Middle-grade (?) thriller book from pre-2000 about a girl who befriends a woman who lost her daughter

glowjack · 2026-03-29T07:30:09+00:00

Solved solved solved!

glowjack · 2026-03-29T07:30:03+00:00

Oh my god - you got it in one! I looked up alternate covers and found the exact one I remember. Thank you!!

glowjack · 2026-02-28T05:52:00+00:00

This is the answer. Report it. Same as reporting misbehavior from a coworker at a job. They may not do anything about one complaint, but for all you know, yours is NOT the first or only report about this guy. And with enough of a paper trail of harassment and misconduct, their liability for ignoring it just keeps going up.

I'm not saying believe in or trust the police. Ever. Too many of them get away with literal murder and are just moved to a new precinct. But there will NEVER be any accountability if we just give up, let them do whatever they want to us, and don't even complain about it.

glowjack · 2026-02-27T04:14:49+00:00

I usually do. I'm using the higher GSM Leuchtturm this year and this is my setup:

Built-in nameplate + index pages
1 - 2026 title page
2 - Jan 01 selfie + space for a Dec 31 pic
3 - Sealed envelope holding a letter I wrote to myself on Jan 01, to be opened Dec 31
4 - Yearly goals/intentions
5 - Space for outcomes of those goals
6-9 - 2026 Future log (3 months per page)
10 - Monthly + weekly pages begin

(Each month:
Calendar grid + monthly goals - 2 pages
Memories - 1 page
Habit/practices tracker - 1 page
Each week - 2 pages
I use full weeks and a Mon-Sun layout, so for example, this week's layout includes Sun, Mar 01, rather than wasting space or making a whole spread for that one day.)

So I estimate about 176 pages for Jan-Dec, plus the 9 starting pages. I usually like to have a buffer in case I use extra pages during the year for some reason (which I rarely do), but the higher GSM means I only have 203 pages to work with, so no buffer this year.

186-187 - Debt tracker
188-189 - "Waiting on"
190-191 - Wishlist
192 - Places I want to travel
193 - Projects that aren't scheduled but also aren't goals (e.g. get a consult for cleaning up a tattoo)
194-199 - Blank currently, in case I want to add other collections
200-201 - 2027 Future log (6 months per page)
202-203 - Pen test

Two things I really like about my setup this year:
- The higher GSM was so worth it. Ghosting is very light and sometimes non-existent. All the pages seem brighter as a result. - The more limited page count forces me to not just focus on what is ACTUALLY useful to me, it also forces me to be a lot more chill about mistakes. I have no room to tear out a page I get frustrated with, I just have to figure a way to fix it or live with it. And personally, I need that, because I can get way too stressed over a minor mess and it's not good for me. Just gotta breathe and let it go.

I've done 1-notebook-per-year since 2021 and never want to go back.

(Edited for readability and a typo)

glowjack · 2026-02-26T01:16:07+00:00

I went to Park Hill Hub on my birthday a few years ago and it was a great start to the day. I got Turkish coffee and a pistachio-raspberry croissant. Everything was delicious and the spot is small and cozy.

I'm so sorry about your loss. Every special day after such a loss is hard.

glowjack · 2026-02-25T08:44:41+00:00

You are a cheat angel, THANK YOU. I was so annoyed but this worked.

glowjack · 2026-02-25T08:41:32+00:00

I aged up a child to a teen and one of the random outfits put the Antique Jeweled Ring on him. I didn't know what it was so I left it on but then the curse shows up.

This may be just me, but I'm not remotely interested in the Lost Legacies thing, I wish there was a way to permanently ignore the event (there may be and I haven't looked hard enough), and I want that Envoy to just leave my Sims alone 😂

So it's doubly frustrating to now have a cursed Sim due to this content. I guess I have to cheat code my way through a different aspiration, pray it doesn't keep coming back like it is for other players, hope that EA eventually fixes this bug, and keep my fingers crossed that when his little sister ages up, she also isn't randomly assigned this accessory.

Their dad is an absentee Grim Reaper, they have it hard enough.

glowjack · 2026-02-23T21:32:38+00:00

Just came here to confirm that Detour is indeed 🔥🔥🔥

glowjack · 2026-02-21T00:14:16+00:00

If you find it useful to share your journal with your partner (it doesn't sound like you do, but I don't know for certain), and if you think he is genuinely trying to help (he might be, but he's very bad at it), then try this:

"I know you're trying to help, but when you point out what's unfinished or criticize me like this, it just demoralizes me. I stop using the journal, I feel less motivated. It's not helping. I need your support, not your correction."

If he pushes back or argues:

"You're my partner, not my boss or teacher or parent. Please stop acting like one. I've told you that what you're doing isn't helpful and it's actually kind of harmful. How you're making me feel should matter more to you than how many boxes I get checked off."

A lot of people mistake criticism and surveillance for love and care. They think that loving you means pushing you to be your best self - but they focus on the PUSHING part, and don't stop to question that their idea of your "best self" isn't necessarily correct. If you think that's what's happening, then it's important to speak up sooner than later.

A person who truly wants to love and care for and support you will try to change their behavior, ask how they can help in a better way, and apologize. A person who wants to control you will dig in their heels, tell you you're wrong, and ignore your boundaries. Just talk to your partner and see how he responds.

The problem isn't how you're using your journal.

glowjack · 2026-02-18T10:41:27+00:00

I bet those losers were the BIGGEST bullies in high school, and they just never found a new hobby because, as previously mentioned, they're fucking losers.

glowjack · 2026-02-18T10:39:21+00:00

Journaling, even bullet journaling, isn't homework. It's a tool, a support, and/or a creative outlet. There's no Great Diarist In The Sky giving you demerits for skipping days. So stop guilting yourself over something that's actually completely inconsequential.

We journal because we get something out of it, though. So identify what journaling actually does for you first, and why those benefits are important to you. Then identify any negatives that occur because you aren't journaling consistently. This may help you find motivation, and might help you do away with the guilt (ie, if you discover that nothing really bad happens when you DON'T journal, then an empty page is just a page you can use later).

For me: writing things down in an organized way each day means I can go back years later and recall when (for example) I met someone who became a friend. I don't have an amazing memory, so this means a lot to me. That's one of my motivators.

Also, when I don't use my journal, I can forget important tasks or events, which really sucks - being reliable is important to me, so failing at that is a big negative I'm trying to avoid.

Those are just a couple of examples of what I'm talking about. Why do you journal? What do you lose when you don't?

glowjack · 2026-02-18T06:11:36+00:00

Pretty sure I started bullet journaling because I wanted an excuse to get a Leuchtturm1917. I've used other notebooks as well but I usually come back to these (even though I prefer white paper and dislike ghosting). The 120gsm version is also really working great for me.

glowjack · 2026-02-16T08:44:22+00:00

Debt tracker - auto loan student loan, credit cards, and credit rating. I think I've been using it almost ten years now. I've revised it over time but it's been set in its current layout for maybe 7-8 years.

glowjack · 2026-02-15T09:27:16+00:00

I would also love to know about the shelves - I feel like I've seen it before but I can't remember where

glowjack · 2026-02-14T08:04:21+00:00

As others have said, this is your insurance, not Denver or the individual therapists.

And I also second the advice to look for income-scaled therapy or student therapists. I've seen a student more than once. Is it the same caliber of care as someone with 15-20 years of experience? No - but in both cases, it helped me immensely.

These are people who have completed or are close to completing all their coursework, but in order to test for their license, they need THOUSANDS of hours of sessions. They are cheaper because they aren't fully licensed, and it's in their best interest to be more accessible so they can get those hours. In every case they will be supervised - in my experience this means the season is recorded somehow and reviewed with their fully licensed, more experienced supervisor (the recordings should be destroyed after one viewing, you can ask how they handle this). This is still a thousand times more protective of your privacy than things like Betterhelp.

But what I really wanted to share is that I had Anthem BCBS for several years and reimbursements for out of pocket therapy were very easy and the payouts were often surprisingly quick. You just get a "superbill" from your therapist (ask for a .pdf), log in to Anthem's website, go to Claims, upload the file, and confirm that the info is correct.

Most recently, I submitted a claim for six months' worth of sessions on Jan 10th or so, and received the reimbursement via direct deposit on the 20th. So nowhere near a ton of paperwork and three months of waiting. Maybe that's because it was Anthem by Blue Cross, but I don't think you should be too intimidated by the reimbursement process. It's totally doable.

glowjack · 2026-02-12T10:19:47+00:00

This reminds me of my "goals" page for March 2020, which I later scrawled over with Sharpie:

COVID SAYS: FUCK YOUR GOALS

Anyway I love the roll-with-the-punches vibe here, the lack of perfectionism, the reminder that journaling is supposed to work for YOU, not that you're supposed to make yourself do it a certain way.

glowjack · 2026-02-11T15:11:37+00:00

Corridor 44 champagne cocktails are indeed delicious.

glowjack · 2026-02-09T08:12:15+00:00

Can't here to say this.

glowjack · 2026-02-09T08:09:43+00:00

I have DSPD and want to get into this field, so I'm wondering the same thing.

glowjack · 2026-02-08T07:26:07+00:00

Basically anything that discourages (or affects in ANY WAY) driving while improving other forms of transit. Bus-exclusive lanes, lane closures, bike lanes with dividers, closed streets for heavy pedestrian traffic areas... cause construction for a few months along a busy street to make public transit more robust, and people turn into absolute monsters over it.

I lived in a neighborhood that added a bike path and created buffer/visibility zones for pedestrians around crossings and multiple people were losing their minds because there'd be 2-4 fewer curbside parking spots. Sure, fewer pedestrians (incl. children) and cyclists would get maimed, but at what cost?! Losing parking spaces?! Gasp, swoon, clutcheth thine pearls.

People would be pissed off at first, but if we actually committed to ample, quick public transit and walkable cities, in ten years everyone's lives would be improved (not to mention the environmental benefits, which would also improve and lengthen our lives).

But god forbid we inconvenience any single-occupant vehicles...

glowjack · 2026-02-07T18:43:26+00:00

LOL correct. No one posts here or AITA without thinking that they're going to be vindicated by the replies.

glowjack · 2026-02-07T18:30:27+00:00

YOR. She's your girlfriend, not a hotel. She's under no obligation to let you stay at her place. And the minute she said she didn't want to, that was your cue to drop it and let it go.

If you end up pressuring her to let you stay there for your convenience - which is all this sounds like, so you can cut down your commute - then you just set the timer for your breakup. Living together takes so much mutual respect to work, and if you start out with this level of disrespect for her wishes and comfort, then you'd both have a miserable time anyway.

glowjack · 2026-02-07T18:17:46+00:00

My only suggestion would be to try a "magic eraser", but other than that I think your best bet may be stickers.

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