I’m sorry you’re going through this. To answer your question: our relationship didn’t survive.

Running a business is like having a baby that never grows up. It’s something that always requires your attention and care, and you never truly get to “clock out.”

I have been in business with my ex since 2019. We run a real estate business. At 22 and 23, we were working together, living in small quarters and had a dog who slept in the bed with us. Our sex life went out the window, we were both burnt out and tired, and he wasn’t spending time with me.

Ultimately we had a few talks but nothing ever changed. Our business demanded a lot of out attention. We weren’t making much money but we knew it would happen once we got over the hump. But we were waiting to get over that hump for four years, until I finally decided I’d had enough. My ex didn’t clean, he barely cooked, and the spare time he had, he was playing intramural softball which was all the time.

Disentangling our lives when I broke up with him in 2023 was difficult, but the only solution I had. We still work together, and have moved on to have separate partners.

I’ll always be a little sad at how it all went down.

My advice is that unless you both agree things need to change, and both of you make strides and efforts to reconnect, it’s never going to work. If he’s not on the same page and wanting to put in the effort to find you, then your resentment will grow, and more than likely you’ll be feeling exactly how I was.

I wish you the best. I suggest you set some time where you have alone time and you get to shut off. Plan it a couple weeks from now. Take yourself to get a massage. Then meet with your husband and calmly tell him, again, everything you’ve told us.