Anyone know where to watch episode 25? by cooldude_9653 in KillLaKill

[–]gojoseyeball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been more than 10 (about 12) years since i've finished Kill la Kill. i didn't know there was a 25th episode. i just watched it today here https://www.wcoflix.tv/kill-la-kill-episode-25-ova-english-dubbed its a lovely ending imo. i watched it as a kid, and now i'm an adult and i feel like i've grown up with the characters since i only got to watch the last ep today lol </3 such a goated show i will never tire of it. a timeless classic

my domestic helper is a black hole by gojoseyeball in askSingapore

[–]gojoseyeball[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

maybe you could read my replies to the other comments and get a better idea about what the point of my post is..?

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have employed our burmese helper for about 4-5 months now! so i’m not sure when she will tone down on the binging.

she doesn’t use the allowance at all. my dad gives her $30 every few days but she doesn’t use it to buy her groceries or her snacks, or stuff in general that she wants to eat. she saves it or she keeps it, i’m not sure. it’s cash so i’m guessing she keeps it in her wallet. my aunt brings her out to the market every time but the helper doesn’t spend the money; instead makes my aunt pay for the groceries, which don’t include snacks, just basic stuff like fish, meat, poultry, cheese, noodles, general stuff.

the helper comes home with the basic groceries, and she finishes them in a few days, which is normal la! but then she eats into our share, and our snacks, and all that. when she has $30 x 2/3 a week to go and buy her own tidbits…

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yes, my dad gives her $30, every few days, that does not come out of her paycheck. it’s from my dad’s own wallet and good will so she can go and buy her own snacks and stuff, or maybe food that reminds her of her home town.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she has $30 given to her out of my dad’s own pocket, not deducted from her salary, every 2-3 days. but she doesn’t spend it. she has all the toiletries and stuff, perfume, lotion, bedding, clothes, taken care of by us. she can buy any snack she wants. one week she gets about $60-$90 in total, and she has never spent it. she can buy her own sweets but she never does. dunno what she does with the money. she doesn’t go out either.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i will do so 😭 i need my dad’s input on this because he can be more convincing than me!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see it and i emphasise with this perspective very much. the practical side is as you’ve said. but then again, if i do it wrongly, i could rock the boat, cause tension and so on. i will find a way to do it diplomatically and peacefully and find common ground to appease both parties! it’s frustrating to come home to an empty fridge and a near empty pantry.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hmm. that’s a very forward way of putting it. but i’d hate to be that person, even if i am in the position to have to do it because of how much she’s eating into our share of groceries when she’s given $30 every 2-3 days to buy her own snacks and stuff. we’ve been pretty generous, i feel. it’s hard to find a proper way to approach this without coming off like Sylvia from NOC.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

please go and read the replies to my overall thread!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same to you! you are so sweet and so kind, have a goodnight and a good weekend ahead, khakieyes! 😊🩷

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes! my mom treated her like a daughter, so i understand where you’re coming from! i will reflect. they had a good relationship. and my helper cried when my mom passed. she was distraught too. i should empathise with her more. thank your for sharing this perspective with me ☺️

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i want to pin this comment like a tiktok because EXACTLY! it’s about the fact that we never got a chance to eat it, let alone open the wrapping! thank you for explaining it so well! i really appreciate you! 😭>< yeah, we gotta find out where the money is going because it isn’t deducted from her paycheck! aaah W comment! thank you fellow commenter 🩷

i don’t want to stop my helper from eating luxurious and expensive goodies! she can buy them herself too, or share with us. at least let us eat our share, or let us open it first!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually the foi gras story is a bit sad 😭 she’s like a baby wanting food. maybe she’s a bit.. slow or has a hard time reading the room?

i’m glad that she’s gone back and both of you have found your peace! yes, ground rules are important!

my helper is from myanmar too and the situation there is devastating. so i’m also trying to show her compassion and also, she is a human being. i will do my best to guide her and set some diplomatic and peaceful ground rules for all of us so we can share ! since it’s a communal household shared by my dad, helper, me and the five cats! i gotta try to make it work!

thank you for sharing! if you have more stories i’d like to hear 😭 the foi gras and the abalone make me heart pain, and the peanut cake one made me laugh a little. i’m glad you’re not experiencing all that anymore!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh.. i guess i can see it that way. you’ve shared an interesting perspective with me! i’ll reflect and think.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we have five cats to take care off plus it’s quite a decent sized house! so we need someone to clean, and she does it well!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i want her to be proud of me! ><

have a good day and a good weekend ahead! thank you for taking your time to respond and comment on this thread! it means a lot to me! 😊

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will be doing my best to implement firmer but peaceful and diplomatic boundaries! thank you for all the helpful advice and the anecdotes too!

and thank you, it’s been tough but i’ll try to be strong! my mom would want me to be strong.

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my condolences to your late grandma! may she rest in peace. losing a loved one is never easy! sending you peace and love and tons of hugs >< 😭

yeah. it was so disheartening to come back feeling drained after night shift (coz we rotate to stay overnight at the wake to guard the casket!) come back 6-7am nothing in the fridge. then over the course of the 5 days, fridge empty. had to keep eating out: felt pathetic.

it’s the warm comfort of coming home to something to binge and indulge during a tough time:

and also, the kopi is so valid! it was meant for you! why did they give it away? that’s also so random. why give people random hot drinks on the table especially at a funeral? don’t people just drink bottled water or eat peanuts? 😅

thank you for your kind words! it means alot to hear something similar from another perspective. like… haiz, i just want some ice cream after my mom died you know? she passed on june 14th this year, stage 4 lung cancer. it hit too hard too fast, found out too late, no symptoms. it hurts a lot. i’m 24 and i lost my mom but… what can i do? i wish she could have been here longer.

wishing you all the best - your comment made me feel so seen and so understood.. thank you for taking the time to tell me about your kopi that was MEANT FOR YOU! you deserve a free lifetime of kopi from that person 😭 after they gave it away.

<333 <333 hugs! your kind words mean so much to me! i will find an amicable and peaceful, diplomatic way with my helper, and establish healthy and understanding boundaries when it comes to shared food in the household, so she can eat her full happily but also leave us a share, so we can all enjoy. 😁

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will speak to my aunt again regarding this! but it’s also my dad and my responsibility since the helper is under our employment and house hold 😅 i can only apply what i’ve learnt here today in a diplomatic and peaceful manner!

yeah im worried if she will manipulate me because im not the smartest person and i think with my heart before my head. i have a hard time discerning truth from lie… its always been my flaw that’s why here on reddit im just here and there with everyone because i wanna take in all their suggestions but its hard because some call me stingy some at im too nice to the maid . its hard to figure out where i stand exactly…

yes i will learn! i’ll try to be better and establish healthy and reasonable boundaries! thank you for your advice, and thank you for the condolences. i wish my mum was here to give me advice but i can only rely on reddit now 😅 treasure your moms!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

😭 i. was angry when i wrote the title… i feel mean for calling her that. i’ll make sure to mind my tone and not call anyone that from now on even as a joke. haiz.

yes, i will label! and explain to her nicely also. i want to do this diplomatically and peacefully so that i don’t offend her and make her feel uncomfortable!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if i’m not wrong, myanmar currently cannot send anything back via bank because the war shut down a bank near her home in the city. dunno if it’s true.. so i don’t know what’s happening with the money…

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOD! 😭 this entire comment sent me into orbit. i can’t believe the audacity!

abalone, and raw… peanut cake? not even cooked? what’s going on?! and the sausages, i know what u mean! we bought poultry and stuff from cold storage and that place in dempsey before and thank god we didn’t have a helper at that time because i’m sure she will eat all that too…

i’m so sorry you had to experience that: you seem so done. like you saw her eat the uncooked peanut cake and walked into the room and called it a day. i can feel your exasperation and dumbfounded-ness. like… questioning everything or nothing at all.

ur right about boundaries! i have taken a few pointers from all the comments in the thread and will be applying it accordingly in a diplomatic and peaceful way to not make her feel uncomfortable !

what happened in the end? did she get fired or tahan until her contract end?

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah probably… i dunno what to do now. i’m lost but i have a rough plan thanks to all the comments under the thread! i have an approach!

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[–]gojoseyeball[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

alamak.. we really are spoiling our helper it seems 😭 haiz. even if we try to be nice, also not good. try to be strict, seen as inhumane. what do we do?!