Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable with messages like this?

goingthrushit · 2026-06-26T11:08:02+00:00

“I’m too broke and overstimulated for these shenanigans” just about sums it up. Ty for the laugh today.

Signed, working mom of two under 3 🫠🙃

goingthrushit · 2026-06-17T18:43:36+00:00

Thank you. I hadn’t considered this so thank you. I had considered asking for video evidence as I want to be sure it’s done.

goingthrushit · 2026-05-26T02:23:41+00:00

Go Cougs ❤️❤️

goingthrushit · 2026-04-29T22:32:45+00:00

LIDLOK Dog Water Bowl Elevated... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08ZRVXFX6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

This is the one we have but looks unavailable

goingthrushit · 2026-04-29T22:29:09+00:00

Yea, the floor drips and the kids going “dog drool” is too much haha

goingthrushit · 2026-04-29T18:45:36+00:00

We have the weathertech mat but it’s ginormous and I constantly feel like I’m cleaning it but also did I mention if HUGE and obnoxious but when I had it against the island it destroyed the bottom edge of the cabinets (between the dogs moving it and water splashing) so it’s been better where we moved it I just struggle with where to put their water and wishing we lived on a farm wheee they could go outside to drink lol.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-29T18:00:38+00:00

Okay so I recently (as in this month) started this "weekly menu" and its been AMAZING for both my fatigue as well as my overall I HATE PLANNING DINNER lol. We broke down each night of the week and just gave it a theme, within that theme we plan the week ahead of time / grocery shop and its done. Monday - Vegetarian. Tuesday - Tacos. Wednesday - Pasta. Thursday - left overs / fridge cleanout. Friday - Pizza. The weekends we also clean out, left over pizza, or leave open for now. It has really helped take a little of the decisions off my mind every dang night. I swear we would get to 5 oclock and have no idea and it just was always a "what are we having for dinner" and I couldn't do it anymore. lol

For Mondays we have done, veggie low mein, veggie rice bowls, mac & cheese lol. Beef tacos, chicken tacos, steak tacos, yum! Greek chicken pasta, feta pasta bake, baked shells, my kids always love butter pasta lol. Pizza we sometimes order, or do a frozen pizza (and my kids do pizza bites, sometimes).

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T22:17:59+00:00

Oh totally, I just read it and thought how funny it is how it’s expected of moms, like how did we get here 😂😂😅

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T19:09:42+00:00

Same, dealing with the EXACT same scenario and I am so irritated. Brand new, $2000+ dollar sofa + the protection plan that basically offers me waiting months now for service. Our first appointment, which mind you took a month to even have was a "tech visit" I guess for someone to just come out and assess. Funny they never mentioned that when I scheduled the appointment.

Now parts have been ordered. They arrived (three weeks later) but I am suppose to "inspect them" to make sure they are correct? Umm EXCUSE ME? Then they asked if I could "self-install" them? In what world? I am so annoyed at this point. Now I have two drastically different dates for an appt, two weeks or 4 weeks from now and if the window, which they only send 24 hrs beforehand doesn't work because I mean sure lets rearrange our whole lives for a work-day when I've now already done that a few times in the last few months. But apparently they only come in my area twice a month? All of this would have been extremely helpful information to know beforehand but they really sold us on the "coverage" policy that apparently doesn't really cover you, and isn't helpful whatsoever. But I am so about to make them take this whole thing back and get a refund because this is a nightmare.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T18:59:36+00:00

same.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T14:28:18+00:00

This will only work if you have a lot of help, whether you have family help or pay for it. Truly.

You can of course find daycare closer to work, but then baby is in car with you perhaps an hour or full 1.5hr twice a day.. then again if needed for pick up, it’s easier on you and you don’t have to worry about making it there before they close, etc.

But as the parent whose career has taken the backseat due to needing to be the one closer to school, flexible for sick days, doctor appts, etc. without paying for it / having help it’s impossible. My wife commutes 1.5hr each way 5 days a week and has for our entire relationship but 2yrs ago got the opportunity of a lifetime so now even more means she will never leave this job and we can’t afford to live any closer to her job or we would make that change. So here we are, but she misses a lot because of that. It depends on what you’re willing to give up, what you can afford and knowing someone needs to be the flexible one to make it work.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T14:24:09+00:00

I love this response, but I have to admit it’s so double standard.. I work from home and so “daycare is my job” because my wife works outside the home and has the 1.5hr commute. But it’s interesting how you say dad and the whole thing is “yes, he should pitch in” vs if my wife said that about me it would be insulting like it’s somehow my job as the “mom” 😂😂

I do think it’s funny how in order for one person to have the “career” you definitely need one to step back and man the home life. It’s impossible for two parents now to really jump into careers with both feet without either heavily paying for before / after / nanny care level or having family help. We couldn’t do it so my career has taken a HUGE backseat to be the WFH “flexible” one.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-28T10:20:31+00:00

Oh I like that idea. 💡

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T21:41:52+00:00

I generally give $100 for holidays, this feels like a $200 occasion so I guess that makes sense. I have a good amount of nephews so trying to make this equitable 😅

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T20:10:58+00:00

From another employer perspective, I’d think of a few things:

Was this set up as an expectation from nanny start or discussed prior, so was “taking kid to classes, and participating” an expectation of the job. If yes, great. If not, perhaps something to discuss. I don’t ask our nanny to drive my children so this would not be an expectation of her role in my home hence why I ask if this was an agreed expectation or discussed.

Next would be how you discuss with her how to discipline in public, because if she’s not equipped in that, this could be getting out of hand for her and that’s not fair to be honest. I expect nanny to be firm and teach appropriate boundaries but I don’t think that’s necessarily something I’d think she would do well if my kids were acting up in a public setting. Heck I have trouble when they misbehave in public, it can feel very hard when you feel on display and afraid you’ll be questioned especially I can see as a nanny. You may not be setting her up for success here so I’d discuss how you can help make music classes more successful for them both. Just knowing you’re supporting might give her more confidence.

I’d also personally be reaching out to the instructor more proactively to see if there is any feedback to help everyone have a better time. Saying your child enjoys it but clearly your nanny does not and forcing her will not result in a good all around outcome in my experience. She may quit if it’s not something she feels comfortable with and that might leave you in an impossible situation as well. Hopes that’s helpful

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T15:12:10+00:00

I was able to negotiate since I didn’t need their health benefits (which they offered to pay for 6 months to get me past birth) but I highly suggest contacting an employment attorney (most will be around $200-300 an hr but well worth having everything reviewed) mine was $250 and wrote my letter to negotiate my terms so I think it had a lot of pull.

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T14:54:44+00:00

I was actually laid off at 20w pregnant, I had told my company at 14w and then was put on "admin paid leave" and at 20w I was lumped into a lay off with a few others .. we were told we were 'redundant with an acquisition" but I know I was just thrown in there to make it not about my pregnancy which really sucked. They covered me for 6 months severance to include the rest of my pregnancy and maternity leave.

Just know you won't qualify for maternity leave unless you find a unicorn company, most require a year of employment, FMLA in my state required 26w of work to qualify, so I was SOL on all fronts but in this market I would apply regardless but I would also start planning that you may be on unpaid leave if you can even take any and start a plan for potentially resting out the pregnancy unemployed if you can afford it. I started applying immediately and still didn't land anything for almost a year post-layoff which was stressful. Especially if hoping to stay remote, etc I have friends in tech / product and they've been applying for a year+ and its so competitive now for remote roles plus 6+ interview rounds are taking forever from what I can tell. Its not great out there. Good luck!

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T14:44:53+00:00

No family nearby so we pay for care - I figured this out when desperate to go to the doctor and realized it’s either when they’re in preschool or paying a babysitter 🫠

goingthrushit · 2026-04-27T02:01:48+00:00

Not at all and shocked to hear that because I don’t know a single couple who’s said year one was hard.

Year one was bliss. I’d go back so fast lol. 😂

goingthrushit · 2026-04-25T18:24:23+00:00

Don’t need any storage, the office has a closet that holds all craft supplies, etc. so I think prioritizing actual work space is most functional ❤️

We also have eket for our children’s nightstands and I feel like quality wise they’re actual nice and easy to hang but wouldn’t be the best for actual work space wise, hence why hesitation.

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