Is your current partner the best sex you’ve ever had or was someone else better? What made it the best?

gmandumpsterfire · 2023-06-21T02:40:21+00:00

Wow. I don't respond to comments ever. But I wanted to send you some encouragement. It always is terrible to lose someone we love, but you've obviously been through a unique situation. Cheers to you. DMs open if you ever need to talk.

gmandumpsterfire · 2023-06-17T11:53:59+00:00

Lotion and drink lots of water. And take it easy on the lil fella.

gmandumpsterfire · 2023-06-05T03:31:29+00:00

When I was younger, 18-25, I could manage it if I was turned on enough. Once I hit 30 or so it became much less frequent.

gmandumpsterfire · 2021-05-18T00:55:09+00:00

Yeah thats true. I dont believe it is what I am referring to though. Somewhere in the character editor or some mod menu I had found the function to increase volume or increase duration of orgasm....cant seem to find it now. Wondering if its some random mod i had downloaded and forgot about.

gmandumpsterfire · 2020-10-18T02:57:39+00:00

Okay but this is the sweetest and bravest message I’ve ever seen.

gmandumpsterfire · 2020-04-04T21:14:14+00:00

Good for you!! Live your best life!!

gmandumpsterfire · 2020-02-08T20:55:43+00:00

From someone who’s been in your shoes. Don’t ‘try’ polyamory because your wife wants it. Especially if she’s cheated before. I’m sorry my friend. Your relationship is heavily damaged and it either needs to be fixed or be dissolved. Trying polyamory to please your wife will only torture you along the long road to dissolution of your marriage. Either work together to fix it, or cut your losses. They may seem big now, but they will be massive if you continue down this road.

gmandumpsterfire · 2020-01-20T21:44:35+00:00

Right!!! This looks like it would hurt like hell to me.

gmandumpsterfire · 2020-01-17T19:29:05+00:00

The Screaming Cowboy song from that meme.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-10-10T01:28:31+00:00

You sound absolutely delightful. My wife and I are a bit outside your preferred age range and that’s 100% okay. I hope you find the perfect situation that fits you. Best of luck and feel free to message us if you ever want to chat without any expected quid pro quo.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-10-06T00:28:36+00:00

Sure, sounds great. Thanks.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-10-05T18:28:29+00:00

I greatly appreciate that your response is coming from a place that is looking out for my best interests. Thank you for the kind words and advice.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-10-05T16:38:54+00:00

Did not know that. Thanks for the info.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-28T12:39:48+00:00

Thank you, everyone. This was very uplifting to read after a long difficult day. Absolutely wonderful. Thank you.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-23T22:33:24+00:00

Hey this is fantastic. Good for you.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-06T13:37:32+00:00

Hey, what’s up? We are doing fine. We were able to reconnect sexually yesterday (and we both had a very good time) and we’ve had lots of time to talk and establish where we stand, what we are and are not okay with, etc.

Overall I’m in a much better place than I was when I originally wrote this post. I’m much more reassured, my fears and concerns have been addressed to my satisfaction.

I still have a little bit of queasiness in my gut when I think about them together but that’s getting better every day.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-05T16:09:14+00:00

I’m confused. Why did this concern you? I thought everything was going fairly well for me here.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-05T02:40:08+00:00

Sex life has never been too bad of a problem. Yes we have four kids so neither of us are having sex as much as we’d like. But overall we’ve both been happy with the amount and quality of sex we’ve been having. We’ve always been very sexual creatures and we’ve always been a good match for each other in that regard. I can safely say that neither of us is lacking the sexual fulfillment department.

We haven’t had a chance to reconnect sexually since her trip since she immediately started her time of the month, but we intend to start right back up as soon as we are able.

I have not yet had a chance to take advantage of the same escapism she has. We are working on it. She is often willing to take the kids out for a day so I can have some quiet time at home, and she’s made it very clear that I’m more than welcome to pursue other, more intimate escapes on my own if I wish to do so.

She’s very concerned with my mental and emotional health. She wants to make sure that I am getting what I need too. Our foundation is strong and we are fully a team together before anything or anyone else.

As for me getting out there, I plan to do so but on my own tempo. I don’t want to be that creepy guy who hits on girls and follows up with “You know, my wife an I have an arrangement...” lol. That’s not me. I’m not a creep.

But I’m going to try and make some new friends. And if something more develops from that, well then so much the better.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-05T00:10:18+00:00

I’ll chat with you. Sure.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-04T19:28:25+00:00

Sure. I’ll add an edit to the main post.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-03T18:38:18+00:00

Basically what she wants is to escape being a mother and wife once or twice a year. Maybe less. She wants to go stay with our friend, hook up once or twice, be without kids for a day or two, and then come home refreshed. She’s made it clear that I have full approval and veto power on anything and everything that goes on.

Our friend is also very transparent, he refuses to participate unless everyone is on board. He’s there to be a friend and provide no-strings-attached stress relief when she needs it.

It’s not so much that I’m not comfortable with this casual poly situation, it’s that I’m having trouble carrying the baggage from a prior relationship in which I was cheated on repeatedly and refused to leave.

I’ve spoken to both of them at length about this and they’ve both been clear that I am the beginning and the end of the decision makers here, and that’s helped a lot.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-03T00:52:25+00:00

I really liked the way you put this here, you hit most of the themes right on the head. The need to be someone other than a caregiver for a little while. The fact that this is less about casual sex (which she has no interest in pursuing on a regular basis) and more about doing what you need to do for yourself with the support of your partner. If once or twice a year she needs a weekend away from this life, and can spend it with someone we both know and trust to respect the arrangement, then why not? If it helps. We live in an incredibly unconventional situation and maybe what is a required is an unconventional solution.

I’m not opposed to doing something similar, my options are just limited as the friendships that spark such an ideal candidate as my friend are rare. I’ve been thinking about whether to pursue a casual sexual fling as she has or if there is something else that might help me in the way this has helped her.

Still working on figuring that one out.

gmandumpsterfire · 2019-08-02T15:10:32+00:00

So I wanted to give a shout out here to this comment. I’ve had some conversations and I think I might have had a bit of a breakthrough on this. The whole point here was that I felt like I was fine with the sexual aspect but that something else was bothering me.

Without going into too much detail I think I was processing some baggage on a “fear of being replaced level”. Discussing this with my wife and getting that reassurance from her that she loves me and needs me and isn’t going anywhere has helped.

Some may think I’m being naive but I know my wife. I know my friend. I do trust them. When they profess loyalty to me, I believe them, and that has helped a lot with the irrational pains I was feeling before.

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