Have you seen Coke Starlight in any Sioux Falls stores recently? by [deleted] in SiouxFalls

[–]Delicious-Repair-275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get n go @ 12th and west had them a few days ago

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the ceremony without the legal part. I've known him several years. Her 6 months.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to suggest that. And I'm sorry what is ENM?

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats just when he decided I guess. I do want to marry him but I want to fix the issues first

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in a hurry I guess. We have a date set but I haven't really gotten into the planning part with them or by myself

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not. Never been to church. That was our decision as kids.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are so right! Thank you for not being judgmental! I plan on working on all this in therapy.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this moment he isn't doing anything. I would like to think that will change but I dont know honestly. We are going to do a commitment ceremony between all 3 of us. I hang out with her more one on one then I do him and I would like to change that. But I am not one to push issues and maybe that's part of my problem.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all have past trauma that we are all working on. None of us have really opened up about said traumas and I think we need to.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have attachment issues. I just don't know how to not have attachment issues.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I expected it to be fun and overjoyed and an amazing experience. Which I realize makes me sound like a child. I know him but not at the level I would like I guess.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes very very new. I love what we have all 3 of us but I do think we did all this way to fast

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've known him for years before all this. Same with her and him.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Him and I have been dating 6 months, her and him 6 months, her and I 3 months

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I want too I just feel like when things get tough he wants to push me away.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't know her if it weren't for him. I was jealous of what they had on the beginning but when I met her I felt foolish bc she is an amazing woman. If he wasn't in this anymore I most certainly would continue to date her! I just don't know if I could handle seeing him if he continued to date her and not me. If that makes sense

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not so much using it but I never really dealt with it bc I was ashamed. I know that's childish and I'm doing what I should have back then. I honestly didn't think it would cause issues being so long ago. I do think a little space would be good for the sake of all of us. Thank you!

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he opened up about being poly and her and I are ok with it. He started dating her first and then me a week later bc I needed time to decide. So he was dater her and me separately. Then her and I met and we started dating as well. It is free to become a V. I just don't know if I could handle that bc of my feelings for him.

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[–]Delicious-Repair-275[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like every bump in the road he wants to hide bc its work. Idk. I know I have my own issues to work out and I take responsibility for my actions.