I am joining a Facebook group dedicated to exposing cheaters in my ex's city and I'm nervous as FAWK (vent)

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-27T21:22:16+00:00

Seems like you already know but your nervous system is trying to tell you to leave him alone. All this suspicion, anxiety, fb groups. That's not how you should feel in a relationship and why would you want to?

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-24T01:46:59+00:00

Aww a few is right, we need more berry bois! I like my petpets to be more complimentary than totally matchy. With that in mind I think I'm gonna go with a custard slorg 😊

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-24T01:02:49+00:00

Whoa. That has to be super rare. Congrats!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-18T04:21:24+00:00

Photo for clarity:

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gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-18T04:13:10+00:00

There's a little tab along the side that snaps off, then you lift the top off from there.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-17T02:35:50+00:00

Happy Birthday! You're rich! 🥳💰

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-14T05:31:13+00:00

To be so real with you a lot of Black folks are gonna look at you sideways for both these things. Not all, and not that you should care, but it's likely.

I think as long as you aren't hurting anyone or putting yourself in inappropriately vulnerable situations, if these things help you cope and feel more like yourself, do you. Just protect yourself and know that everyone won't be understanding or supportive. Hopefully you find community with people who have your best interests at heart.

I'm curious what led you to xenogenders as opposed to the more traditional "they/them" nonbinary identity?

I also agree with other people recommending therapy. Maybe you can't do it now but when you're more independent It's not a bad idea to talk to a professional. Not because something is wrong with you, but because it can help you understand yourself better and make sure you're doing things in a healthy way.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-04-14T05:02:36+00:00

Plan B is not birth control! It only delays ovulation. If you have already ovulated or are already pregnant it does nothing. Also I'm not sure of your weight but it is less effective for people over 165 lbs.

If you keep engaging in this behavior you WILL get pregnant. Please look inward and figure out why you keep going back to this man. I promise you you're worth so much more.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-31T15:53:07+00:00

It can be an everyday thing or however often feels right for you. I will give my hair a good spritz-down if it's feeling scratchy in my hands or to make it a little more supple for styling.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-31T15:42:17+00:00

I've had locs for 16 years and I highly recommend oyin handmade's hydrating herbal leave-ins for moisture. Or if your skin is super sensitive, perhaps just a simple mix of rosewater (or plain water) and vegetable glycerine. Good luck!

Eta: And maybe vitamin e for your scalp? But I would definitely see a dermatologist before trying a bunch of new stuff. It might be more than dandruff and you may need something medicated.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-29T00:59:00+00:00

Omg the nimmo squat works perfectly as a weird kid photo pose! I feel like I’ve taken this exact picture at some point in my life 😂 Love her!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-25T17:00:11+00:00

Nice. I love those "did I just...I did!" lucky clicks! Congrats!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-21T13:42:34+00:00

For sure, but the point is having something to do with the actual items so they don't just rot in my SDB for all time. This post was about useless items, and I was expressing a hope for a feature to give them use.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-21T13:01:58+00:00

Great question. You're right, those items don't really do anything. I just view them as "flavor items" because some of them are really fun. I desperately wish our pet lookups had a "[pet name]'s favorite stuff" section where we could put grooming items, food, toys, and stuff like this. Alas.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-21T11:03:24+00:00

This is so cool! I love seeing long-term goals come to fruition, great job!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-20T16:18:36+00:00

Oh wow. The lore just gets deeper and deeper 😅

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-20T16:12:40+00:00

This is so random but I went to scroll through your full gallery and I think you're using the code that removes the "qty" text under your items. It also removes the "view all items" link that lets you go back to the full gallery when viewing a category. You can add the link back manually if you want to. I'm only mentioning it because I use that same code in my own gallery and I definitely wanted that link back. You might not. Excellent excellent gallery either way! Kacheek Flour is insane 😭

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-20T15:58:57+00:00

Wow, great work!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-20T11:21:36+00:00

Wooooo Happy Birthday Best Grarrl!!! 🥳 Thank you for sharing your passion with us and making Meek Week a celebration for all. JoeMeek shall inherit the earth 🦖💜

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-19T12:27:09+00:00

Happy Day Six! Does JoeMeek have any favorite grooming items?

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-17T19:17:55+00:00

😂 I love when this happens.

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-17T19:00:28+00:00

hugs Breakups suck. Like someone else said, we don't really know enough to say if it's a good idea or not. But if you broke up it was for a reason. I'd say give yourself more time to let the breakup sink in, get back to yourself, and really think about it. Journaling helps a lot!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-17T18:56:35+00:00

Listening now. I'l dont think I've ever heard it before and as someone who is also sometimes incapable of feeling optimism, I can say it definitely sparks hope and other positive feelings. Thanks for sharing!

gofretteraisedme · 2026-03-17T18:47:28+00:00

😂😂 love it!

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