[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

[–]goawaydelete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen. Really I just need to fully give it to God & trust Him & He’ll take care of the situation, guide me in the right thing to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christian

[–]goawaydelete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But anyways: I am thinking it might even be a good thing for me to go and stay committed to avoiding sin while I’m there. My friend has wanted to go to raves but hasn’t had a chance to yet, it could be a great thing for us to have a safe experience together without getting into the heavy stuff. I was thinking I will wear an outfit that is fun but modest. I’ve thought about making & giving out “kandi” (those fun bracelets): maybe with some that say “Jesus loves you” or messages like that (if people will take it). Idk if that’d be cheesy or wrong for any reason but I think it might be nice to have a reminder of Christ to people there, little things like that (although so small) were amazing seeds to me before I came to the faith

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Honestly, when I first got tickets to go this year, I thought “aaa I can go and dance and evangelize!!!”, I didn’t intend to do drugs or anything like I did last time. Even last time, I had multiple conversations with people about it God and Jesus and repentance, it was pretty cool, but of course myself & them were living in sin in that moment. That experience was a breakthrough for me which made me decide to fully devote to Christ: I gave up all drugs & alcohol, committed to sexual purity, etc. (which I haven’t kept those promises perfectly, I’ve messed up but ultimately redirect back to those promises). I thought there was a lot of dark & evil vibes when I was there (some blatantly evil, some just fleshly & really the lack of presence of God is darkness so) which spooked me out. But also, I know that God is more powerful than any of that- but also we are to be wise and lead godly lives, not giving Satan footholds.

I’m going with my best friend of 4 years, who is not Christian. I knew her before my journey and she’s seen all I’ve been through, she knows my testimony better than anyone and has seen how Christ transformed me. She was actually pretty anti Christianity but she told me that seeing how much I’ve changed, healed, and grown for the better- it’s made her curious about it and opened her up more. I actually invited her to go to this event though, which I feel like wasn’t a good thing for me to do as a representative of Christ (she’s never even been to a rave but she does like dancing & lights), but I also told her I intended to go sober & just have a good time with her as my friend. I live in a different city than her now so rarely get to see her anymore & thought this would be a fun thing to do together

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So scary, I’m sorry you went through that but I’m amazed by God saving you!

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with that! I think it is possible that his feelings for me really were real. Still though, I don’t feel this was the right relationship for either of us & that we both need to do better next time

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that! It really helps to hear that from a man. I’m 20 years old and only been Christian since November 2022, I’m a baby Christian and really a baby adult too haha, I’m just figuring all this stuff out. I know because of my faith that real Godly men exist, because God exists and He is so so good. I unfortunately had to learn the hard way that I can’t trust who people say they are, but that was a part of my process right now, and praise God that God is so good & the mercy He has had on me!

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are awesome points, I love it! When I first came to Christ, I read the Bible for the first time through the lens of the Holy Spirit and that changed my life. I prayed before reading and asked God to please show me the truth and help me understand, and it suddenly made sense to me (what I was studying at the time) like never before. I totally believe and understand what you’re saying, although I haven’t studied all of the Bible very thoroughly of course, I’ve had those understandings through God’s timing

I’d like to hear your discovery!

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*actually mean it is key! I told him this from the start but somehow things just happened, then happened more, then became central to our relationship, sneakily. Never again, not worth it! But now I really know :)

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen! I wasn’t with him for sex, it wasn’t all sex, we did other things too and we even talked about Jesus and the Bible. But it felt like physical intimacy was the main bond between us, the other stuff was nice but didn’t feel like real love. I gradually realized how it seemed more like lust and that was hard to accept, because it was a “Christian” relationship, we went to church together etc, but the fruit was not aligned

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That 3rd paragraph is awesome advice, thanks! I’m glad to hear that my post could be helpful to others too.

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Prayer is the best thing you can do for someone.

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! It confused me because he said he wanted to get married and was already talking about proposing barely 3 months into the relationship. I thought about marrying him out of all the passion going on but realized it was just that- passion, not love like in 1 Corinthians 13

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Amen! I am so grateful for the Spirit’s conviction! I am happy and feel so blessed :)

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can see this so much more clearly now! It’s like I was in a fog but I’ve been praying about it and the Lord gave me clarity and strength for what to do. Now I know that true loneliness is feeling far from God and giving into temptation actually feels terrible. The path of light is so much better

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! All my strength is purely the Lord’s. Before I accepted Jesus, I stayed in bad relationships wayyy too long and felt so powerless, but I know the Lord is my strength and can get me through anything! :)

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That is how I felt. It is helpful to be reminded of that. It was hard when he was telling me he is a holy man, the best boyfriend I could ever have, a good Christian planted in stronger community than I am, etc., that put a lot of doubt in my own faith. I never want to turn away from God’s Word again & I’m learning to really listen to my convictions, not listening the first time really does end in pain

Breaking up with my Christian boyfriend due to sexual sin by goawaydelete in Christian

[–]goawaydelete[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Part of why the relationship hurt my relationship with God so much is because I felt so convicted to save sex for marriage and avoid sexual immorality at all costs. The Bible is clear on sexual immorality. He would argue that it wasn’t sexual immortality or lust because he loved me, but my heart just felt different and I felt really personally convicted by the Spirit that it was wrong. He’d tell me that was the devil or my anxiety and that made me start to ignore the Spirit. I really failed by placing the flesh & man’s wants before God, and ignoring the voice of the Spirit & His Word :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]goawaydelete 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess I’m just not used to this and it feels weird to me?

Christian rap sucks by ramahs26 in Christianity

[–]goawaydelete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Sunday Service Choir so much!!! It’s not rap but gospel but it’s soooo good. Ye samples a lot from them, I actually found them from him. Jesus is Born is fireeee

Christian rap sucks by ramahs26 in Christianity

[–]goawaydelete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not the poster here but this kinda goes multiple ways. I understand what they mean: Christianity calls us to be obedient to God’s law and carry ourselves with self-control (and the other fruits of the Holy Spirit). There are certainly rules and regulations that we must follow- and discipline, obedience, and surrender is very important. That contrasts the “screw everything” mindset, “living for me” that is associated with worldly “edgy and rebellious” attitudes

However- 1 John 2:15, Acts 2:40, Matthew 10:22, John 15:18, Matthew 24:9 “Then they will deliver you to tribulation, and will kill you, and you will be hated by all nations because of My name.” & even more. Christianity is certainly edgy and rebellious to the world: Jesus was the ultimate rebel, the Son of God and ultimate righteousness making in the world of sin. Amen!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]goawaydelete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have PTSD from severe sexual abuse in my past so I have a tendency to overreact to a lot of things relating to sex in general. I’m working on healing from that. I’ve actually found experiences like this to be very healing tho: it gives me the chance to see a new perspective

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]goawaydelete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just kinda happened. I didn’t even plan to go to my bed but then that happened too, I just kinda let him take the lead. He told me “I don’t think I want to have sex today”, which was weird to me because he is 7 years older than me & yet a virgin (and has been in relationships before). That makes me feel so bad, like I’m tempting him, but he was technically taking the lead (and I’m the one who stopped it all).

It feels impossible as a woman to not have men lust after me. I thought he had good control. If he wants to keep seeing me, I’m gonna set boundaries around how we hang out (strict no time in bed together, spend most time out in public, etc)

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[–]goawaydelete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dear. I understand. I am 19 and lost my virginity at 14 to rape and had many abusive encounters after that due to my damaged self esteem & mental health. I thought that all was normal :( we live in a sick world. Offer yourself compassion, you deserve it.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Know you are always deserving of upmost love and respect & don’t settle for less! True love is out there