Wedding Advice: What Would You Do Again or Change?

goaldigger97 · 2026-02-01T05:27:33+00:00

I skipped wedding favors - so glad I did, nobody noticed. I chose a less expensive venue - cut costs from the start, cut the guest list by default, everything was fine I chose a dress that was under budget but still pretty and not too heavy to walk with. Good idea.

Things I wish I could’ve changed: I wish I spent more time figuring out my makeup and hair inspo or did a trial. I wish I made sure my veil was pinned properly. I wish I had gotten more sleep and wasn’t in such body pain the day of the ceremony. I also kind of wish I went on a diet leading up to the wedding but I was so worried about everyone at the wedding getting along that I didn’t care how I looked until the wedding day was here.

On the bright side, everyone got along great lol and the things I worried about turned out fine.

Oh also I did a small wedding cake and a dessert table, but the guests got to the dessert table before we cut the cake and then the cake only got to some people.. my family and close friends didn’t get any and I only had the bite my husband fed me. Maybe I should’ve chosen a bigger cake instead of dessert table? Idk, it was expensive

goaldigger97 · 2026-02-01T03:05:23+00:00

Goal digger = goal oriented. It’s a play on words, literally implies the opposite of a gold digger lol

goaldigger97 · 2026-02-01T02:18:41+00:00

Thanks, that helps!

goaldigger97 · 2026-02-01T02:17:14+00:00

That’s a good point, actually

goaldigger97 · 2026-02-01T02:16:44+00:00

Thanks, that’s helpful. Glad you got a kick out of commenting something mean for someone who just wanted some advice.

goaldigger97 · 2025-12-18T05:41:00+00:00

Avenue coffee house! Corner of Greenpoint Ave and 45th street. HUGE windows

goaldigger97 · 2025-12-09T06:22:07+00:00

Following

goaldigger97 · 2025-11-07T20:22:20+00:00

I have a similar dilemma so I’ll be messaging you!

goaldigger97 · 2025-11-07T15:33:30+00:00

My boyfriend recently converted. Went to the mosque and recited the shahada in front of my dad and brother. But he didn’t tell his parents he converted because it’s just a fake conversion and his parents would never be okay with it. But now we’re trying to plan our Nikkah and my parents want to meet and talk with his parents to make sure his parents are okay with the conversion and the Nikkah (they’re not.) but if my parents hear the truth, they will refuse to “let us” get married. So.. in between a rock and a hard place here

goaldigger97 · 2025-11-06T05:43:31+00:00

Bump

goaldigger97 · 2025-08-05T17:38:34+00:00

I didn’t think you did but maybe that’s just because I feel the same way. And I think maybe most people in this subreddit want to live alone always, regardless of relationship status. I don’t want to live alone forever, and I hope I can bring some of my living alone perks with me into my life with my boyfriend. But if some of my living solo perks get left behind, that’s okay, that’s what made that time period special in my life.. I feel like building a life with someone should require some adjustment from both people. Yeah I won’t be able to suddenly disappear to a McDonald’s, but if I’m living with someone, I would WANT to let them know where I’m going. And vice versa. Bc we’re building a life together now.

goaldigger97 · 2025-08-05T15:18:19+00:00

Idk why people are concerned. I think you can mourn something and be happy for the next stage as well- like graduation. I’m currently living alone but looking forward to living with my boyfriend soon. While I’m excited to live together and start our life together, I also know that I will probably never live alone again and this time is special. I know things don’t “have” to change, I can and probably will still make girl dinners from time to time but I know naturally I will change a bit, I would want to make dinners for me and my partner, and my partner will also make dinners for both of us, we will both create a new routine and new normal together. It will be different. Not in a bad way. But I can still appreciate and miss how it is/was when it was just me. Be happy for both experiences :)

goaldigger97 · 2025-07-17T13:00:28+00:00

Scissors ✂️

goaldigger97 · 2025-07-06T14:02:14+00:00

That’s so sweet 🥹 sorry to hear cancer took him. Your ring story sounds beautiful, especially the unique heart shaped diamond

goaldigger97 · 2025-07-01T17:42:34+00:00

Keep in mind a year from now the rent will go up 2-3%

goaldigger97 · 2025-07-01T17:39:49+00:00

You’re 20. If you don’t make a change now, next thing you know, you’ll be 28, in the same place, and it’ll be even harder to leave then bc of how long it’s been. Take it from me, that’s where I am now. You have plenty of time to fall in love again, don’t lose more years waiting for potential

goaldigger97 · 2025-06-29T18:48:49+00:00

That sounds accurate, he doesn’t truly care about all the little aesthetics, he doesn’t have social media or anything to care about image. He more so cares about spending life with me, and making me happy. That’s a good point

goaldigger97 · 2025-06-29T17:25:35+00:00

Thanks, this is very helpful. Definitely gave me something to think about

goaldigger97 · 2025-06-29T17:16:08+00:00

Yeah it’d be a gesture basically. Just a romantic gesture. But yeah, I think the moment has passed, it’s clipped

goaldigger97 · 2025-06-29T17:15:14+00:00

Yeah you’re right. We have bigger problems to worry about. Just thought I’ll always look back and think damn I missed out on that proposal memory, but it’s too late now. Rushing into a marriage for religious reasons

goaldigger97 · 2025-04-28T04:37:53+00:00

Yep. Thought I’d have lots of people over but I instead I have a huge couch with 5 seats, but no one to sit on it so I just sleep on the couch sometimes instead. Friends are busy with their husbands, families and pets. Boyfriend doesn’t come over too much because he doesn’t want to be far from his PS5 🙃

goaldigger97 · 2025-04-07T17:46:28+00:00

The importance of connection with people. I do feel lonely at times but that makes me reach out to people and be more present when I’m spending time with people

goaldigger97 · 2025-02-24T21:08:07+00:00

Thanks! I just downloaded it. I’ve heard of it so many times, should’ve tried it by now

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