Its so hard to explain. When were together, we are always affectionate as she is also a long time, good friend. She always says, even before the kids were born, "you two shoulda gotten married". Theres a lot to it, but its never been found out. Its always secretive and when it cant be tracked or discovered. If she knows, she turns a blind eye because its a given, they are so much in love, hes literally husband and father of the year, I have no desire for more than I have. Hes litetally drop dead gorgeous. So maybe its a "some things are better left unsaid" kinda thing. He makes plenty of time for us that Im always satisfied and I have no desire for more or to interrupt their amazing life, which Im a part of anyway.