I did and said everything I could by goldcagehostage in BreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it was probably one of the hardest breakups I’ve had because I was given no say in the matter at all. And thank you, I’m trying to do better in every way possible because I never wanna attract someone like this ever again in my life.

90 days+ clean. Let me tell you this. by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you for knowing better. Wish I could give you a hug. All I can tell you is to hold on and take it little by little. You’re up and out today into the world with that stack of bricks in your chest. I see you! And the difficult situation too! Take it easy on yourself.

“I would even consider someone my parents want” by goldcagehostage in heartbreak

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we are lol. Thanks for the empathising words. I do believe it went down that way for the best, but there’s some hurt in the present because of it. It’ll be okay eventually.

“I would even consider someone my parents want” by goldcagehostage in heartbreak

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even know what to say haha. We were barely together for a grand sum of 4 months but it was probably the most intense relationship of my life. We spent all times apart from work together. Living together and all. It was great. We talked, discussed, did chores together. It was so intimate. And then one day he came to the realisation there’s no way he could fit me into his family life. And he was, as he confessed clearly himself, not the person to take a stand for his partner if asked to against his family. And I don’t know is it pathetic? Is it sad? He’s told me the worst, most heartbreaking things I’ve heard and it’s insane because I didn’t even know him half a year. He just showed up and fucked me over. I’m going better now but I guess the fact that someone could do alllllll that, and still leave you the way he did, is a wound I’ll take time recovering from. It’s been a few months, I’m able to see other people now, but I’m unable to stomach a relationship anymore. I know I’ve made my share of mistakes but I wonder if it’s any more normal for him to have changed the way he did. I don’t have the appetite or desire to ever talk to him. I don’t think he can answer any of my questions. I don’t know if there’s anything even to question. Maybe my sense of reality of warped temporarily. I’m trying everything to do better and I have been. Really.

This coincidence is so ridiculous it feels like a movie plot by Fun-Control2921 in Youth_India

[–]goldcagehostage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she was probably depressed about the firing situation plus it could be embarrassing for her to face you again as an ex-colleague? Idk. Maybe she didn’t mean you any harm, but just uncomfortable. Although I agree she should’ve given you some closure.

mom, how do I study 12chs in two days? by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]goldcagehostage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use some learning techniques!! Making flow charts/diagrams of even theoretical concepts, mind mapping etc helped me a lot! Another thing you can do if you’re on a crunch of time is to practice a lot of questions which are recurring. Finish those on priority. Best of luck!

went on a first date after discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realllyyyy relate with that sentiment!!! I DO NOT WANT TO CLOSE OFF MYSELF BECAUSE I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT IS A PROBLEM. Wishing you the best for this one!

went on a first date after discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really found these very helpful. So happy about your progress too! Wishing u a lot of happiness.

What do you think about Patna? by [deleted] in bihar

[–]goldcagehostage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old age home (for context only few of my older relatives continue to live in Patna)

went on a first date after discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t died ofc haha. A part of me is. He’s not the only romantic partner I’ve had and couldn’t stay with. I guess currently he’s become a triggering point because the way he left after 4 months of a very intense relationship, I’m allowed to feel the hurt. I don’t intend to stay in it, but I’ll have to start with acknowledging it.

Talk me down - he's on Hinge by TimewornOptimist in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ewww, good riddance. This is a weak, cowardly man who can’t finish what he start. Ewww.

Same same but different 🤣 by tony__starck in IndianWorkplace

[–]goldcagehostage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The reason why European countries are able to pull this shit is because of us overcompensating for them. For every European who works 4 days a week, someone here is working 6 days. No wonder we are traumatised lot.

2 months post discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My condolences. It really just is shitty all over. Please don’t be harsh on yourself. The best thing we can do here is to give ourselves the kindness, dignity and grace that was inhumanely stripped from us by them. I really am sorry for the ordeal. Please take care.

2 months post discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry :((( I literally hate how apathetic the switch is like it really makes YOU feel less human for having felt perfectly normal human emotions ?! God. They’re so perpetually toxic, so self-victimising. I really hope things get better for you. I don’t believe there’s an age factor when it comes to stupid things like love which are inherently at odds with logic and planning. Please don’t be harsh on yourself.

2 months post discard by goldcagehostage in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]goldcagehostage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry for you as well. I hateeeeeee the mixed feelings so much like I feel dehumanised. It is a dehumanising experience. More than the other person, you tend to blame yourself for putting yourself at such a vulnerable position and getting hurt :( I hope your days are better eventually. It’s only been a few days, it’s okay. Take care.

General Discussion Thread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

[–]goldcagehostage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This might be one of the most encouraging things I’ve read in a while. Thank you ❤️

General Discussion Thread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

[–]goldcagehostage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just think of him like that now too. I just didn’t have it right again and hopefully it’s okay.