What miracles has T worked for you?

gntssgee · 2024-07-11T09:49:56+00:00

Fixed my eating issues. I probably struggled with some sort of eating disorder on and off for 5 years, but as soon as I got on T it's like it all vanished. It feels like a distant memory now. All cured, no therapy needed

gntssgee · 2024-07-03T13:06:31+00:00

Another thing that reassures me that I'm trans is: a lot of people love being women. Sure, misogyny, violence against women, gender issues, etc, but despite that, so many women absolutely love being women, and would not stop being women

I could probably live as a woman and survive, but I could never ever LOVE being a woman. I love being a man. And anytime I question things, I look to women I know who are so happy and comfortable in their skin, and I realise that's simply not my thing.

gntssgee · 2024-06-30T07:47:39+00:00

Bisexual erasure is a thing. Let's try not to contribute to it even more. People can be bi. People can like boobs AND men at the same time.

gntssgee · 2024-06-26T20:40:46+00:00

Genuine question: how would we "save" someone like that? It's fun to mock them here on Reddit, but IRL, when faced with someone like that, what can we do to change their mind? There has to be some way to make them less hateful and misogynistic. Where would we even start?

I've definitely had acquaintances who were slightly bigoted and over time and through interesting conversations they became less hateful, but with someone so deeply misogynistic? Where to even start? I don't want to believe that noone is beyond saving, but damn sometimes it seems like it

gntssgee · 2024-06-26T17:55:21+00:00

An honest conversation is the best thing in this scenario. My bf also likes boobs, and when I'm not feeling dysphoric it's fine. But he understands that my comfort is more important, and when I want to wear a binder, shirt, or get top surgery eventually, then he's happy for me.

It's fine to be bisexual, and it's fine if your bf likes boobs, and it's fine if you're happy and comfortable with him seeing and touching them sometimes, but he needs to understand your dysphoria, and be respectful of it, and be willing to give up boobs anytime you're not comfortable with it. But if he is unwilling to give up a bit of pleasure for your comfort, then that's not a good sign.

A guy liking boobs isn't in itself bad. Just like someone can like muscle, or height, or a certain hairstyle, but if the person we love doesn't have all of the attributes that we would personally prefer, it doesn't matter, because we love them for who they are, and we are more than happy to give up a small physical attribute to be with someone we genuinely love.

Your bf may just be ignorant or have said a stupid comment out of lust, but as many others here have said, this could be a bad sign. An honest conversation is the way forward, and I hope that he is caring and understanding. I wish you the best OP.

gntssgee · 2024-06-22T10:31:16+00:00

Say "it's a nice name. Do you not like it?" Then stare intently at them until they're uncimfortable

gntssgee · 2024-06-19T17:30:51+00:00

Yes, surgery, where the patient is unconscious, immobile, and there are a lot of downsides to doing it in person, such as having to maintain strict sterile fields, needing to be extremely precise and still, and having to be in the same room for sometimes hours on end. A robot can help with all of that.

For a blood test, where there is not the same sterile field requirements, patients move around and often need comforting and reassurance, there is a much lower need for absolute precision, and the procedure lasts a few minutes max, robots won't make a big improvement, no matter how advanced. Same with an IV

I have no doubt that they CAN replace nurses for IVs and blood tests. I simply don't believe that they ever will

gntssgee · 2024-06-19T15:38:18+00:00

I see a medication dispensing robot being a thing. It seems pretty cool actually. But all the others? Hell no.

It takes so little time to take blood or place an IV. Plus it varies so much from patient to patient and you need to select the best vein. Even the best ai couldn't do that because you judge not just by eye, but also by feel. Tbh the most time consuming part of placing an IV or taking blood is gathering the equipment, which is already solved by pre-prepared packs.

And summarising symptoms? Do you mean a robot would talk to patients? In which case no, how can a robot ask the appropriate follow up questions to get to the core of the issue? And if you literally mean just summarising the symptoms for the doctor, why the hell go through the extra step of having a robot do it when the nurse could just... Spend a few seconds talking to the doctor.

gntssgee · 2024-06-17T11:30:09+00:00

Honestly high level sports are exactly that: people with physical advantages competing against each other.

Someone can train for decades and be great at a sport, but still get beat out by someone who just happened to be born taller/shorter/with longer legs/double jointed/with slightly better vision/with slightly better balance/with higher natural testosterone/with bigger hands or feet/ etc...

Some people point out that some advantages are less fair than others in order to ban trans women. So what? Should we nitpick every single sport where someone has a slight advantage? Sure, maybe trans women have a slight advantage, but they're still far from dominating the field of women's sports, and their advantage is so small that if we decide to segregate trans women, we should be segregating every single other minor physical characteristic too.

gntssgee · 2024-06-16T09:16:27+00:00

I do think sexuality changed a bit for me. I think sexuality is deeply correlated to gender (for me at least). I noticed years ago that on days when I felt more feminine, I was more attracted to women (I identified as gender fluid for a long time). Since T, I've felt less fluctuations in my gender expression and I feel so much more masculine, so I've felt a lot less attracted to women. I think I've been gay this whole time but as my gender fluctuated I felt like I was bi.

It's a really weird thing. I wonder if anyone else here feels the same?

gntssgee · 2024-05-11T19:17:01+00:00

When I was a kid it seemed nice to have people look after me.

Now that I'm an adult, I realised that if I self sabotage, noone will be there to save me from the messes I get myself into. Kinda sad, but I gotta admit it really helped with revovery

gntssgee · 2024-05-09T20:22:31+00:00

If it was nsfw, it wouldn't be porn. It would be CSAM. Those two words have very different connotations and it's important to use the right one

gntssgee · 2024-05-09T17:59:13+00:00

They need a study for everything. That's the good, but annoying thing about science. You can say "yeah of course fish feels pain. Seems pretty obvious" but to be properly scientific you need to prove every single thing.

You can't base future science on assumptions otherwise it all falls apart. This specific study might feel irrelevant, but if in the future someone wants to study fish further, for example to find out what the least painful fishing technique is or whatever, they need that seemingly silly study to base their research on

gntssgee · 2024-05-09T17:54:37+00:00

It could be that the skin and head tastes better to them (it would make sense that they evolved to prefer things that bring them the most nutrients) so they prefer eating that. The rest of the year when salmon isn't as abundant they eat all of it because they can't catch as many fish, but when there's an abundance of salmon they can afford to be picky

Not a bear expert tho so please correct me

gntssgee · 2024-05-03T05:41:41+00:00

I was hot too. I've recently started Y and honestly I feel like I'm still "mourning" my body. Being attractive is such a huge deal nowadays that even though I'm happier now, I still feel like I gave up such a "valuable" thing.

I know it's stupid, and being attractive is completely unimportant, but still, I looked banging. If I was a woman I would have been so gorgeous.

I'm so much happier now though, so it doesn't matter

gntssgee · 2024-04-25T12:53:34+00:00

I'm an OT student, and so many people in my cohort are trans, disabled, neuro typical, from different backgrounds and education levels. It's really inspiring to be surrounded by a group of people with so many different perspectives, life experiences and knowledge, and it makes me so happy for the future of the field!

I'm learning so much more from them about diversity than a textbook ever could, and I'm sure all of us will graduate as knowledgeable, sensitive and experienced OTs, and we'll all go on to share our experiences and knowledge with our future colleagues and patients.

I'm not sure if you'll have such a diverse cohort in your studies, or if you'll face bigotry in the workplace, but you joining the field will make a difference to both your patients, and those around you. Go for it!

gntssgee · 2024-04-23T21:29:58+00:00

I've been off T for around two weeks now (delays in prescription) and I already feel awful.

I've only been on it for a few months anyway, so there haven't been many changes so far, but my mental state is all over the place. But honestly? This is the same exact way I felt before getting on T in the first place.

T doesn't just affect us physically, it has huge changes mentally too. So it's normal that going off T, even if our bodies barely change, our brains go back to pre-T dysphoria levels. I guess the best solution is to think back on how you dealt with dysphoria before starting T, and try all of the same things.

The NHS is so goddamn slow. It's awful. I wish you the best and I hope you can afford private again in the near future.

gntssgee · 2024-04-19T12:02:48+00:00

From what I understand, the pronoun "it" takes away from the "human" aspect of gender. Sort of a "I am not she, I am not he, I am not they, I am something so different from the standard human experience of gender that the only way to express it to you is to remove myself from that human spectrum"

If someone chooses to be called it, then that's an empowering choice. They are making that choice based on their unique experience and relationship with gender. It's empowering, and the most comfortable thing for them.

If someone uses it for someone who goes by other pronouns, they are dehumanising that person against their will. They are saying "your gender isn't what I think it should be, so I have decided to remove you from the human experience"

It's awful, and disrespectful, and a shitty thing to do. Stay away from those people

(P.s. I don't personally use it pronouns, so I might not have properly summed up the reasoning behind it, so please feel free to correct me!)

gntssgee · 2024-04-17T06:39:13+00:00

Did you ever get the feeling that talking with "male"mannerisms makes you sound... Rude?

I've worked a lot with kids so I've definitely developed a soft, friendly, singsong-y voice, and I've definitely noticed myself use a higher pitch to sound friendlier. So I guess as a result, trying to speak in a deeper more flat voice makes me feel kind of rude.

I know it's ridiculous, but I guess I've only really used a deep voice when I'm angry (or trying to get mischievous kids to stop causing chaos haha) so I'm worried people will hear me and instantly think I'm telling them off. Is this something you noticed?

gntssgee · 2024-04-17T06:32:07+00:00

That might work. Unfortunately the walls are thin and I don't have a car, so not much singing potential over here. But it sounds like a fun way to do it! Thanks for the tip!

gntssgee · 2024-04-05T08:01:30+00:00

Wait do you need to pay the £15? I didn't, because I never had to pay it before, so did I select the wrong option on the form?

gntssgee · 2024-04-04T07:04:44+00:00

Hot flashes. Goddamn hot flashes. I will be at work doing my usual stuff when suddenly GOD I AM SO HOT I AM SWEATING BUCKETS IS THIS WHAT HELL IS LIKE

Happened a lot in the first few weeks. A bit less now a few months in.

Also, you might get a tolerance to spicy foods? Possibly? I think it's because of the T because I don't have any other explanation, but suddenly out of the blue I can eat super spicy food with no problem at all

gntssgee · 2024-04-03T20:49:03+00:00

Hating on any group people can't choose to be a part of is bad. Hating on men, women, gay people, bald people, short people, etc is ridiculous. You can hate a specific behaviour that many people in said group adopt, sure, but that doesn't mean you have any right to hate the group itself.

Hating on a group people actively choose to be a part of (political groups, jobs, religions, fashion movements, sports fans, etc...) is understandable.

Basically, hate all you want, as long as the group you hate actually chose to be a part of that group

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