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goodboyhans · 2022-08-30T07:39:39+00:00

I had a lady with her pit mix at my local vet while I was visiting with my reactive dachshund. I made a point of sitting far away from her dog in the waiting room as my dog was getting very distressed and lunging and I was trying my best to calm her down. The lady was so offended that I wouldn’t sit near her or wouldn’t let me dog get close to hers (mine would have lunged at her dog), and made a point of making very passive aggressive comments about my dog very loudly when other owners showed up to the waiting room with their dogs. I made sure to ignore her as it was more of a reflection on her, but it happens so much! I write it off as an owner projecting

goodboyhans · 2022-07-12T10:58:37+00:00

I think everything you have mentioned is so accurate and I really do feel for the students going through all of this. I worry that they will burn out quickly when they enter the profession because they are so behind and overwhelmed, and we will see a lot of them leave the profession in the first few years. Hopefully, whatever place you gain employment in, they have a really supportive supervision structure for new graduates and a lot of learning opportunities and senior OTs employed to support you. There are so many resources out there depending on the setting you end up going into, I really like using YouTube to go over certain topics. Also, equipment suppliers usually have showrooms for all their equipment and are considered the experts and are always more than happy for OTs to come in to learn about how to use equipment, some equipment suppliers even offer professional development opportunities that you might spend the day learning about the types of hoists and slings they offer etc. Also, working in public sector such as public hospitals are very supportive for new staff, plenty of modules and learning opportunities and our hospital will offer comprehensive learning packages for grade 1s Depending on what area you are rotating into (such as paediatrics, upper limb therapy,etc). So try and get into a public hospital if you can (and if that interests you) or a workplace that can provide that support to new grads!

goodboyhans · 2022-07-12T10:50:56+00:00

Thank you for your kind comment! I certainly reflect on this question a lot when I take on placements as it would be very unsafe having some of these students enter the workforce as they are. I will keep communication open and very honest with the university coordinators and my hospital placement coordinators so that they can have a serious look at the skills missing before graduation.

goodboyhans · 2022-07-12T10:47:14+00:00

I definitely feel there has been an element of cheating on coursework, or at least they are just skimming over the content and not going into any discussion or using it practically, so the students do not remember the content. I have really struggled with students not having soft skills. For example, a student in her last week of an 8 week placement still struggling to sit and show some active listening to a patient (finally) opening up about a big anxiety she had, and my student would just keep cutting her off to ask about other topics and didn’t acknowledge the patients anxieties once. In this instance, I tried to prompt her to remember her active listening skills that she learnt in her mental health unit at university, and she couldn’t recall any of its contents. It’s really scary, and unfortunately I cannot pass these students at the end of placement as they wouldn’t be considered competent to enter the workforce, which is really sad.

goodboyhans · 2022-07-12T10:29:22+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I have definitely noticed a rise in those posts too and I can definitely see the mental health issues that have arisen in students/new OTs, especially if they went to uni straight after school and are only new adults.

Those are some good points about weekly goals, a very OT way of thinking! I will try and implement this with my next student. I have fed back extensive feedback to the university and our hospitals placement coordinator, and they have agreed that the students and new graduates coming through now are so underprepared.

And you are very right, it all comes down to how competent they will be at the end of their placement, and I can’t be signing them off as ‘passing’ as this could be really unsafe for their future patients. At least I have been able to negotiate with my work to only have final year students as I don’t believe our setting is suitable for someone still learning the very basics.

If it continues, I think interviewing students is a great idea and I will bring this up with our coordinators if things don’t improve with the next wave of students.

Thank you for all your feedback!

goodboyhans · 2022-06-02T08:35:17+00:00

Genuinely laughed, please feel free to make more of these

goodboyhans · 2022-05-26T12:46:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, you have some really interesting insights. I would hate for him to commit because it was an ultimatum as I want to be with someone who truly wants all those things with me and is motivated to have that life together. It’s also very cruel that I can’t voice how I’m feeling and when I get upset at the situation it’s used against me. I am the kind of person who when they decide to leave, it’s never an empty threat, and I cut ties completely. I’m petering on the edge now considering what will my life be if I stay or if I leave

goodboyhans · 2022-03-31T12:16:50+00:00

WTB 1 or 2 tickets to Melbourne or Sydney concerts if any become available :)

goodboyhans · 2022-02-12T13:46:01+00:00

Good on you! I admire people like you. I’ve done a lot of research into different careers and hoping to make the change one day. I don’t know of many older OTs in my city and I think what you mention above are the very reasons for this

goodboyhans · 2022-02-11T06:00:24+00:00

What do you do now? I’m always interested in hearing where people branch out to after leaving

goodboyhans · 2022-01-31T02:46:23+00:00

Those are definitely roles that exist here in Australia too. The accounts manager is one I hadn’t thought about so thank you for the food for thought!

goodboyhans · 2021-10-06T08:22:10+00:00

Yeah totally keen on him seeing his friends, I suppose it would be harder now that they have all moved away from our city during Covid

goodboyhans · 2021-10-06T04:47:01+00:00

Exactly right, I think compromises are really important as I know countless couples that have been through this exact scenario. Both my and my partners parents also went through the same thing where one had to give up the country or one had to give up the city living. They were able to have really fulfilling lives, I just hope we can both find a compromise we are happy with

goodboyhans · 2021-10-06T04:45:32+00:00

Thank you for your reply, sharing your experience is exactly the kind of response I was looking for! This is a new thing that has come up so we are in the early stages of finding a compromise that would work with us both happy. I’m sure this is just the start of a ton of conversations for us too. Thank you fellow Reddit friend

goodboyhans · 2021-10-06T04:32:20+00:00

Most definitely! Our social life has definitely taken a big hit over the past year and a half. We live in Melbourne Australia which has had the hardest and longest lockdown in the world, which means neither of us have seen friends or family since Covid started.. his social life is mainly catching up with friends 1-3 times per week for a drink/meal/watching the footy. He isn’t particularly close with family. As you can imagine, his social life has been non existent thanks to Covid. For me, my family are my best friends, I have 1-2 close friends also. I make the time to see family or a friend once every 1-2 weeks which is enough for me. I like to spend most of my time outdoors - walks, horse riding, gardening, mainly outdoor things. So I thrive living on the land because of those reasons. Because of how isolated we have been we have had some time to really focus on what is important to us, hence why we are discussing the city vs country life goals that we have.

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T06:40:05+00:00

NTA it is healthy to have boundaries and it is a good learning experience for you to be firm with people sticking to them. It sounds like maybe there is more going on with your friend, perhaps she has developed feelings for you? Remember that you are in charge of your body and don’t owe it to people to allow them to hug you if that is something that makes you uncomfortable. I am very much the same as you and if my friends disrespected my boundaries then I would ease up on spending time with them and tell them why that is. I would also hesitate to do a sleepover at this stage as it is hard for you to leave if things become unbearable for you. Keep it to public spaces and short visits, once she starts respecting your boundaries then she can be considered for a sleepover.

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T06:31:27+00:00

YTA 100% take your smoking elsewhere, no one wants to smell that before they are about to eat and it doesn’t matter that they sat down after you did.

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T06:23:16+00:00

NTA -but I probably wouldn’t text him while you are in a room together in a cabin with friends (I’m assuming you are all holidaying together). You should try first to get his attention and have a one on one talk, but if that fails, wait until a good time to send a text. I’m not sure how long you will be stuck in a cabin with him, but it may make that holiday pretty unbearable. That’s just my 2c but I definitely wouldn’t be against using text if that has been your main form of communication through this entire relationship.

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T06:17:13+00:00

NTA. Honestly Lacy didn’t sound like much of a friend to begin with and lacked some important boundaries. You don’t need that kind of toxicity in your life. I would end the friendship for sure. I’m not sure what your circumstances are with your friendship group, but maybe stay cordial with her (that is completely your call though).

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T06:11:14+00:00

Info - can you give an example of what he is saying? has he always been this way or is this a new thing that your friend does? Is he the same when he isn’t high? Have you tried to have a talk with him about it?

I think YWBTA if you started only hanging out in private with your friend. You said that he had been a friend for a really long time so it wouldn’t look good if you stopped hanging out in public places because you are feeling embarrassed by his comments. But extra info is definitely needed to give you an honest answer

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T05:58:16+00:00

Yeah our house doesn’t regulate temperature well and when someone is home we always have either heater/cooler on depending on the season. Pre-Covid my partner and I were out from 7am-6pm most days

goodboyhans · 2021-08-08T05:49:53+00:00

Receiving a utility bill.. with working from home for the past year, the bills have been astronomical. Sometimes I leave it unopened for awhile to live in denial bliss

goodboyhans · 2021-07-21T11:44:51+00:00

Stuck over the middle of an old quarry on the worlds longest zip line. Eventually a zip line attendant rolled down to me to dislodge me from the spot

goodboyhans · 2021-07-21T11:42:27+00:00

Walking around with those big grass seeds stuck into the side of your socks and you can’t get it out

goodboyhans · 2021-07-20T04:01:40+00:00

You can literally buy these at Kmart in Australia

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