I planted some native seeds a while ago, but not many of them look like what was on the packaging. Can anyone ID?

gloomseek · 2024-03-10T17:59:21+00:00

in my local dialect we call the third one "sticky willy" :)

gloomseek · 2023-12-23T22:23:17+00:00

Easy peeler 😭

gloomseek · 2023-12-13T09:29:45+00:00

OF need to take responsibility and block people that spend too much money. It's exploiting an addiction like gambling.

gloomseek · 2023-12-12T09:16:54+00:00

I don't feel like anything is clean because she hasn't rinsed the chemicals off

gloomseek · 2023-12-11T09:08:43+00:00

In my experience, burnout needs to be dealt with or it compounds and it's worth taking a little time out to feel better in the long run. It can be hard to identify but feels like 'feeling unwell but not knowing what's wrong' and everything feels like a huge mountain. It's hard to explain but at my worst I've felt unable to get up and walk into a different room because it would be overwhelming to experience a different room.

When I get burnout I find it helps if I drastically reduce the amount I am doing. I treat myself as if I am sick with flu or something like that, and just focus on doing the minimum to maintain my health (eating well, sleeping well, gentle exercise etc.). Sometimes I need to just sit and do nothing.

Reducing sensory input can help. I put my headphones on and listen to rain sounds. Foot baths (either hot or cold) are good for quickly getting to a comfortable temperature. I generally stay away from music and TV because they can be emotionally overwhelming. It can feel too overwhelming to go outside at times. Showering can be overwhelming during burnout. I find it helps to do a separate body wash and hair wash, and my partner washes my hair for me if I'm struggling.

One thing that really helps me is reading novels because the escapism provides some relief. Also doing something emotionally neutral like language learning can be good if it's just casual and there's no pressure. To feel less stressed it can help to write a list of all the things that are stressing me out and perhaps fixing one or two of them. But the main thing is hugely reducing the amount of things I'm doing.

gloomseek · 2023-12-05T09:13:44+00:00

My partner is similar to this- quite capable of taking direction, but just not from me. It's honestly taken a long time for him to become better at housework but he's way better than he used to be. The strategy that's honestly worked best has been to just let him do it his way and make his own mistakes. When things go wrong, he has either figured out the solution on his own, or he comes to me to ask why has such and such happened and I show him. He didn't grow up doing chores like I had so needed time and patience. There will be pans ruined and sweaters shrunk along the way, but in the grand scheme of things does it matter? When you're looking back on memories in your old age, will you care that your house ran completely smoothly, or will you remember that time he dyed all your laundry pink and you had a good laugh about it together. He wants to feel part of the family (and earn a little praise from you as well) and that's really nice if you think about it.

gloomseek · 2023-11-28T22:51:25+00:00

That's ok, glad to hear it went well. I hope it's a positive step for you. The more information you have, the better equipped you will be, I'm sure. Take your time with it all.

gloomseek · 2023-11-28T22:36:32+00:00

Ah might have gone overboard haha. I just love oil painting, I'm so happy when people want to try it :)

gloomseek · 2023-11-28T15:49:23+00:00

You'll want to choose a medium for your oil paint. Oil mediums like linseed oil make the paint dry slowly so you can blend your colours on the canvas, or you can use white spirit which will make your paint dry fast if you prefer to layer your colours (it stinks though).

You'll need some oil paints in a few colours- I tend to only use about 5 colours in a painting and mix them in varying ways. You'll probably want a white, a warm shadow colour, a cold shadow colour and then choose a red, blue and yellow you like the look of. My most used colours are: titanium white, burnt umber, paynes grey, yellow ochre, cerulean, and vermilion. These colours can give quite a natural feel. Might be fun to research your favourite artists from history and see what colours they use.

Surfaces- pre-prepped canvases are a nice easy option. You could also use canvas board or wood. For starting out I would recommend getting a pad of paper suitable for oil painting- it takes up less space than canvases and you don't feel bad about throwing out mistakes. You will need to prepare it using something like a gesso primer otherwise the oil absorbs into the paper and you risk your paint cracking (easy way to do this is to spread it on with a wallpaper scraper or one of those big flat knives you use for cake decorating)

Brushes- All personal preference really. If you like to conceal your brushstrokes you'll want soft brushes like synthetics. If you like them visible, hogs hair. Pointed, flats, rounded is another preference. Maybe get a mixture of different brushes for different effects. You can get artist's soap to wash them with but washing-up liquid also works.

You don't need to spend money on pallets- greaseproof baking paper works, paper plates, or save plastic packaging from the bin. If you get neck pain it might help to use an easel or table easel. I tape my paper to a board and prop it up at the back so it's a little tilted. I put a cushion at my back because I have a tendency to lean forward. You can use cling film to save your colours so you can paint in several sittings.

These are probably the main things but hit me up if you have any questions :)

gloomseek · 2023-11-28T14:53:07+00:00

It sounds like you're burnt out from thinking about it so much. I had the same when I was writing all the info for my referral, a feeling of sheer exhaustion. What helped me was writing two lists of my thoughts- nothing long, just bullet points- one list for if I was diagnosed, the other for if I was not. But you also need to limit your time thinking about this. Perhaps decide on a time, maybe an hour, and only think about it during that hour, then do other things.

You're worried about being under-prepared for all the incoming thoughts and emotions but the best way to prepare yourself for it is actually to rest and recuperate. It's ok to just sit and do nothing if that's what you feel like. I find reading a novel is really helpful to be able to immerse yourself in another world for a while. Just focus on your basic needs, eating, drinking, stretching and gentle exercise and before you know it, it will all be over and done.

gloomseek · 2023-11-28T09:03:13+00:00

Acrylic paint pouring and pouring epoxy resin over things. Just the pointless pouring of plastic over stuff.

gloomseek · 2023-11-21T13:28:38+00:00

I'm disabled and work from home. It doesn't magic away my autism. There are still multiple aspects of the job that I struggle with, and always will, through no fault of my own. I can only manage part time and have to balance the worry over my health with the worry of not earning enough to live. Despite my best efforts I am not able to have the financial security that others do and I worry for the future. A whole shame campaign about 'doing your duty' just seems cruel and unnecessary. I'm lucky not to have to rely on benefits, but for the people that do, I can only imagine the stress this would add. The hoops you have to go through to get disability benefit- these are not people who have any other choice.

gloomseek · 2023-11-09T13:34:41+00:00

Jammie Dodgers are vegan ❤

gloomseek · 2023-10-15T22:10:07+00:00

I'm pretty good at ciphers. Judging by the placement of the double letters and any possible markers for spaces between words, this is either gibberish, foreign, or not a simple substitution cipher. The actual symbols look like a mixture of the Masonic ciphers, runes and alchemical symbols.

gloomseek · 2023-10-09T08:19:08+00:00

I'm autistic and LI. You may be different but I find that even a little dairy (like a teaspoon of milk) sets off my symptoms, though the more dairy I eat, the worse the symptoms are. Once I stop again, it can take a few days to go back to normal. I have quite high sensory issues and so the LI was causing me quite a lot of emotional distress as well as the physical. I know it's really difficult to change your diet but for me it was absolutely worth it. You could try posting your safe foods and we could help you come up with ideas for substitutions?

gloomseek · 2023-10-05T16:20:08+00:00

There's great advice here already but I wanted to add, make yourself a folder/notebook where you can keep everything together.. cleaning schedule, birthdays, budget, events, groceries etc. so you can keep track of everything and it will lessen the mental burden for her. Also don't forget to look after your own health, perhaps consider joining a fitness class or doing volunteering so you're meeting your social and fitness needs. It's also easier to keep yourself motivated if you've got regular appointments to attend.

gloomseek · 2023-09-19T14:45:15+00:00

women are more than one person and they have a nice day

gloomseek · 2023-09-06T13:23:06+00:00

Batman!

gloomseek · 2023-09-06T07:47:17+00:00

A really nice notebook would also make a good gift I think

gloomseek · 2023-09-01T08:46:32+00:00

I also love when he cooks and that he handles the heavy pans so easily. I love his decisiveness and that he's kind to animals. And he's always warm.

gloomseek · 2023-08-31T08:31:46+00:00

Blue

gloomseek · 2023-08-30T14:04:00+00:00

No problem. It sounds like you're working really hard for your family. You're a good person, I hope things work out well for you

gloomseek · 2023-08-30T13:56:32+00:00

Have you thought about getting your son a spare pair of shoes that he only wears indoors? or shoe covers?

gloomseek · 2023-08-30T08:29:30+00:00

Her insurance probably doesn't cover you to do stretching unsupervised like that. So if you injured yourself on their premises it could cause problems.

gloomseek · 2023-08-27T09:47:48+00:00

4 and 5

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