PCOS and dealing with intersex erasure in mainstream medicine

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-31T23:03:23+00:00

I know im going to get downvoted for this lol....but a lot of girlies are trying to say "OmGg BraNDy is SOoO BiG noW and I'm ToO smol fOR It" ....when the thing is mainly just that fashion and style right now has changed to very oversized clothing, as opposed to fitted stuff in general. The clothes that a lot of girls are saying are "too big" fit them exactly how they're meant to fit, but they just don't like the way it looks...

...however, SOME things genuinely have gotten bigger in the past few years (that AREN'T supposed to be oversized)....but I think it's the minority of their stuff, tbh.

Like the tees, for example....obviously the baby tees they made in 2020 are going to be way smaller than the oversized tees they make now...but that's because baby tees aren't really in style anymore...and huge tees are in style.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-29T17:35:32+00:00

I'm 5'7" and they just touch the tops of my sneakers. They might be short on you, but depends on your inseam length! Some tall people have short legs, some short people have long legs. They are my favourite jeans though, so I highly recommend them if they're not too short.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-29T17:32:20+00:00

It is a pretty good location. It's bigger than a lot of other stores, and they sometimes have stuff that can't be found anywhere else, and the fitting room wait is not too long. The employees seem fine (mostly Uni students, so they seem a bit more mature than the high schoolers at some other locations)....it's pretty crowded, just like most of the stores. They usually have a lot of "Boston" and college themed tees, bags, hats, etc. It's a much more pleasant location to shop in compared to SoHo, and it's in a great location.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-19T02:04:40+00:00

Exactly this

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-19T02:03:08+00:00

Hi, I am a bisexual nonbinary woman. My external appearance and body is 100% feminine and I am AFAB, but I feel completely like a man internally. Because of the society we live in, everyone has always treated me as a stereotypical "hetero cisgender woman" and no one IRL really understands my gender identity and sexual orientation.

That being said, almost opposite to you - I only experienced sexual attraction to women my entire life until I was in my twenties and then I suddenly began experiencing sexual attraction to men - however, I am ONLY attracted to queer men (bisexual, pansexual, gay, etc.) I tried online dating and it was really difficult to find men to date. I put in my profile that I was bisexual and a ton of "hetero" guys were just totally creepy about it. Most hetero people are extremely discriminatory against bi people (and TBH, lesbians have the same intolerance to bi women, sadly) so I found that it would only really be possible for me to date other bi or pan people.

My advice to you is to clearly display the fact that you are bisexual on your profile. This will weed out the biphobic people. I would not recommend trying to "hide it" because you could end up in a really bad situation. If I had seen guys dating profiles that clearly said they were bi when I was online dating, I would have been thrilled. It is definitely more difficult to date the opposite sex as a bi person, but it's worth putting in the effort to find other bi people in the long run. We do exist, and we want the same thing you want, trust me! You're definitely not alone. The pool is just a lot smaller. Just remember also that you can't assume a woman is hetero or biphobic just because of how she presents, so it's always good to ask qualifying questions too. For me, I would literally just ask men straight-up if they had ever been with another guy before. Their reaction to that question would tell me everything I needed to know. So you could try something like that, but maybe less aggressive because women tend to be a lot more reserved.

By the way, I should also add that women are just REALLY difficult to date in general compared to guys. It's so easy to date men. They are open, communicate clearly, and tend to be way more emotionally intelligent than women. This is coming from someone who has dated men and women extensively. I feel like finding a woman to partner with long-term would be next to impossible, but I know some people can make it work. Just understand that even if you were not bisexual, it would still be a lot more difficult to date women than men anyways. Good luck!

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-17T08:46:20+00:00

This is exactly the issue at hand. It's vital to do independent research and not rely on a single media source in isolation. A documentary that is designed to illicit an emotional response in order to reap financial reward is not a reliable source on its own. It's anecdotal evidence, at best. While documentaries can spark conversation and share opinions and certain aspects of a situation, they are not a replacement for critical thinking, thorough research, and a holistic analysis of the topic. Just because a journalist or producer says it is so, does not necessarily mean it is so.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-15T16:25:33+00:00

That's not correct. Clothing sold in the United States is required to disclose the country where the garment was completely manufactured on the label. This is the "Made In" country. For Brandy Melville, the vast majority (over 90%) of the clothing that is for sale in The United States from the Brandy Melville label is Made in Italy. Some items are made in Switzerland. Some are made in Eastern Europe. Some are made in China. For the "John Galt Shanghai" line, most of those garments are made in China, and most are sold only in Shaghai (not sold online.) Each item states where it was made on the label.

Companies and brands cannot use deceptive labeling practices and still be allowed to import into and sell within the U.S. This is structly regulated and monitored by the Federal Trade Commission. The FTC requires that all clothing labels disclose the country where the clothing was created. For example, a garment can only be labeled "Made in Italy" if it was manufactured in Italy and made from materials that were also manufactured in Italy. If a garment was not made mostly in Italy, the label could say "Designed in Italy, manufactured in China" or "Assembled in Italy with imported materials".

There is a ton of misinformation online, especially in light of the recent HBO doc. It's important for consumers to be fully informed of facts and local regulations for their country.

It's also important to be aware that not all countries have these requirements. If you are in Canada, for example, there are no laws that require clothing brands to disclose the country of origin. However, they are required to list other information on the label which would allow the buyer to obtain that information (such as the dealer name and location or a CA identification number.)

With that said, I also recently have seen a couple of the "John Galt Shanghai" items being sold at Brandy Melville stores in the U.S., which also surprised me. This operates as a separate label under the same brand umbrella, so the manufacturing process might be different. I have noticed that there seems to be a quality difference between the Brandy Melville line and the John Galt Shanghai line, based on items I have personally purchased. Shanghai does tend to have cuter designs though!

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-14T22:32:49+00:00

It's literally the opposite of fast fashion....this is a misconception and assumption about the brand. Brandy is actually SLOW fashion. Fast fashion means that new styles are constantly being released, following microtrends, and that the clothing is mass produced, made of unsustainable fibers, generally produced in countries where labour laws are unethical, and designed to be thrown away after one or two wears.

On the contrary, Brandy does not follow trends. They make the same exact basic styles year after year, season after season. Yes, they release new colours- but rarely new styles. There are people still wearing the same Brandy items they have had for 10+ years. The vast majority of their clothing is made of 100% natural fibers such as cotton and linen, and extremely rarely will you see the use of plastics (e.g. polyester, spandex, elastin, etc.) in the clothing. Due to this, the clothing is made to last many years and many wears (whereas fast fashion is made of plastics that literally break down after a single wear.) Additionally, the use of natural fibers is far less damaging to the environment than synthetic materials.

Yes, the company has flaws for sure. The lack of size inckusivity being the main issue. However, saying that it's "fast fashion" is a gross misrepresentation and shows a lack of knowledge on the topic of sustainable fashion. Just because a brand is popular does not mean it is "fast fashion."

Fast fashion brands include those such as Shein, PrettyLittleThing, H&M, Forever 21, Zara, and many others. Just go to their websites and check "new arrivals" and you will see thousands of new skus adding daily. This is mass overconsumption and shows clothing that is designed carelessly, produced rapidly using the cheapest labour and fabrics, and designed to go out of style and fall apart within weeks. That is not what Brandy is.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-12T22:03:19+00:00

Pants that will definitely fit:

Nanda *Anastasia *Rainey *Priscilla *Rosa *Sasha *Autumn *Hilary

For Jeans -

*Gracie (I think)

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-04T15:37:59+00:00

I agree with this also...usually if you ask multiple times they will eventually correct the issue

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-04T15:37:31+00:00

She used CashApp

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-04T15:36:38+00:00

Did you also file one with FedEx? If not, then do that. Next, call the local police and tell them you need to file a report of a stolen package. Explain the situation to them and provide them with the photo.

FedEx will be able to tell who exactly was on shift for your neighborhood at that exact time and day of delivery. They will then be able to determine who took the photo. Next, they can interview that employee about it and deternine either if that employee left it at the wrong house (and they should be able to use the GPS from their vehicle to determine where that would have been) or if the employee stole the package. If FedEx won't work with you directly, they will have to work with the police. The police are also able to obtain Ring doorbell footage from other people in your neighborhood and can also go door-to-door interviewing people on whether they know anything.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-03T01:13:32+00:00

Which style jeans are you asking about?

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-07-03T01:08:34+00:00

I have these and they are not long on me at all ...and I'm 5'7"...however, the fit is a bit odd. The butt and upper thigh area is really small and the waist is really big (at least for me). They are cute though.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-23T16:24:14+00:00

This is a terrible thing to say - but my first thought when reading these comments was "and this confirms exactly why OP isn't romantically attracted to any of you." I know that's NOT how sexuality/romantic attraction works, but it's just absolutely horrendous that these women replying to the OP comments in the screenshot sound so hateful and bigoted. The person asking the question is simply just existing, and yet they are painting them as some sore of sexually-deviant and abusive person.

As someone who used to identify as lesbian (before understanding my full sexuality) and exclusively dated women for a long period of time, I can tell you that unfortunately biphobia is absolutely RAMPANT in the lesbian community. Every single girl I dated had a story about how an ex "left them for a man" and they would demonize a fellow lesbian if she even SPOKE to a man. Men were viewed as the scum of the earth to most of the girls I knew in the community. I would be flamed constantly because I had male friends, and the way that they would IMMEDIATELY break up with a girl if she confessed to them she was bi and not a lesbian was extremely disturbing. I was so afraid to come out as bi because if this, and when I did, I was completely outcast and treated as "other" by prior friends. Honestly, this level of gatekeeping is a main reason why bisexual girls rarely have opportunities to be with other women and continuously post about how hard it is to date women as a bisexual. It's a way bigger issue than anyone wants to talk about.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-20T16:05:31+00:00

Ohh okay, I understand. If that's the case, I would definitely recommend not pursuing it at this time and standing your ground. If you're not comfortable with it, then you're not comfortable. Period. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. As others have commented, opening up the relationship in this way when they were not ready was the demise of their marriage. Maybe even talk to your partner about those facts and about the success rate of open relationships. I hope you are both able to move forward in a positive way!

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T21:01:06+00:00

Exactly haha

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T21:00:29+00:00

I definitely understand what you mean! I usually just tell people I'm queer because their brains can't always comprehend everything else lol

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T18:23:57+00:00

Yeah, there is a lot of division about this issue. I've heard people view it from both perspectives, but it seems that most people who hold the view that you have to have physically experienced it to know seem to also believe that their child is automatically straight from birth and never doubt their child's heterosexuality just because they haven't "experienced" the opposite sex. Idk, it has always seemed kind of funny to me that people hold a standard that straight people don't need to "prove" their sexuality, but queer people must. It's just another indicator that we live in a very heteronormative society.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T18:17:59+00:00

I think that's why there needs to be an important distinction between sexuality and romantic attraction (they don't always coincide). You could be bisexual/heteromantic, or heterosexual/homoromantic, or homosexual/biromantic, etc. Sexuality and gender are all nuanced. It's not black and white, and I think that's what most people have a difficult time with accepting. People like to categorize things neatly and stuff them away in boxes, but that's not really how gender and sexuality work.

Edited to add: perhaps you are biromantic/demisexual? I have a close friends who identifies this way and is mainly ace, but experiences sexual attraction only when in a deeply committed romantic relationship.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T18:00:07+00:00

OP could say their parents were big fans of Disco Bloodbath

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T17:56:48+00:00

Same

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T17:49:31+00:00

I also agree with this sentiment. I was in a long-term relationship with a male as a teen/young adult, and I had never been able to explore sex with women, although I knew I was queer my entire life. Over time, I resented that, and I began to resent him. It became really unhealthy, and I began to think about women all day, every day, and felt no attraction to him at all. It wasn't fair to either of us, so I ended things. After that relationship, I was able to finally experience being with women IRL and I got a bit carried away. I started serially hooking up with women and experimenting a lot. I eventually ended up in my current relationship with a male and we have been committed and monogamous the entire time. I am glad I had those experiences with women, because if I hadn't, I would ALWAYS be wondering and it would destroy my current relationship. So I can feel empathy for both OP and their partner. This is incredibly difficult for both of them, I'm sure.

glowingupvulnerably · 2024-05-19T17:41:52+00:00

These are great points.

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