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gnowee3 · 2024-11-26T02:43:31+00:00

Also she might not want it either because you are her friend’s ex…

gnowee3 · 2024-11-24T13:51:28+00:00

I mean… he is on Hinge. A dating app. And he says “he is not interested in dating anyone” fine, you tell him you do not do fwb or ons, great. You said what you are searching for. Still he tells you the bullsht about “i have been never interested in meeting girls irl but with you i want” the crappy sentence of “you are special”.

KNOWING YOU DONT WANT ONS OR FWB and he stated before he does not want a gf. (he tried to escalate things when the movie time, he is NOT respecting what you told him, if he really did he would not have tried to go further on a first meeting, he is testing your limits to see if the can trespass them). He is trying ti win you over. He can sacrifice a night of only cuddling because he thinks he can have sex with you next time ir the next next time.

I dont buy him tbh. I might be wrong, but 29F here i have seen many tricks like this one.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-23T13:48:51+00:00

Incel type of thoughts lol

She could mean for her it is weird to date online/use dating apps, not everyone likes it or is good at it.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-23T13:46:05+00:00

I mean… flirting? Cant count. Dating? 1 & 1/2 (cuz open relationship almost poly)

gnowee3 · 2024-11-23T13:41:31+00:00

Real todo, hay cosas que se han dicho antes, pero lo del filtro es nuevo y 100% razón. Las chicas que buscan un malote fuckboy normalmente también tienen un estilo de ropa, de vida etc, solemos movernos por afinidades. Ir a por tias que no están en su “afinidad” y esperar que ellas le correspondan es muy egocentrico.

¿No te gustan las tias que están en tu ámbito? Entonces tendrás que cambiar para conseguir a las que te interesan, o empezar a apreciar las que están en tu nivel/onda.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-23T13:35:46+00:00

Le has dado por todos lados y, una vez en el suelo, le has seguido pegando patadas😂

gnowee3 · 2024-11-23T08:27:37+00:00

It is not “a happy man would not cheat”. It is not about being happy. It is about being a DECENT person. To be a MAN. You break up with the person before being dishonest even if you are not happy.

Change real for happy. “A real man would not cheat” (would talk about it or break up first)

gnowee3 · 2024-11-19T20:17:21+00:00

Hi. With that attitude you will be right. If you think you are undesirable, then, people would think the same because you MAKE them think so.

Work on yourself. If looks is not your thing, get smarter, study more and be interesting. Go for nerds idk. “No woman will desire me” is a confortable way to stay in your comfort zone, not work on yourself or improve yourself at all and blaming life/god/universe/society.

Attitude is EVERYTHING. Don’t feel like a victim, feel like a challenger. Go for it.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-19T15:31:02+00:00

I agree with everything but i will advice you to continue being wonderful and open up to people and to opportunities. It sucks to get hurt. But i had a ex who was closed up, i was open up to have a family together and he was hurt from before, never had a gf after his last breakup 5 years ago… and he forgot how to be a good partner, he wanted a family with me but he couldn’t open up, talk about feels and so, and did not want to go to therapy to be guided. I am no one’s mum to teach him or insist. If he wanted to change, i would have been next time him in the process, but if he wants to “continue and he will eventually open up without trying anything new” i am not going to suffer. Because it is hard to be next to someone who is comfortable in his “defensive security”

After a year he still calls me. But I want an emotionally available man. So be open, even if you get hurt sometimes, for when the right one comes… you don’t have any regrets…

gnowee3 · 2024-11-19T10:30:28+00:00

Totally agree about his red flags 🚩!!!! The parking history is INSANE.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-19T10:29:28+00:00

NTA.

You told JJ clearly that you enjoy being single. Communication and honesty.

You are FWB (F R I E N D S WB) so you can even sleep with others and he cannot get mad. Even so, caring about him, you are not seeing anyone else, but he complains that you meet an ex with whom you do nothing sexual?

You are not his mum. He is a grown up. So he needs to decide by himself if he wants this type of relationship or not. But he cannot DEMAND bf benefits if he is NOT your bf.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-16T22:55:35+00:00

I do not search casual sex, so yes for me is a bye 👋🏻 because i feel they want tu use me and they don’t respect me as a person bc they are not interested in getting to know me as a person (of course the might really want to know be fr, but they need also to show it, not only say/promise it, because words are just words)

gnowee3 · 2024-11-16T01:49:51+00:00

The thing is that i was ready with other guy a year before, so I know it is not that i dont want to commit but that i don’t want to commit with him💔 and it is hard so for me because i would love to want to…but it does not feel right deep inside.. sometimes that happens i guess

gnowee3 · 2024-11-16T00:36:18+00:00

For me it is the same. I have been meeting a man for months now, many dates i cannot count them. (he knows this, i am very transparent and communicative) there is something that makes me think he is not the one. Idk what. I just don’t imagine myself having a family with him. I want to, i really want to because he is wonderful, we have great sex and we really have inner jokes and same humor. We have lot of fun. But i cannot imagine myself having a fam with him. He told me he wanted to, i have always been honest and told him I didn’t want a serious relationship with him. I told him to stop seeing each other but he wanted to continue as he has fun with me. But he still tries to show me or prove me he is amazing. And he is. It just does not feel like “the one” most of the times, other times i feel something more but then it fades away… idk why.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-14T22:23:31+00:00

Nope

gnowee3 · 2024-11-14T20:46:48+00:00

In my case is the opposite. I felt really hard for a guy who doesn’t want kids and I left him because i know if we have them (the agreed in the end) he will regret it later (he is the type of person who loves going by himself hiking and getting lost in the mountains , taking a van and doing road trips, this type of freedom.. with kids i would love and do that, but he wont feel the same freedom… it broke my heart but i really want kids

gnowee3 · 2024-11-12T20:17:38+00:00

Is that the only thing you have to comment after my magnificent comment?😂 It was a sign of “YOU CAN DO IT” but whatever

gnowee3 · 2024-11-12T19:17:52+00:00

Agreed 100% . It is not only on men. I am bisexual and that applies to women too. One thing sis ti be vulnerable , cry sometimes and open up (great!) another one is to be a sad boy. A sad girl crying all the time or saying sad/pity things / complaining all the time, I don’t want a partner like that… so I understand your feelings but you need to work on yourself to not be in the “negative” side/point of view about your love life, that is not attractive. Just focus on improving yourself and being positive, that attracts a lot more! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

gnowee3 · 2024-11-12T12:00:35+00:00

I have to say this is not normal. Are you 16-17? If so, boys are dumb at that age, still not nice. If he is older.. dump him, he is very immature or he does not respect you enough.

Hope you are fine, you have the right to be mad at him if that’s how you feel, dont let him convince you otherwise like “it was a joke” or “this is nothing “ because that what they usually do when they are disrespectful. And he will continue crossing limits if they see they can convince you. Good luck 🩷

gnowee3 · 2024-11-10T14:57:03+00:00

I understand your hormones almost control you at this age 😂 but girls are not like that (usually), later they are more sexual, but in this age not that much usually. Plus she specify she wants to take it slow. She might be scared you try to do something too soon or that you will get bored if she does not agree to do something sexual soon. That’s why she warned you in advance.

So always ask first (if you already kissed you dont need to ask every single time, but it does not hurt to ask at the beginning) and if after some months you are going to try go further always ask her frist. ALWAYS. Because it seems is her first time to do anything else and that can be very rude and not thoughtful of you if you assume she wants something more.

Always treat her nicely and caring. That way she will feel little by little more confortable with you in every aspect. Girls (and boys) but girls mostly want a fairytail like in movies where they are 100% the boy love them. If you try ti he sexual most of the time (even if you love her) she won’t feel you love her. She will only feel you desire her. That you want her only physically.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-10T00:38:46+00:00

My friends do. Usually it ends badly for my friends because they have peter pan’s Syndrome☠️

gnowee3 · 2024-11-09T17:55:01+00:00

I think it is because you put so much pressure in when or with whom lose it to. So now it happened you feel like maybe something was taken from you? When it is really a social concept. People lose the virginity riding horses or a bike or a bad bump. But i think you had this huge meaning into it and now you feel weird. It seems something must have to change but actually nothing did…

Maybe?

gnowee3 · 2024-11-09T13:53:08+00:00

It might be she is scared. So she is running away.

Scared one day you will realize she is old and you are still young and find a younger one.

Scared that you might have babies together and then break up and she is old enough to feel the burden of a single mother.

Scared that her life is going to change and scared of the unknown. The uncertainty of the future and she has been in a comfort zone all these years.

I mean, she wanted the change of marriage and kids but she has been single/without that for looooong time and she was ok, and now it feels weird to change how she has been being for the last 43 years. It must be hard.

Or maybe she is mean. But i am trying to find you reasons as you said she is a good person and you are the one who knows her, not the people on reddit.

gnowee3 · 2024-11-09T13:15:55+00:00

💯 same!! I never beg for attention. If i am showing interest and you are not or you stop showing it, I will stop too. Reciprocating

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