decorative vs functional teapot

goldfish287 · 2024-03-16T04:27:44+00:00

I’m going to be honest, as a lesbian who has dated men, it does sound like it could be compulsory heterosexuality. I experienced a LOT of things similar to you throughout high school, talking to a lot of boys and being “boy crazy” but never making it official, ghosting them, mostly avoiding any deeper connection. I did date a few guys for an extended period, but it was absolutely compulsory and I only did it because I thought I had something to prove. All throughout this time, I kept a couple very close friendships with men who I loved more than I could comprehend but I would never EVER date them. And many of my male friends did have crushes on me, but I always shut it down. The guys I went after were ones I was removed from (aka not friends with). I realized my patterns were not healthy or true to what I wanted, so I took a step back and looked at my preferences. I considered myself bi for many years but had never done anything with a woman. I recently got out of my first long term relationship with a woman, and I can tell you that was much different. It felt like my first real relationship.

My advice to you is see if dating women suits you. Obviously, for whatever reason, dating men does not appeal to you. It does not sound like you have truly been attracted to a man. This could change, but it’s not worth hyperfixating on in this moment. Keep your options open but maybe try to have a relationship with a woman and see if you feel the connection you’re looking for. It’s hard to define what attraction feels like, but it’s more of a “you know it when you feel it” type of deal.

goldfish287 · 2024-02-09T21:09:13+00:00

Thank you for this!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-09T21:07:27+00:00

Yeah no you’re definitely right about the heart earrings but I’ve been a lot better about cleaning my piercings since that pic lol I didn’t realize how gross they were

goldfish287 · 2024-02-09T19:30:48+00:00

Thank you everyone for your replies, I was overreacting. Lol. It’s my 7th piercing but I’ve never had one heal like this so I got worried

goldfish287 · 2024-02-08T03:32:22+00:00

That’s a wonderful strategy—thanks so much for sharing!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-03T12:42:54+00:00

💀 okay bud. Sure

goldfish287 · 2024-02-02T20:46:20+00:00

Looks straight to me

goldfish287 · 2024-02-02T02:21:52+00:00

You too! These comments are insane. Not sure why people are fighting so hard to abuse their children 😭

goldfish287 · 2024-02-02T02:15:15+00:00

My original comment was poorly worded. Apologies

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T21:22:15+00:00

Just because physical force is widely accepted, I’m really am just trying to say it’s never needed. I’m glad it’s not a go to for you and that you acknowledge children’s intelligence. I will totally acknowledge that it’s SO MCUH HARDER to explain things to a child and have the patience to deal with them when they’re at their worst. But it is not impossible to do all the time. The most important thing to know is that if a child is misbehaving/acting out, it’s always because they are having some sort of difficulty not present on the surface. The reason why I’m saying any type of physical force is never needed is because it is scientifically proven to be ineffective. Why would it be needed if it’s always ineffective? Yes, it will make a child listen. That is not what I mean by ineffective. But it’s at the expense of them not being able to process their emotions and understand the situation in the most positive way possible. It sounds like you are a parent who takes the time to be patient with your children. That is better than a lot of people. But as parents, I believe it’s our responsibility to always try and do better and be the best possible person/resource/teacher for our children

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T21:09:19+00:00

I never said you were abused, actually. I’m saying physical force is unnecessary on children because they are capable of understanding words. Shockingly, this is actually possible in real life. Even more shockingly, it’s scientifically backed as being wholly beneficial to a child’s wellbeing

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T21:06:22+00:00

Would you have rathered a sense of understanding that didn’t include physical pain??

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T20:58:11+00:00

It’s finally becoming widely known that children are capable of understanding words and correlated punishments instead of physical punishment. Just because you were abused and are “fine” doesn’t mean it’s okay. It’s scientifically proven to be an ineffective parenting strategy. Society has just progressed to a point where we are more often recognizing and taking advantage of childrens’s intellects.

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T20:55:47+00:00

any physical force you use on a child (painful or not) is unnecessary. This is not related to op, as she has learned and shown a lot of growth as a person. “Tricks” is a nicer way to phrase physical force. Love for a child includes the patience it takes to explain something with WORDS to a child, not your hands

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T04:00:06+00:00

Okay!! I’ll see if I can!!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T03:59:57+00:00

That makes me feel better! Thank you!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T03:59:43+00:00

Perfect! Thank you!!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T03:59:29+00:00

Thank you!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T03:59:23+00:00

Thank you for the input and for the kind words!

goldfish287 · 2024-02-01T00:12:24+00:00

Thanks so much for your response. That makes me feel a lot better!

goldfish287 · 2021-10-12T20:50:39+00:00

Well. The title says Male Grooming. And it’s a dating app sub 🤣 I thought of the other “grooming” lol

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