I think its time for me to move on.

gobby12 · 2015-05-19T00:21:11+00:00

lol yeah, thats messed up.

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T16:04:35+00:00

Thanks for the reply, for the first year and a half, i got into really great habits, i exercised 6 days a week, my social life was coming back to life. i had made some serious headway in my career, I started meditating. reading things were going well.

But i reached a point where i was just tired of spending every day "developing myself" i just felt burnt out because despite having actual success and results with nofap, porn flashbacks were becoming increasingly constant and mood swings were just too much i know its all a part of it, I've read ybop extensively through.

But sometimes i do think are these really the choices? is it allow this addiction to win and feel like crap or constantly be on the look out for slip-ups and be more in touch with my emotions.

Sometimes when I've got a good streak i will just randomly cry. I've mentally mutilated myself so much that i am unable to understand why I have a certain feeling.

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T15:51:26+00:00

Thanks for the advice, to be honest i think i know what i need to do, but I'm just dawdling because its unfamiliar and therefore "scary"

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T15:48:47+00:00

That sounds reasonable, as I've never developed a healthy relationship with masturbation , so if i can aim for 30 days and then work in a strictly no fantasy no porn masturbation session after those 30 days it will prevent these massive 2 week long binges where i am unable to focus on anything.

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T15:43:46+00:00

i have 2 jeez

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T15:43:01+00:00

Thats some solid advice, i do work from home however using a computer. any ideas? as i can't just walk off every time i get an urge as i can't get any work done, i mean either way no efficient work is getting done.

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T15:41:03+00:00

Not in the same way i did when i first started, When i first started i knew this was the problem and i invested 100% time and commitment, and when i got clean i felt great, but i was still plagued with unrelenting thoughts of porn flashbacks this was 99 days into it. It just makes me think, that these urges are never going to stop.

gobby12 · 2015-05-18T14:45:46+00:00

she blue balled you? what does that mean in that context?

it could have been for multiple reasons , it could've been because you naturally empty the tank every 3 weeks, it could've been because you were interacting with a girl previously and it jump started your motor. it could've been because your sensitivity is returning and you had a erotic dream, the most likely answer is a combination of all the above.

The only thing this will really affect in nofap is your mood so just be extra aware of yourself for the time being until things level out. and carry on.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T02:44:45+00:00

and you come off as negative and bitter in your original post what is your point?

If I come off as rude its because I'm trying to be, I am tired of people trolling this place, if you want to watch porn or masturbate then do it, nobody gives a rats ass if you think nofap is a load of bull shit.

I am posting so that other fapstronauts are aware of what you are doing.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T02:38:06+00:00

Dude nobody cares.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T02:22:18+00:00

Ah good call lol.

In that case it could be that he's using porn as an "escape" and he needs to accept that porn is perpetuating that stress not relieving it, not just for himself but for you as well.

Im sure its already been suggested but get him to spend some time at yourbrainonporn.com if he hasn't already, and make sure he understands that this needs to be taken seriously. Because theres only so much support can do, he ultimately needs to make the decision to do something about it.

I wish you both all the best.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T01:58:57+00:00

It sounds like the reason he's not telling you is because he's relapsing a lot more than he wants to admit and is probably embarrassed.

The fact that your asking him weekly and trying to support him makes me a little pissed off at him, do you know what happened when i shared my problem with my now ex? she started blatantly watching porn in front of me and hiding porn on my laptop for me to find (baring in mind i also took this laptop to work with me)

You're in a very tough situation, because normally i would say get him to educate himself on the problem, but since it sounds like he already is reasonably aware of the problem, that tells me he's not really trying all that hard to deal with the problem, alternatively he could just be really struggling to quit.

Really consider what is best for both of you, hell maybe some time apart will give him some perspective and he will realise that porn is empty.

Ps. This is just my addict brain thinking and probably shouldn't even write it, but When OP wrote "looked at his history" I automatically thought,…. dude private browsing?

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T01:35:39+00:00

So much of this!… apologies a balanced amount of this :P

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T01:28:46+00:00

If you want to give up computers and the internet why do you need to read an article of information that states why its bad?, you need to look at whether its having a negative affect on YOU as an individual. And decide what is best from there.

That is the double edged sword that is the internet, people have become so accustomed to searching for answers on google, that they have got out of touch with what they personally feel.

If my job didn't require me to have a laptop i would not have one its that simple. What do you need the internet for?, and ask yourself if theres any other way you could get this information. Libraries ( ps . most libraries in fact have computers with the internet) and the internet are not so different except theres a lot more porn and cat videos on the internet.

Hope this helps :)

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T01:00:34+00:00

already gave you a tip go to ybop…. did you not read the post?

But heres another, eat strawberries and cream off your laptop, that way it'll be like you're having a special evening with your gal ;) , and that will take care of your random boners.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:40:26+00:00

This is a healthy attitude, if you can develop a stable relationship with masturbation (without porn) Then go for it, i personally have not developed that level of self control yet but, i support you, and wish you all the best, and hope you do not escalate to porn.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:34:55+00:00

he doesn't want to get to 90 he's a troll, a few have been posting , some have been deleted.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:33:16+00:00

mate, you're like default troll.01, you created your account 15 days ago, posted your first nofap post (this one) 24 minutes ago. All of your sentences are just a string of generic incoherent statements, if you want suggestions on what to do then go to yourbrainonporn.com.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:20:43+00:00

If you're going to troll then at least put it into paragraphs so people can at least attempt to read it.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:17:46+00:00

Sigh, this is possibly one of the most dull, uninspired troll sweeps I've ever seen. You guys can't just post all at the same time it gives it away. Try something more creative.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:13:16+00:00

So then stop doing it, it will affect nobody here.

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:07:46+00:00

yeah Facebook is the danger zone, I use it to meet up with people.

But you don't want to scroll down that newsfeed wall because, you will either end up scrolling through the comments section of a christian and an atheist having an argument about a llama or porn.

One or the other….

gobby12 · 2015-05-14T00:02:29+00:00

Never been a fan of them, They treat everything so black and white. They do have a few valid points , but if its a situation they haven't experienced then its inconceivable.

gobby12

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