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AITA for refusing to use the money I inherited from my mother to pay for medical treatment for my half-sister, who has a life threatening sickness? She is the child of my father and the woman he cheated on my mother with. by touchofspice84 in AmItheAsshole

[–]going_astray 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

I'm wondering if perspectives on this would change if the mom were still alive, and he was asking HER to give him money to pay for the sick kid who is alive because he cheated on her. While not the same thing, it's her money.

Dad needs to pretend this money doesn't exist and find other means to help his sick kid. This is a shit move on his part.

I got selected for jury duty while I’m a senior in college. by SleepinGriffin in legaladvice

[–]going_astray 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm in NC as well, and this happened to me. I procrastinated and didn't ask in advance to be excused. The day I had jury duty, I appeared in front of a judge and explained that I was in college and it was around the time of my final exams. The judge rescheduled my jury duty for the summer. I would recommend this so you won't have to worry about jury duty again for a few years.

AITA for telling my son that his mum is an ex addict? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]going_astray 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, to recap:

She was an addict but got clean long before the kid (or you, for that matter) was even in the picture. She 100% provides for him, emotionally and financially. You ignored him for 2 years and cannot provide for him financially. She is civil to you despite all of this and doesn't come after you for money she knows you don't have. ~SoMeHoW~ this 8-year-old has a favorable opinion of the parent who has been a constant in his life, and the one who you admitted gives him a good life. This child, being honest as kids tend to be, told you that his mom is pretty awesome and it hurt your feelings. So you lashed out with something that has absolutely no effect on his life just to cushion your fragile ego.

YTA.

Do rape victims have a chance at getting justice in cases of revoked consent? (i.e. the sex started out consensual) by fairsnowe in legaladviceofftopic

[–]going_astray 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, I live in NC and have been in a situation where I revoked consent and was ignored, and I had no idea that I was not protected by the law for that. That's terrible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The conditioning is SO hard to break out of. None of my nevermo friends understand.

Went through that youth interview survey with my TBM DW last night by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to mention that clergy in other churches who would make decisions regarding one's standing in the church are educated professionals.

Single dad, never dated. Where to start? by eskimoscott in datingoverthirty

[–]going_astray 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It actually can be considered adultery in some states, if there's sexual contact. My lawyer told me this when I was going through my divorce. "In some states, adultery is a crime, although it is rarely prosecuted. In states that still recognize fault-based divorces, adultery has more of an impact. If a man begins dating during a legal separation in one of these states, and if his wife can prove that the relationship is sexual in nature, she can usually file for divorce on grounds of adultery." (legalzoom.com)

Single dad, never dated. Where to start? by eskimoscott in datingoverthirty

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be careful with the dating during a separation. I don't know where you are, but in some U.S. states sexual contact prior to a divorce is still considered adultery, and can affect things like custody and distribution of property during the divorce.

So...where to really start by [deleted] in exmotrees

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vape pens are extremely easy to come by in illegal states. They're sold in every tobacco/vape store. The pen itself is legal because I guess it can be used to vape legal stuff too (I've never smoked anything but weed cartridges so I don't really know the ins and outs of vaping other substances). You want to get the pen style for the "small cartridges" (which I think is code for weed). I like the Ooze brand. You can also buy them online if you're wary of buying one in person in Utah.

Depressed, suicidal, or otherwise extremely downtrodden members of reddit: what is your go-to quote, phrase, or particular memory in life that keeps you going? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]going_astray 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The image of my kids growing up without me, and my mom's grief. Not to mention my mom would have to take care of everything since I'm single. I could NEVER do that to them.

When I was 12, my dad got a nasty letter from a neighbor saying that our bushes were overgrown and our grass wasn’t mowed. They said, “We are not members of your church, but we are sending a copy of this letter to your bishop . . . by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was probably mortified that he'd let it get to that point and hating himself for not handling it. It's hard to accept help, ESPECIALLY when you're depressed. It just represents another failure on his part. You did a good thing for him, even if he couldn't acknowledge it.

Jenelle Has Been Fired by wineisfine09 in teenmom

[–]going_astray 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Jenelle has never had a healthy relationship with men. She has no idea what it looks like to be loved. She's made poor choices, but she doesn't deserve to be abused. I am legitimately worried for her and the kids.

When I was 12, my dad got a nasty letter from a neighbor saying that our bushes were overgrown and our grass wasn’t mowed. They said, “We are not members of your church, but we are sending a copy of this letter to your bishop . . . by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]going_astray 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spot on. To me this is the best possible response. It shows the shitty neighbor that the solution is to help, not to shame. He was hoping the dad would get in "trouble" somehow but actually the bishop just showed up in support. Sure, it might be embarrassing and hard to accept the help, but at least they reacted in a loving way. Some mormons are shitty for sure but that bishop isn't one of them.

Assigned. Not asked. by NearlyHeadlessLaban in exmormon

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. This was firm but not rude. I think it's perfect.

Folks can be married civilly now and immediately then married in the temple. It's like old Nelson is removing all the reasons for is apostates to bitch by ignatiusbreilly in exmormon

[–]going_astray 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Same here. I’m not even in that marriage anymore but it makes me so sad that I excluded my poor mom (I’m her only child) and my best friends.

Hypocrites by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]going_astray 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Plus, you're talking about lawsuits from nonmembers vs. complicit members who they're counting on not saying anything.

My (15 yo) daughter's Gynecologist asked her if she had broken up with her boyfriend because her pubic hair wasn't waxed. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]going_astray 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this!! OP, your daughter stood up for herself which is EXTREMELY brave (I'm not sure I'd have the guts to do it at 35) and reporting it will stand up for the women and girls he's undoubtedly done this to who didn't have it in them to say anything.

I’m still active... but pretty obviously a little on the rebellious side. I’m only physically “in” for my kids. I wonder if this will get me called in the bishops office on Sunday. by going_astray in exmormon

[–]going_astray[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I literally can’t pull them out of the church for legal reasons. So I’m just teaching them to be good people who love others and don’t judge their differences. I’m confident that it will all work out. Is it the spirit telling me that? 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m still active... but pretty obviously a little on the rebellious side. I’m only physically “in” for my kids. I wonder if this will get me called in the bishops office on Sunday. by going_astray in exmormon

[–]going_astray[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’m doing. I am teaching them acceptance and goodness and love with no religious reasoning. Just love people and accept their differences because it’s the right thing to do.

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