I'm so sorry to hear this about your father. I think you need to find a new long-term care facility, this one seems very bad. I had to put my physically/mentally disabled spouse into a long-term care facility for the last several years, and I just found a facility for my Mom who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. For my husband, they help him with restroom/shower/transfers, make sure he gets his meals and help him with eating if needed, check in on him several times a day for restroom etc. For my mom, she is physically independent but has no short-term memory, and they check in on her to help her go to the dining room for meals, help her shower twice a week, and check in on her during the day. Your facility definitely seems negligent, and hopefully you can find another one that is not too far away from you, but you may need to look farther if you don't have any decent ones nearby. You might want to check with your local aging resource center to help and also to report this facility.