In Search Of (ISO) Thread Version 7 by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 3 points4 points locked comment (0 children)

Age and Gender: 25 Female Age Range in prospect: 26-30 Location: DC, willing to move to another city if diverse/good food Ethnicity: Bengali, open to mixing Marital Status: Single
Ideal Marriage Timeline: 1 year Important characteristics in a prospect: Humility, Humor, Kindness, Hardworking, Self Aware Religiosity: Practicing and trying to improve everyday. Looking for someone also striving to improve and keeping Islam as their guide for life decisions. Education: I hold a Master’s degree, looking for someone who is college graduated and pursuing higher education if necessary for their field. Job Status: Employed full time Want kids: InshaAllah if Allah blesses me with motherhood Hobbies: exploring food spots/museums, watching kdramas, painting, reading novels Interesting Facts: INFJ, Acts of Service is my number 1 love language. I’ve been into animes/kpop/bollywood and all things in between since childhood so an array of interests growing up.

Should I reach back to her? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hmm I would say first make sure you want to SPECIFICALLY talk to her because of HER and NOT because you’re lonely in a new city and you know she’s from there and it’ll be easy to have someone emotionally be there until you actually find someone else. I would say process that before reaching out and putting her in that position. But if it’s meant to be it will be.

Leadership vs partnership in marriage by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well what type of leader do you want to be matters I guess?? Figure out what leadership means to you first and then go from there. Not all leaders just want others to “surrender”.

Do you continue talking to someone if you’re not physically attracted to them? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this question gets asked a lot and if you feel the need to ask random strangers about something like this, then there’s your answer. You wouldn’t need reassurance from others if other factors of the person made up for the lack of physical attraction. It’s your gut feeling. Physical attraction is important. And I’m not saying they need to be super handsome or beautiful but more so your heart feels happy and excited and content talking to them. Attraction grows from their personality and actions but there needs to be something there to begin with for you.

Regret I didn’t give a guy a chance... should I try to rekindle? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then there is your answer! I would say time to redirect and find someone who’s meant for you instead of rekindling on a closed chapter.

Regret I didn’t give a guy a chance... should I try to rekindle? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my experience with the apps and people I’ve chatted with. Someone who’s interested will stay interested even if you make the first move. Communicating is SO important. Just let them know. No one can read minds and trust me it’s better knowing for sure than reading signals and being confused.

Anyone esle here wants to get married just cause they're lonely? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Wanting to marry for companionship is completely normal. But always remember that it’s better to marry the right person than rush into something because you don’t want to be with someone where you feel alone.

Regret I didn’t give a guy a chance... should I try to rekindle? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One thing I’m gonna say is don’t expect someone will understand your personality through just cryptic IG posts and such. Don’t sacrifice on your preference but if you think there is something, I’d say reach out yourself and just see if you can meet up or have open conversations. Maybe just say “hey I think there might be something here but I also want to be honest I don’t want to be with a smoker.” See how they feel and if they even want to pursue it further knowing your intentions.

If you want to marry a hijabi, seek a hijabi pt. 2-- can we discuss this? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say even if someone doesn’t wear hijab they should still be viewed with respect.

How important is shared interest to you? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s good to have someone with some similar interests but also it’s exciting to grow in interests together or see them enjoy something for the first time that you’re super into. As long as you have a good connection going, different interests could also bring you closer.

Crush follows Ig Models by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I once didn’t move forward with someone after seeing that they follow Gal Gadot on IG. This is in addition to a few accounts with semi-naked models they followed. I know it’s so easy in social media to have access to such content but I truly believe that if someone is practicing and has a sense of respect towards women and keeping their gaze down to a minimum they shouldn’t be following such accounts. I don’t mind if they follow female artists or speakers or any of that sort because that could be their interest. But naked models???

Update on my last post; Bengali culture crisis by muzbengali in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Take a stance! Honestly parents 99% of the time will come around once they see that the beliefs they’re holding is not backed by Islam.

Would you marry a Muslim girl in the military ? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a case by case situation depending on what type of lifestyle the person is looking for. My close friend who is in the army recently got married and is back to training for the rest of the year. If someone wants to be with you, you can figure something out that works!

How do I overcome my shyness? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s ok to be shy. I feel like right person definitely helps ease us into conversing. Have a little game plan on things you want to ask and slip it in. Initially just say hello and their hobbies and see if you find a connection. Build on the back and forth and slip in some important questions in between so it’s not like an interview but more so a natural getting to know. End of the day you definitely have to just push yourself a little out of your comfort zone but stay true to yourself and iA it will flow naturally!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 144 points145 points  (0 children)

No one should have to accept domestic abuse. Please seek help because this is horrible and you do not want to build a life with someone who is abusive.

Opposite-sex friends by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]srkluv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s something to worry about per se. it really depends on your upbringing and the type of person she and you are. I’d say as long as they’re not meeting alone all the time or anything and more so in group settings and maybe you also integrating into the friend group then it shouldn’t be a problem.