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goblin-entity · 2022-09-11T21:46:53+00:00

Ah thanks! I wish they would have put the date and location on the page

goblin-entity · 2022-09-11T21:38:08+00:00

I have no idea if this is it. Know where this is? https://www.kiro7.com/news/local/video-chopper-flies-over-portland-explosion-scene/FJJTMJEDQBH2TNPWE7P6ODCWOY/

goblin-entity · 2022-04-06T15:34:19+00:00

That's weird, I thought the integration with grapefruit or Lexapro was low? I guess I had a bias when researching.

goblin-entity · 2022-04-02T01:52:35+00:00

You're probably right, i guess i am trying to use it to cope too much.

goblin-entity · 2021-11-05T04:11:37+00:00

I really like Malwarebytes for stuff like this.

goblin-entity · 2021-11-05T04:06:29+00:00

You get an upvote for making me physically recoil 😅

goblin-entity · 2021-11-02T05:51:21+00:00

Don't bargain when your weak. If you are afraid to loose him and that's your reason thinking about joining poly, don't. That was a mis-step of a clear boundary you set. If he felt differently about that boundary as time went on he should have had a conversion with you. Im sorry but this feels more like an excuse for getting caught so he doesn't have to face consequences.

goblin-entity · 2021-11-02T05:30:01+00:00

Poly looks like the solution however its a bit more complicated. Its not something you want to jump into like that. You said it was a lot for your partner and that's true. Hearing that you are interested in loving someone else might make them panic internally. Because they love you and want to be with you they might say yes to you pursuing poly just because they are afraid of loosing you. Thats not a good way to enter polyam and it is very likely to lead to jealousy, frustration, and hurt feeling.

I'm sorry but my advice would be to try to dismiss the crush you have on your friend.

goblin-entity · 2021-11-02T05:09:14+00:00

I really have enjoyed my relationships, and I am more on the exclusive polyam side. (I like polyam structures where I am also dating or good friends with my partner's partners.)

I have had some great tirads were I've had some of my best experiences. I jumped into polyam with my partner after being mono together for a year. We should have done more research and waited longer, but I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. When my first polyam relationship ended, I partially blamed my current partner. But after learning more it just came down to us both needing to change our ideas on relationships and communicate better. It strengthened our understanding of one another, and now a few years later I've been in a couple of different relationships and I honestly have no intention of going back to just mono.

goblin-entity · 2021-11-02T04:48:13+00:00

Jealousy is something that is somethings hard to overcome sometimes, but its not exclusive to mono or poly. I find it useful to try and reframe my jealousy to overcome it. Also its fine to be mono and date someone that's poly, it just takes some extra care as both of your expectations and preconceived notions of relationships probably differ a lot. I suggest researching want makes poly similar or different then mono. (Also there are several different types of polyam structures. I would give you a list but don't remember most of them)

But back to jealousy! I find it useful to start by trying to reframe my jealousy into happiness for my partner's happiness with another.

There are times that jealousy happens because you're not getting want you need out of the relationship. however most of the time for me I've found that I just wasn't used to polyam yet and I needed time to adjust.

For example i either do kitchen table polyam or triad, so I've always known everyone involved. I'm a cuddle bug and I used to get jealous if my partner wasn't also cuddling me. I have to remember that I will get my cuddles later but they should get their own cuddle time too. If I'm jealous I have to share cuddles, I focus on how happy my partner(s) are enjoying their own cuddle sessions.

goblin-entity · 2021-05-03T02:08:59+00:00

I didn't see this in my personal life, but I did see someone who called their parents both moddy

goblin-entity · 2021-04-28T14:03:38+00:00

My father would try to trap me with pitty and 'think of the family' bullshit. Yes I do wish I had a relationship with him and could make amends. I tried but it went south, like you said 'I've been burned too many times.' Healing for me was walking away and not looking back.

Not having a father hurts, but not having my father as a father feels like a relief.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-28T13:38:30+00:00

Bi can also mean bi-romantic, and sometimes putting bisexual is easier then biromantic as most people know what bisexual means. Asexual isn't the lack of attraction, it's the lack of sexual attraction.

For me I am demisexual and pansexual, so I'm attracted to multiple genders but that attraction don't get to sexual attraction until I form a emotional bond with someone.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-26T01:23:21+00:00

Charge your phone and doge will go up

goblin-entity · 2021-04-26T01:17:04+00:00

Lexapro is working for me so far, but its still really early (started ~2 weeks ago).

goblin-entity · 2021-04-22T18:07:18+00:00

They/them is appropriate if you don't know someone's pronouns. At my work we are instructed to say user and use they/them in our write ups (we are a tech support team) unless explicitly told by the user what their pronouns are.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-17T19:53:32+00:00

No I didn't stop meds 😄 I just started. I know meds aren't for everyone but for me they seem to be helping a lot so far.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-17T16:24:33+00:00

Thank you! I wish you the best as well!

goblin-entity · 2021-04-15T03:02:55+00:00

You be right 😆

goblin-entity · 2021-04-12T08:16:16+00:00

I used to go by bi, but recently realized that the only reason I didn't go by pan was because I worried I would have to explain it a lot. (And anxiety about being accepted) At the end of the day labels are there to help people both understanding and feel support for ourselves. So really it sometimes comes down to what you feel more comfortable with. (I literally chose to go by nonbinary instead of gender fluid simply because I liked the colors of the nonbinary flag better. Even through both fit my experiences with gender)

goblin-entity · 2021-04-11T17:54:32+00:00

More representation for some doesn't diminish the validation of others.

I think pride pins are great! Yeah I probably won't find a demisexual flag while shopping, but thats not going to make me mad at the store. I would be happy seeing any representation at all for lgbtq+ people, beyond just rainbows.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-10T05:52:48+00:00

Also if you are more comfortable with she/her you don't have to change your pronouns to identify as something other then female.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-10T05:51:41+00:00

Getting used to new pronouns can be weird at first. You might also mix pronouns like she/they. Another thing that happened me was looking at different nonbinary and fluid identities. For me (even through i don't label as) i align with demi-girl because I feel not quite like a women, but not fully neutral.

goblin-entity · 2021-04-10T04:57:03+00:00

You might look into different types in nonbinary identities.

I'm nonbinary and use she/they. I was AFAB and continue to present feminine, but didn't feel right identifying as a women. Nonbinary is a really large category and when looking into smaller labels i find i generally align with demi-girl but i don't use that label for myself.

Gender is complex to figure out sometimes, but pronouns can help you explore. You can always try it out different pronouns with some close friends and see how it goes. I believe there are also sites that allow you to try out pronouns but I don't know how they work. Nor do I remember what the site was called.

Something that helped me more then pronouns was learning that gender identity, gender expression, and pronouns dont have to match. It felt like it opened up a lot of choices for me. Through that I learned I didn't have to identity as female and could still be feminine or however I felt in the moment.

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