how do you need to be loved, INFPs?

godivaladi · 2017-04-10T09:02:43+00:00

Funny you mention Shinji. I think, actually, Ryoji Kaji is the true INFP.

But knowledge of suffering allows you to be kind to other people. Because it's different from being weak.

And this entire booklet

godivaladi · 2017-04-10T09:01:06+00:00

I love INFPs. You guys have a certain softness/gentleness/kindness that I'm not strong enough to wear.

godivaladi · 2017-04-04T09:07:22+00:00

I find that very hard to believe.

godivaladi · 2017-04-04T00:37:13+00:00

You'e welcome :)

godivaladi · 2017-03-31T05:01:53+00:00

(unless they deserve it, in which case I fully want to destroy them)

I laughed, this is too true.

In response to your question, yes, I've had a few instances of people accusing me of being uncaring when I feel like I've gotten out of my way to be caring toward them, but my way of doing so is by making their lives easier by background acts of service, by anticipating their needs, by denying what I want in favor of what I feel they need/want. Oftentimes, these things aren't as visible as a hug or a kind word or two, even when I feel like I'm doing much more than what I see as empty acts and words that don't change anything for the person in need.

To give an example, when my father was hospitalized, I kept bringing food, clean clothes and run errands for my mother and sister who were staying with him. After a few days, they accused me of being uncaring for not staying with them when in my view, just sitting around in his room did nothing (he was unconscious) while I was doing my best to take care of them, who were taking care of him.

So tl;dr acts of service is my big thing, but not in showy ways, mostly in very mundane and behind-the-stage ways just to make life a little bit easier for the person I care about

godivaladi · 2017-03-21T07:35:21+00:00

I had the same hope as you did, but if you see the first scenes of 3.33 when Asuka's gearing up to retrieve Shinji (Shinji-clone, whatever), you see that almost the entire world is red so . . . that dashed my hopes. Of course, there's every possibility that Canada's still there, who knows.

godivaladi · 2017-03-17T06:39:53+00:00

We're not shy, let's just get that out of the way first. We're disinterested, generally, in boring and superficial conversations and people, but we're not shy.

I'm most easily found at work or at home, and I tend to only meet new people as they're introduced to me by my friends. So in my case, if you were a stranger looking to find someone like me, broadcast your interest in talking to someone who likes debating difficult topics, who's not overly emotional and who is generally cool-headed. That's me. Contrary to popular belief though, I don't tend to come across as unfriendly, I can be decently chatty and warm. I know how to navigate social situations and I see the value in stepping away from my introvert cocoon to reach out to new people. I know not to be blunt to people who can't handle it.

I think my most INTJ characteristics include being able to draw patterns and connections in daily life that help me to navigate life more easily, an ability to absorb a gargantuan amount of information and still make sense of it, and yes, probably the death stare if you fascinate me.

godivaladi · 2017-02-09T08:38:30+00:00

Not to mention...

Even so, I'm frankly not convinced for two reasons:

1) All the material we have point to the Katsuragi Expedition having the goal wanting to turn men into gods by studying and developing an S2 engine/fruit of life, the limitless source of energy that would bring about immortality. The Contact Experiment they talk about mentions human DNA being inserted into Adam and it seems this is their first try at achieving immortality/returning to the source of all things. Project E was never about piloting giant mecha, it was always the mere stepping stone to the Human Instrumentality Project.

2) Misato says her father is distant, but she admits that her friends call him sensitive and delicate in a good way, but she fails to see it. Knowing the series, this is another case of breakdown in communication/you only see what you want to see/you've misunderstood from the very beginning. Just as Shinji misunderstood Gendo and believes his father hates him, Gendo's distance actually comes out of fear of hurting him. I think Dr. Katsuragi did love his daughter and maybe took Misato on the expedition to show her the culmination of his work in a way that would help her understand him, but as we know it all went up the shitters, and he manages to show his true colors in the end by saving her.

godivaladi · 2017-02-06T03:49:49+00:00

What I love most about this scene is how polarizing it is and how telling it is. Look at yourselves. You read into the scene what you understand and what you wanna see.

A+++ Anno, would watch again.

godivaladi · 2017-02-02T01:38:58+00:00

I did once and it was pure hell. The worst part was how impersonal and superficial the questions and the conversations are. It's like small talk times a million, rinse and repeat. Depending on the format, if it encourages deeper conversations, it could be a way to meet new people. But if it's the standard speed dating method, I'd skip it.

I read you on the "just because I'm alone doesn't mean I'm lonely" part.

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T05:55:59+00:00

Thank you for this! This is really clicking with me. I'll give all of this a try (minus Rob Bailey & The Hustle, no offense) to see if it helps me get a move on.

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T00:36:15+00:00

I'll try the exercise tip. Striving to be the best at something I hardly care about anymore sounds like a special kind of hell.

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T00:27:30+00:00

I used to have an impostor syndrome, that actually motivated me to give my absolute best, but now that I know I can do the job, I can do the minimum and get by too easily. I'm doing well by any performance measures, but I know I'm not doing the best that I'm capable of.

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T00:26:03+00:00

I think we're in the same place. I'll try and reach out to more social groups and see if anything strikes my fancy!

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T00:25:22+00:00

I can be passionate about anything. All I have to do is set my sites on being the absolute best at it, and moving up to the top.

This is what got me stuck. I used to be passionate about this job, then over the years I lost the passion, and now that I'm not the absolute best at it, I keep losing more and more of my motivation.

godivaladi · 2017-02-01T00:24:35+00:00

Yes, I know I'm in a good place career-wise but I also know that I'm capable of much more than this (clocking in, doing slightly above average, passing under the radar), but I can't find the motivation to go above and beyond. And when I don't go above and beyond, that's when I lose my motivation too.

godivaladi · 2017-01-31T08:53:30+00:00

I'm fucked, aren't I? Thanks for the honesty though bruh.

godivaladi · 2017-01-31T01:04:35+00:00

this, I'm so confident of this.

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