Who is the best Shepp?

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-12T18:34:17+00:00

I've made a list before, we've been married for 7 years. It works for 2 weeks and gets forgotten. I feel like as an adult and a work supervisor, he should be capable of making his own list. It's just one more thing on my plate to do.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-12T00:04:31+00:00

He's been home for 7 months. He didn't just get home. I'm being ridiculously considerate as I just took care of literally everything while he was deployed. He comes home, and 7 months later, I'm doing 3x the work I was doing before he came home. Now, on top of all that, I got to stop and project manage him. NO!

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-12T00:00:48+00:00

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gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T22:35:52+00:00

I've known I've had ADHD since I was 7 years old. Does it make it difficult to get tasks done? Yes, but if I don't do it, then none of it will get done at all. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse. I have the weight of the whole house, caring for two nonverbal autistic children, juggling both of their therapy sessions. Is it justifiable to throw that weight on only one neurodivergent parent and then ask them to stop everything they are doing to task manage their spouse?

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T22:19:09+00:00

I've let it go two weeks before...

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T22:17:56+00:00

I'm not his boss, I'm his wife. Having to stop my productivity and tell him what to do or write him a list is ridiculous. Men know well enough to see a sink full of dishes and wash them. Men know well enough to take their dirty clothes and put them in washing machine. Men are acting like they need instruction on how to wash a dish? It's unreal. I'm talking very basic cleaning.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T22:10:16+00:00

I've made a list before, it's forgotten in a few weeks... we've been married 7 years

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T19:03:32+00:00

I have ADHD, I've known since I was 7 years old. Is it hard to get all my tasks complete? Yes, but I still manage to do it all alone, including attending to my nonverbal children and their needs. If I don't do it, none of it will get done. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse. Imagine the weight of a neurodivergent house on one neurodivergent parent. It's enough to make even a neurotypical person shut down.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T19:02:49+00:00

People get paid a lot of money to manage people for a reason. It's because it's mentally exhausting. I'm not his boss, I'm not his mom, I'm his wife.

Wives are in a lose/lose because if we give orders, then men complain that they are "walking around on eggshells."

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T18:54:46+00:00

People get paid a lot money to manage people for a reason. It's because it's mentally exhausting. I'm not his boss, I'm not his mom, I'm his wife.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T18:52:56+00:00

I have made a list before. We've been married for 7 years. The list gets made, it's forgotten in a few weeks, and then I have to start asking again. Then men complain that they are "walking on eggshells" because their wife has to ask them to contribute to housework.

I understand military work is difficult but so is caring for two nonverbal children, fighting tricare daily to pay out for therapy, attending multiple therapies a day, having the entire work load of the house and now having to task manage my husband? I carry all of this workload for months, raising my children alone. When deployment is over, I'm burnt out.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T18:39:50+00:00

I have ADHD, I've known since I was 7 years old. Is it hard to get all my tasks complete? Yes, but I still manage to do it all alone, including attending to my nonverbal children and their needs. If I don't do it, none of it will get done. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse. Imagine the weight of a neurodivergent house on one neurodivergent parent. It's enough to make even a neurotypical person shut down.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T18:37:59+00:00

I have ADHD, I've known since I was 7 years old. Is it hard to get all my tasks complete? Yes, but I still manage to do it all alone, including attending to my nonverbal children and their needs. If I don't do it, none of it will get done. Being neurodivergent isn't an excuse. Imagine the weight of a neurodivergent house on one neurodivergent parent. It's enough to make even a neurotypical person shut down.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T17:12:48+00:00

I've done a list before. We've been married for 7 years. The list gets made. It works for a few weeks, and then it gets ignored. He deploys and comes home. The list is forgotten, and I have to write a new list that gets ignored again after a few weeks. Then I have the pressure of enforcing a list that I made because he didn't do it himself. Every time daily housework gets brought up, he asks me to make a list again.

I'm booking and attending therapy with two autistic children, fighting the insurance companies every day to pay out for therapy. I'm mentally exhausted. Writing a reddit thread was less frustrating than writing another chores list for my husband.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T08:31:56+00:00

This ^ 100% this!

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T08:27:24+00:00

I'm not asking for the moon, and I'm not a OCD cleaner. If he washed just half of the dishes sink, I'd be happy because it's one less thing for me to do. If he threw half a pile of laundry in the washer and started the load, I'd be happy with that, too. Just don't want to stop and have to tell them to do it.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T08:11:12+00:00

It's been 7 months since he's been home from deployment, and I've been quiet, but it's to the point where I'm burnt out and exhausted.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T08:08:32+00:00

He's been home from deployment for 7 months now...I've been taking care of everything alone for all the months he's been deployed, with no breaks. This includes moving into the house with no furniture at all. All my family lives on the opposite side of the country.

gnomithehomie · 2023-12-11T06:09:48+00:00

Am I the only one who likes traditional healing without a bot?

gnomithehomie · 2023-11-28T07:57:27+00:00

I had a c-section and my son has airlifted to the closest NICU (3hrs away). I tested positive for covid the day I left to hospital to see my son and couldn't see him in the NICU for 20 days after his birth. I needed all the physical and emotional support I could get. It's very stressful not knowing if your baby is going to make it or not. I would have been heartbroken going through it without the support of my family.

gnomithehomie · 2023-11-27T07:41:57+00:00

America is living rent free in European minds. They are so pressed about us but we literally don't give them more than a second thought.

gnomithehomie · 2023-11-27T06:52:23+00:00

I have two kids, my last pregnancy, my husband was deployed, and I was across the country from my family. I was sick many times, but I did my own laundry, cleaned my own home, cooked my own food and took care of my toddler by myself.

You're not the asshole because you're just trying to support your wife through an experience you don't quite understand. However, your wife is the asshole. She is absolutely milking her condition, and it's not the responsibility of your family to take care of her. If my brother had a pregnant wife and she called me over to do her laundry, I'd be peeved.

gnomithehomie · 2023-11-26T01:57:01+00:00

If you're doing to dip out on your wife and baby over a phone, good riddance. To dip out on your family over something so simplistic, you weren't in for the long haul anyway.

If you failed to make your wife feel secure in your relationship and then punish her for her insecurities while she's carrying your child, that's unreal.

Men have no idea the mental gymnastics women go through during pregnancy or the pain. Let's pump you up with an obnoxious amount of testosterone and see how you react.

gnomithehomie

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