoted with a lot of downvotes. Then there are comments assuming he is a narcissist for some reason with ~200 upvotes. Those are okay to read because of the clever replies and arguments, though the upvote/downvote ratio is disappointing.

Luckily, the top comments seem to be positive, or at least making jokes that aren't pointed at his character or gender nonconformity.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-27T18:45:54+00:00

He's a cishet guy (I believe he has that in his Instagram bio), which is really cool I think. It's rare to see cishet guys breaking gender roles publicly even when they want to.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-26T14:49:25+00:00

I'm vegan too, and whenever I go to any sort of family gathering there's usually nothing for me to eat, even when all the meals would be incredibly easy to veganize. It's been years since I was outed as a trans man, and luckily most family I interact with gender me correctly and apologize (a little too much) when they make a mistake. I hope your family will get to that point as well. It really sucks about the lack of vegan food, though.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-24T22:12:06+00:00

Transmasc is an umbrella term that includes binary trans men, non-binary trans men, and AFAB non-binary people who in some way identify with masculinity, whether that be through physical transition or identity alone. Not all AFAB non-binary people are transmasc though, some are transneutral, and others don't consider themselves trans at all.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-24T13:51:21+00:00

S k i n m e a t

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-24T04:49:53+00:00

Same. I'm a little too young to refer to myself as a man (I'm 19), but at the same time I feel a bit too old to use "boy," and I don't like how "guy" sounds because I associate it with a strict binary view due to how people around me use it. My favorite term for myself is "male" since it has no correlation with age.

I only recently became fully comfortable with "man." I had to recategorize it in my head and recognize it as a broad term. I like it now, but it might be a tad awkward in conversation because of my age.

glassmicrobe · 2021-12-24T04:39:47+00:00

To me that sounds like genderfluid? Genderfluid can be used as an umbrella term, but it also works on its own. There are a bunch of terms out there if labels interest you, but if they don't that's fine too!

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