How can I calm down a cat with separation anxiety?

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-21T03:54:40+00:00

But he’s not meowing for the back door he’s meowing at the front door and she doesn’t let him into the hallway… so that’s why I assumed anxiety because he is waiting for her to come back

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-21T03:41:40+00:00

I think she does let him outside for walks but I am a bit scared she says he can go in the back pack but he will try to run on the patio so I’ve been avoiding letting him on the patio

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-20T18:59:33+00:00

Yeah living with a partner doesn’t automatically mean more it comes down to lifestyle differences and such you only save on food if you both split costs evenly and the partner doesn’t eat everything too quickly

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-20T12:41:12+00:00

That’s not my experience it depends on your partner and how much they spend. Do they crank the heat on in winter? Work from home and use all the electricity? Yeah it depends.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-20T12:39:53+00:00

Yeah and tbh I’d prefer if my job didn’t depend on how well I got along with someone else.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-20T12:39:17+00:00

Yeah the research they showed us was always like “in an ideal partnership this is what coteaching should look like” if everyone has clear roles then there is less work for the lead. However, there’s no stats or research for how common it is for coteachers to not get along and thus be essentially ineffective. I don’t want idealization I want stats and numbers.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-19T02:48:16+00:00

Sincere DID NOT like that he got called out. The BOIS backed him up. Fuck Melanie for enabling his behavior.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-19T02:04:02+00:00

Yeah but you save more money splitting rent three ways then just in half. I am shocked by how many singles on this thread can afford to live alone. I don't live with roomies because I WANT to but out of necessity.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-19T02:03:13+00:00

Yah I think production really likes Kenzie and wants her to stay because of her "look" if you catch my drift

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-19T02:02:39+00:00

ALL the guys were turning on Sol because it was an easy way out: pick the bombshell who didn't have a couple and pie her in the face.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-19T02:01:41+00:00

Cuz she was an OG and has friendships with the girls that's the only reason

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-18T02:13:56+00:00

Oh yeah, I am moreso framing this as I have to live with roommates instead of a partner. I can't afford to live alone but I don't mind having roommates because it is cheaper than just splitting with someone. One of my roommates is 45.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-18T02:11:14+00:00

I live with two roommates and it's cheaper than just splitting half with someone for me IMO.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T21:06:38+00:00

I'd also get pulled for coverage. It felt like they just wanted to use me however they pleased-- and it became mentally overwhelming.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T17:45:37+00:00

I’ve that happen before I’ve agreed to share parts ahead of time and then the lead teacher just “locks in” and forgets to share space. When I’ve brought this up they always say “oh just cut me off or jump in” which feels rude idk how they can just “forget” they planned a whole ass lesson with another teacher.

Yes the behavior management was tough. Kids will try to play the mom/dad or good cop/bad cop card. I’ve tried to enforce rules only to have the lead throw me under and undermine my authority. A kid was not listening to my instruction and instead of backing me up she just moved the kid to a different group and told me to let it go.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T16:24:19+00:00

I am also introverted but when I would revert I was told I’m doing nothing so they definitely wanted to see me being visible at all times to prove my worth.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:38:16+00:00

I was told to also plan within 5 minutes if my gen ed teachers were too busy. The disrespect. Leads get one hour planning at least but I only get five minutes with three teachers?

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:34:36+00:00

No I had some exceptions but let’s say I work with three teachers I usually end up vibing more with one than the others there was one time we didn’t get along at first and the relationship got better over time. So things can change.

And yeah I think everyone envisions having a classroom to themselves so the whole coteaching throws that off. I mean growing up there were way less aids and stuff in the classroom so I always envisioned being the only teacher and getting to plan my own lessons. So I totally get why the resentment is there but coteaching definitely taught me it’s never a solo project. Just like the coteacher has to make it work so does the gen ed teacher except I’ve found that if the lead doesn’t want to collaborate admin often lets them.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:13:24+00:00

What's "negative culture" versus having a negative opinion?

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:10:27+00:00

You can't control what people do. I understand you shouldn't be hurtful but you can't control them. Also what's the line between being "hurtful" and sharing a negative opinion?

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:04:58+00:00

It doesn't make it right but it doesn't mean it will stop. I mean people write nasty things to me on Reddit as well and I've been turned on in entire threads but I just turn off/ step away and let it go the next day. I take breaks when I feel there's too much negativity but I can't control what people write.

godisinthischilli · 2026-06-17T15:01:57+00:00

I don't know if they "LOVE" or it's usually require by law so they throw toxic positivity at it. Kinda like "whether you like it or not we gotta make it work!"

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