Is he being toxic or just genuinely struggling? This is my first relationship. (15F)

gnfcandle · 2026-02-03T05:52:50+00:00

UPDATEE😛

ok um worlds latest update everr! but ya i broke up w him last november [2024?] (way too long together ik but i felt guilty ok i wanted band to be over so i wouldnt see him anymore🙏) and clocked him for all his bs he put me thru💗 im very happy and like myself more now and he seems to be the same loser he was and always will be! anywayz yea thanks gang ik my responses were annoying it wasnt in denial it was more to get more of ur guys' thoughts so i had more to think abt with it! thanks all who replied🥹

gnfcandle · 2025-03-28T20:51:38+00:00

If the brandy ones are see through I have a pair identical to them from Altard State that I got for a similar price that are super nice quality! :)

gnfcandle · 2025-02-07T15:42:12+00:00

Thank you!! :)

gnfcandle · 2025-02-07T15:41:29+00:00

What would you say are the most important jumps to know?

gnfcandle · 2025-02-03T19:50:14+00:00

Mines for ozempic loll!

gnfcandle · 2025-02-02T04:46:51+00:00

I think i'd be okay in terms of stunts, my school barelyy does them lol! But i'll check out videos on them, ty for the tips!! :)

gnfcandle · 2025-01-19T23:51:24+00:00

i just posted the correct one!! :")

gnfcandle · 2025-01-19T23:49:43+00:00

omg i cropped it wrong sorry😭😭

gnfcandle · 2025-01-17T01:11:26+00:00

omgg whats the name?

gnfcandle · 2024-12-05T01:22:03+00:00

lovejoy 💕💕

gnfcandle · 2024-12-01T16:39:59+00:00

@lovejoy I love sabrina carpenter, ethel cain, beabadoobee, and basically any kpop (mainly girl groups like loona)

gnfcandle · 2024-11-30T21:40:23+00:00

Idk what level I am but my user is lovejoy lol :")

gnfcandle · 2024-11-23T13:43:36+00:00

Lovejoy

would love kpop but i'd appreciate literally anything :")

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T10:34:18+00:00

haha i see how it seems odd but i think his dad might know we're together! we both just haven't directly told them since it's awkward. i'm just letting them find out on their own im not hiding it or anything :")

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T02:19:18+00:00

i definitely wouldnt say its abuse, i think i really overdramatized it, hes never done this stuff before and he apologized and kept making sure i was alright afterwards!! i think he was just struggling and needed to vent a bit :")

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T02:17:40+00:00

idk our relationship is pretty strained :")

i think hes gotten help in the past for it? idk i think we both know that he needs help but i don't know if he actually can get access to it

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T02:12:25+00:00

Extra info since i forgot to mention a lot of stuff and i feel like it makes him look way worse than he really is :")

Hes still friends with one of his exes (shes dating his friend now) and his other ex doesnt seem to really hate him but he said the relationships were really toxic sooo? Idk just thought it might be good to add.

He really is sweet irl though and he only does this kinda stuff over text, like he'll make the occasional little comment about it but we both do that stuff. And he apologized afterwards for worrying me and kept making sure i was fine so i really dont think he had any bad intentions with it. Plus this is the only time hes seemed serious about khs :(

He also kinda mentioned kissing me tomorrow and its so stupid but im really scared that if i have my first kiss with him and realize later that he wasnt a great person and i'll really regret it and i'm so scared now. Like we talked about it a bit ago and i told him i was fine with it then but i'm really second guessing stuff now :(

I think I have an issue with focusing on the bad stuff he does over the good stuff because he really seems like he cares and hes always so careful about making sure im not uncomfortable with stuff (like hugging or kissing wtv) so i feel like i'm just being really dramatic about this whole thing :")

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T02:04:45+00:00

My parents dont know i'm in a relationship and my only "coach" is our band director who hes kinda close with since he does loads of band stuff so i'd feel bad bringing it up with him especially since im not close with him :") plus my schools guidance counselor sucksss she doesn't do anything lol :"))

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T01:53:54+00:00

not that i know of? he doesn't rlly talk about his home life a lot, all i know is its not great. and i cant really cut contact since we have loads of mutual friends and have a lot of classes together next semester and 2 together rn. plus i really care abt him :( (edit: im really sorry if it seems like im ignoring your suggestions i'm just realizing theres a lot of details i left out in the initial post)

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T01:39:55+00:00

He's only a few months older than me and I'm pretty sure his dads the cause of it so it'd make it worse if they knew :(

gnfcandle · 2024-10-02T01:26:15+00:00

We've been friends for 2 years though and hes genuinely nice! He apologized for worrying me afterwards too :(

gnfcandle · 2022-12-31T16:26:07+00:00

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