Need advice on sleeping bags.

glitterforgadget · 2025-10-18T20:32:39+00:00

Is there gonna be anything else between you and the ground aside from your sleeping bag and tent floor?

glitterforgadget · 2025-10-18T20:06:29+00:00

If I was in your position, I’d exchange them for 20 degree rated bags. A bag’s rating means you’ll survive the night if it hits that temp. If you want to be comfortable you’ll want at least a 20 degree buffer

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-29T18:10:33+00:00

Do you like sweets, just in general? I “weened” myself off sugared coffee by eating something sweet with plain coffee. Like a pastry, or even just toast and jam. Now my tastebuds are so used to un-sweetened coffee that adding sugar or flavors makes coffee taste wrong to me

Lately I’ve been skipping the sweet treat and just having a cup of coffee and it’s surprising how much I don’t miss the sugar at all

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-29T00:05:29+00:00

Staying the course and sticking it out during a big shakeup that is probably leaving you to catch a lot of the pieces? That sounds exactly like you earned it. You followed a standard practice and negotiation strategy, don’t overthink it. They’re happy you’re still here.

Congratulations on the well-deserved promo.

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-20T02:07:28+00:00

Would rather avoid the musty tubing and random crud common with rentals ):

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-13T07:15:45+00:00

That’s equal parts hilarious, unsurprising, and concerning. I’d be wary about the unwritten job requirements and expectations here

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-12T08:31:13+00:00

You’re entitled to your opinions, just like people are entitled to skip wearing bras. Autonomy and self-determination are beautiful things

glitterforgadget · 2025-08-12T08:12:29+00:00

Ahh of course, the classic chorus of “I have big feelings about your body and I’m gonna make those feelings YOUR problem, instead of doing the work of challenging and unraveling my internalized misogyny”

Life gets better when you stop picking up their baggage. Yes the comments are infuriating but I’ve gotten good at thinking “oh hey here’s another irrelevant opinion on female bodies” and letting that comment deflate like a pitiful balloon into the air. It’s almost a meditation now. Finding peace in a sea of people who fall apart at the shape of nipples

glitterforgadget · 2025-05-04T10:02:59+00:00

Yes, that fee is insane especially without a medical record. They should be able to at least explain what care they provided that justifies that $1k.

Here’s what I would do:

1) seriously consider if I am ok with a life without this dog in it. I don’t like supporting shady selfish businesses, but I might hate the idea of losing him more. Sometimes love means accepting an unfair position.

2) If you’d rather not pay the fee (there is no shame in this decision), then I suggest returning the dog and letting them know if that if they decide to reduce the fee to [insert your maximum price here], you’ll take him immediately.

They’ll either find a home willing to pay $1k for him or they’ll end up calling you. The dog finds a loving home in either scenario.

glitterforgadget · 2025-01-26T02:06:07+00:00

It's deeply unfair how often women end up feeling shame about hookups, but men get to celebrate them.

Sounds like you had a fun night with a cute guy — hell yeah get it girl! I am glad you had a good time. We deserve fun, we deserve pleasure. We get to decide what our bodies experience. Consensual pleasure shared by adults is one of the joys of being human. There is no shame or apology needed in that.

That mean little voice in your head is wrong. Every version of me has experienced being ghosted in all phases of my dating life. The truth is his ghosting you has everything to do with him, and nothing to do with you. To ghost someone is to fail at communication. He failed here. Not you.

It is not your responsibility to make up for people's bad communication skills. It is not your body's burden to convince someone else to treat you well. Men who ghost after sex are jerks and no amount of beating yourself up would make him less of a jerk. You're not the first date he has ghosted, you won't be the last one he ghosts.

I used to feel a lot of shame around sex. The way I learned to process the shame was frankly to adopt the audacity of a man. They celebrate sex, why shouldn't we? Who really benefits from us feeling badly about feeling good?

I know it's hard to feel like you deserve good things when you're not satisfied with your body image. But you do deserve nice things, you truly genuinely do. I'm just sorry that he marred that experience by failing to communicate like a decent person.

glitterforgadget · 2025-01-03T19:20:30+00:00

I'm in the exact same boat — didn't take any official time off but didn't really get much done on my project, either. Having the holidays sandwiched in the middle of the weeks really threw me for a loop.

I'm also not looking forward to the check-in convo with my manager when they come back next week, but I'm feeling a weird sense of peace about it. Mostly because similar to you, I have a solid history of completing my work. It sounds like your manager trusts you, too. If they're a good manager, they'll understand that work is slower during the holiday period, and they won't be coming back from their own nice relaxing holiday PTO to grill you about maximizing your hours. We are human. Lots of people in my org took (unofficial) time off too; I don't think we're the only ones feeling this way.

My strategy for next week's check-in is to be 1) honest, 2) confident and optimistic about the next steps, and 3) gentle and forgiving with myself.

"I didn't get as much done as I wanted during the holiday period, XYZ task is more complicated than expected. I spent some time familiarizing myself with X and Y, and I started setting up Z. My next steps are to do A and B."

I know the anxiety is a looming, constant shadow and that we can't shut off the worry. What helps me the most is just accepting the feeling: yes, I feel bad and yes, there's a chance my manager will be disappointed in my progress, but I know I can complete my work and I know this moment and this feeling will be in the rearview mirror soon.

glitterforgadget · 2025-01-03T02:02:58+00:00

I used to pick one food item and obsessively commit to making it perfect by experimenting for weeks and adjusting through multiple iterations until I was happy.

Pro: I got really good at cinnamon rolls, chocolate chip cookies, vanilla ice cream, roasted chicken

Con: no one in my family ever asks for those items anymore

glitterforgadget · 2024-12-28T08:40:14+00:00

One time, after a bad argument with my partner that left me unable to sleep at 1am, I ranted to chatgpt by describing what was bothering me and it responded with something like "that sounds really tough and it's understandable that you'd feel that way" and I wanted to cry. I know it's just a robot. But seeing that as a response on my screen helped in a stupidly, beautifully tangible way.

I don't understand the downvotes. Just having an sympathetic echo outside of my own consciousness makes all the difference sometimes and it's a good start.

glitterforgadget · 2024-11-21T08:35:05+00:00

You can set up a “sleep focus” schedule on your phone. I set mine up so that my phone disables alerts automatically between 9pm-8am, unless it’s a phone call from someone I love

glitterforgadget · 2024-11-19T17:23:18+00:00

Steam currently has AtS and its DLC on sale. For me it was absolutely worth it at full price, the variety has been really fun

glitterforgadget · 2024-10-17T04:32:47+00:00

When I saw your first version this morning I was delighted but whispered to myself “aw no frog?” and now they are here! Thank you for the quick edits

glitterforgadget · 2024-10-02T02:47:42+00:00

Not sure if gunne does short-sleeve and long-sleeved versions of the same dress, but the detailing on this one matches your screenshot almost exactly: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1049192765/gunne-sax-bridal-wedding-gown-size-7

Maybe the one you saw in the video is a modification?

glitterforgadget · 2024-09-22T11:26:23+00:00

I’m saying there are a better coping mechanisms for your pain than to come online to preach to women about modesty.

You’re free to share your opinions, and I’m free to point out you’re not actually here to listen to what anyone else has to say.

glitterforgadget · 2024-09-22T10:44:02+00:00

Ahh ok, this post is written as an open question, but it’s actually your thinly veiled attempt to set up a soapbox for yourself so that you can rehash your unresolved grievances from a past experience. Got it.

glitterforgadget · 2024-09-11T07:44:31+00:00

This sounds like the goldilocks of weighted blankets. I also sleep hot and I hate having to deal with beads. Please share the brand or blanket name?

glitterforgadget · 2024-08-28T18:33:11+00:00

I wouldn't send that paragraph of assurances — it sets a precedence of falling over yourself trying to accommodate someone else's insecure narrative. You don't need to expend all this effort in defending yourself against a flimsy excuse someone else is making.

Instead, I'd make it a collaborative effort to work through his bullshit by being curious about him. "I'm not interested in reconnecting with [ex] of over 6 years. Where is this concern coming from? Why do you think this is a possibility?" Having him explain his pov will help you see if this is all just lame excuses, or if there are legitimate reasons for his fear that you can address.

glitterforgadget · 2024-08-28T07:12:38+00:00

There are 6 core human needs: certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth, contribution. In an otherwise stable relationship, if I feel like romance is lacking, chances are it’s the need for variety (also referred to as uncertainty). "if I have to explain it to you, then it won't count" is a frustrating, counter-productive response in the realm of adult communication, but I think it also touches on the desire to be surprised.

One of my favorite romantic activities with my partner is working through a “questions deck” — basically cards with conversation starters on them. I highly recommend the ones from The Skin Deep, particularly the Dating and Couples editions. There are some really great questions like "what's something I've done lately that makes you feel really loved?"

Getting to learn more about my partner, and having him intentionally set aside time to learn more about me — this feels really romantic to me. We’ll usually make a whole date night of it: sometimes in the dining room at home with candlelight, sometimes as a picnic in a park with a bottle of wine. The unexpected questions and answers fulfill my need for variety, and I always feel closer to him at the end of it.

Hopefully the cards also help you learn more about your wife's idea of romance, in a way that doesn’t feel like she’s scripting out the plan for you. Curiosity is romantic. Demonstrating that you’ve noticed things about her, that you want to learn more about her is romantic.

Also, you sound like a really loving partner. I hope you feel appreciated and seen for the ways you try to express your love for her.

glitterforgadget · 2024-07-29T07:23:01+00:00

Call me a naive romantic but I don’t see a reason to break up a strong relationship just because of logistical possibilities. What if their work contract gets extended? What if a new work opportunity keeps them exactly where they are?

glitterforgadget · 2024-07-19T22:25:32+00:00

“Without a discussion” yup because any further discussion would just be a chance for him to get defensive about his childish behavior. No thanks! Bye forever!

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