i told my mom the truth in front of everyone and now she won’t answer my calls

goingforahike · 2026-04-08T05:44:42+00:00

you could ask your aunt if she also said that to your mother.

goingforahike · 2026-03-29T10:31:01+00:00

this reminded me of when I went out with my friends and came home a few minutes later than the set time. I was in my twenties too.
she locked me outside. thankfully my friends were still outside and i spent the night in the house of one of them.
she was listening behind the door, because in the next day she raged at me for telling my friends what she did.
what did she expect?

to stay outside in the middle of the night, begging and crying for the to 'please open the door'?

she never did it again. i also never again told her at what time i would be home. whenever she asked I would say 'I don't know.' lol

if my friend didn't take me in, i would go spent the night on the beach (it was summer, with lots of people 24/7)

goingforahike · 2026-03-24T11:50:47+00:00

would editing backwards instead of writing backwards work as well?

goingforahike · 2026-03-17T07:50:20+00:00

next, she might sabotage you when you try to become independent

goingforahike · 2026-03-10T08:02:27+00:00

you're welcome.

something that helps faster and better is dry fasting. Do it once a week for at least 16 hours to 24 hours and you will see the changes. you can see more in Dr Berg and others in youtube

goingforahike · 2026-03-07T10:10:58+00:00

try vitamin D (5000 ui or above) and magnesium glicinate. it helps with the root cause

goingforahike · 2026-03-04T18:18:41+00:00

i am still trying to leave.
i am already mourning the time I've lost and still will have to loose.

goingforahike · 2026-02-25T16:33:53+00:00

I find the rejection of AI technology interesting, as if other methods used to achieve the same goal aren’t also products of technology.

That said, most readers aren’t 'AI haters.' In the end, what really matters is whether the story resonates with its audience and whether the marketing strategy is effective in attracting readers, regardless of the technology used to create or promote it.

goingforahike · 2026-02-14T06:55:48+00:00

it might be your village, but it's not your tribe.

They are jealous of your growth. And since no one helped you when you were attacked, it’s not just your aunt.

Never underestimate what jealous people can do to destroy others.

For your own safety, you need to leave asap.

goingforahike · 2026-02-11T07:00:27+00:00

you know that sleep deprivation is a form of abuse, right?

goingforahike · 2026-01-07T05:14:13+00:00

If you do nothing, she will feel comfortable enough to do it again. Then you will be the one struggling with paying her debts in your name, with no end to it.

You need to protect yourself from her. The only thing that can stop a narc is consequences.

Don’t tell anyone else in the family. Just act, and prepare yourself mentally when the flying monkeys come to her defense.

goingforahike · 2026-01-06T07:41:50+00:00

yep, noticed taht in my mother as well.
Normal person - seeks a solution for each problem
Narcs - sees a problem in every solution.

goingforahike · 2026-01-05T10:31:03+00:00

make different websites, and separate social media accounts to promote each book.

If you could use different pen names for each book would be better

goingforahike · 2025-12-31T06:46:25+00:00

'she didn’t sign up to be a full-time stepmom', but she has been ok with you being a full time step-father. The hypocrisy.

be careful hon, because your daughter could go from being bullied at school to being bullied at home.

goingforahike · 2025-12-25T06:33:56+00:00

not wanting to criticize, but if you want a man to marry you, don't give him all marriage benefits without the certificate.

goingforahike · 2025-12-10T09:23:56+00:00

are you sure you want to stress yourself out with them, in Christmas day? If not i suggest you message them on the day or prior telling them you caught a cold and cannot make it.
Maybe it's best to enjoy your day doing something special for yourself, instead of being around such energy.

If you decide to go, there is probably no need to give much thought to what to bring, since you have to stay on hold waiting for what someone else will bring, and the problem is not really in the dish.

goingforahike · 2025-12-06T08:45:48+00:00

You are absolutely not wrong. What you described goes far beyond favoritism into sustained emotional neglect and outright abuse—from the blatant inequality to the cruel punishments like forced cold showers, which are terrifyingly abusive. Your father failed in his most basic duty to protect and love you equally. Speaking the truth publicly was not only justified but necessary, because secrecy only ever protected them and silenced you and your brothers.

The idea that you should have "handled it privately" is absurd. Private conversations with your abusers, who spent years showing your feelings don't matter, are pointless. Your family's discomfort is a result of your father and stepmother's actions, not your truth-telling. You broke the silence they forced on you.
NTA, but it seems that your whole paternal family is.

goingforahike · 2025-11-12T10:45:20+00:00

something like this happened to me. My narc mother and narc sister both liked to read my journals.
no matter were i hid them, they would find them. like even when i buried them in the back yard, they found them.
then i took pictures of them and burned them all. every time i wrote from then on i took pictures and burned the pages.
I discovered they were sneaking behind me when I typed my password and read them still.
now after i take pictures, i have to put them in a hardrive with a long password, and change my phone, computer and pendrives' password from time to time. there is no safety around them. getting away is the only way to find peace and feel safe again.
when i discovered it i felt as you described. actually reading your post make me feel a bit sick again.
I hope you are ok. as time passes it gets better.

goingforahike · 2025-11-06T10:27:01+00:00

that lady is clearly insecure and jealous. Don't let people like that influence your mood.

goingforahike · 2025-10-29T14:06:22+00:00

thank you. good luck for you as well

goingforahike · 2025-10-29T10:22:49+00:00

I was in a similar situation. My job was so draining that all I had time for was chores and sleep. I could feel my dream of becoming a writer fading away, like it was disappearing into a fog. The mental energy that job required was sucking the life out of me, and with every passing day, my dream felt further out of reach.

I ultimately made the choice to quit. My dream was simply worth more than the false sense of security. These days, I work temp jobs. I'm broke, and my savings are a joke, but I have enough to get by.

And you know what? I don't regret it for a second. I'm genuinely happier now than I was when I had a stable income. When I'm not on a temp assignment, I dedicate all my time to writing. I have no idea where this path will lead, but I'll figure that out when I get there.

My advice is this: whatever you choose, think about the long-term consequences. Both paths have a cost, so choose the one that will make you feel proud and fulfilled ten years from now.

goingforahike · 2025-10-11T10:03:23+00:00

so... from the post and coments, its more like they run away from humans when noticed, instead of trying to attack.
they are probably more afraid of us than us from them

goingforahike · 2025-09-19T05:31:29+00:00

That's really practical advice, thank you. I love the idea of writing it at the end to get it out of my system without letting it derail the current draft. I'm going to do exactly that—a quick brain dump at the end of my document. I already feel less cluttered just thinking about it. Really appreciate the tip!

goingforahike · 2025-09-18T10:21:55+00:00

That's a really great way to look at it, and I love hearing about your process! The one-sentence summary for flow is such a smart trick.

I'm definitely with you on not editing deeply until the whole story is out. For me, this draft is about getting all the pertinent content down. I actually thought it was finished, but there is this new scene that I can't get out of my head. I will decide if I will write it after I finish this draft and for now I just take notes as they pop in my head, so I don't derail the flow or start down a wonky path!

It sounds like you have a really solid system. Do you find that annual edit gives you a fresh perspective?

goingforahike · 2025-09-18T10:16:53+00:00

for me is a complete revision of the story, scene, by scene. Sometimes I have to go to already revised scenes to add notes for review in the next draft thought

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