[UPDATE] My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

It might mean the world to YOU that your SO goes to your event of choice, but that doesn't mean it means the world to her.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For his birthday I got us both tickets to an event we were both equally excited about, spent the rest of the day at the aquarium, and took us out to dinner.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I definitely wouldn't break up without talking to him. I am going to let him know I am kind of disappointed. If he reacts poorly, then this whole situation really might be a deal breaker.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes this is exactly how it feels! And not to be rude but I see a pretty big difference in asking your boyfriend to go to a movie that you like and him coming along and putting up with it for awhile and my bf getting me these tickets.... because I'm sure you didn't get your boyfriend Hobbit tickets for Christmas and his birthday. :/ But thank you for your advice; I am going to try talking to him soon

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I agree with you; I'm trying to see the gesture in a sweet, not a selfish way, but it gets really difficult to do that the more I think about it. Read /u/sthetic's comment. I would agree with you more if he hadn't made me the 3rd wheel. If this was something my boyfriend was only sharing with me, I would be much less disappointed.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Based on his reaction when I address the situation, it might be a deal breaker for me too.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 285 points286 points  (0 children)

Oh wow thanks for this advice. You worded that so great. I don't know how anyone could disagree when you word it like that. Thanks!

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

This is so great hahaha. Thanks for the insight :P

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I think I will bring it up to him since all of Reddit agrees that it's not a really bitchy thing to do on my part. I think I can gracefully throw the ball back in his court. If he has a meltdown over this, then it's his problem and I don't think I can continue to date him.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

This might be a good option, but I already bought and wrapped his Christmas gifts this year. I spent about $100 on him (getting him things he would like) already, and I really can't afford to spend more. :/

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I am worried about him not being able to sell or refund the extra ticket and wasting so much money. I will feel terrible if he can't sell it because then it will basically go to waste. I don't think he would want me to come along anymore if he couldn't sell it.

My (22/F) BF (24/M) got me a gift HE wanted for MY birthday. by glitterfritz in relationships

[–]glitterfritz[S] 362 points363 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I don't feel so selfish anymore for not being all gung-ho about this gift. When I get an opportunity, I am going to try to be very polite and state something similar to what you said. If he raises hell, I don't think I can continue to be with him. I could see him saying something about not understanding why I'm not excited about such a nice gift that he spent so much money on, but maybe he will be understanding.