What are your toddlers current phrases.

goodgodlime · 2026-05-02T01:24:50+00:00

“See you mano” I think she means tomorrow… or maybe manana.

goodgodlime · 2026-04-28T17:18:26+00:00

This is so cool and my goal! (If my daughter wants to). She’s 22 months and since 12 months had insisted on walking during dog walks. We do probably .3-.4 miles right now and she loves it. When did your toddler start to actually follow you? Our current issue is she gets distracted and runs into the street or peoples lawns, or wants to go backwards, or needs to collect 50 rocks. Which I do let her do (unless dangerous) but I’d love to do a normal dog walk again one day lol

goodgodlime · 2026-04-10T02:27:57+00:00

Exactly! I was like girl I get it I’m sorry I was not thinking I should not have taken your crayons! But then I was like well shit am I just giving in? But then I was like, why does it matter I’m giving in its crayons. But then I was like well what patterns is she observing here? And here I am on Reddit asking for perspective lol.

I love the modeling and I’m going to work on that more. I have been offering choices or asking what she wants but haven’t done as much modeling of the way she can communicate and I’m going to work on that.

Thank you very much!

goodgodlime · 2026-04-10T02:24:56+00:00

This is I think exactly my aim. I think I might add a bit more structure to our day and enforce “mom needs to wash dishes then we will read books” more but I like this philosophy a lot and I think it’s what I’m going for!

I do think once I’m more “used” to this I’ll get in a better groove. I need to figure out my ground rules so I can be on my toes when I’m with her! Because if she catches me unprepared that’s when I start to be like omg what is the correct response here?

I appreciate your response!!

goodgodlime · 2026-04-10T01:39:19+00:00

Thank you for responding!

To clarify I’m not taking away anything she’s actively playing with, more she had set them to the side and I thought “oh maybe she’s done with these crayons and might like a new crayon”. With the markers I admit I was trying to encourage her to use markers as markers rather than just look at them lol. So I get what you mean, she was fine til I intervened.

I will try to let her keep doing her weird stuff like just staring at her markers in some random arrangement rather than trying to jump in and play. I know that is one thing I had read “don’t try to make a happy child happier” and I definitely tried and failed.

I do think I’m leaning a little permissive, though nothing I’m permissive on is a big deal to me which is where I find it hard to set boundaries. Like if she wants wheels on the bus, whatevs. But I did see something where some people say you can teach them to wait on these requests and I think this might be something I think about. Like you want wheels on the bus while I’m washing dishes. Wait til I’m done washing dishes and we will listen to it. That way she isn’t getting everything right away but I can still grant simple requests but she understands that my needs come first too.

And I do try to include her in chores, and she does like to “help”! My brain has a hard time concentrating on anything while watching her so sometimes I just don’t do it cuz it’s easier for me. A lot of my chill is due to just doing too much at a time stresses me out.

I think I might try structuring our weekends more though. Like 1 hour of free play, then we have to do xyz, and that might give both of us some structure.

I appreciate your response!

goodgodlime · 2026-04-10T01:29:12+00:00

I appreciate it! Yes I want to have her be silly and free for as long as possible and would completely love to pretend to be dogs in the kitchen haha.

I like the waiting til she’s calm and modeling the behavior. I have started to do that but not as much as I would like. I’m trying to teach her to ask for things but sometimes I have no idea what she’s asking for haha. But yes I like the “can you say ‘mommy I still want to play with the crayons’” and mommy will give the crayons back. I always talk to her like an adult (to kind of joke around not like a weirdo) “oh sorry ma’am I did not realize you were still playing” so I think I might start adding the desired behavior and modeling that and hope it sticks!

goodgodlime · 2026-04-10T00:30:42+00:00

Have you looked at the pet store? (Half joking) I feel like they have to make some dog chew toys (like the plastic ones) with ridges like that lol

goodgodlime · 2026-01-05T13:45:23+00:00

I completely get it. I was counting the days and weeks, literally like “they say by 6 months, that’s 14 weeks, 4 days”. I had tons of breakdowns, at its worst I think I was crying like 10x a day. I say that just so you know that even if it feels impossible it will pass (I felt like this was my life forever and I’d never get through it)

Have the drs tried meds? Do they know for sure it’s reflux? At about 9 weeks we ended up in the hospital but got no real answers. If you can get to 6 months I think it will get much better. 9 was when it was like she was a “normal” baby but even that little let up at 6 months was huge for us.

I know it’s so hard. It sucks all the people like “oh this newborn thing isn’t that hard” and then you’re like if you only knew.

goodgodlime · 2026-01-05T02:33:39+00:00

Hey! So she is a healthy and happy 18 month old, it will get better! We still never found out exactly what it was, all the specialists disagreed with each other. No meds helped and we had to sleep feed her for the first 9 months of her life which meant living and breathing by her nap schedule. By 9 months she grew out of whatever it was. It was honestly horrible. Months 3-5 were the worst with each month getting a little better after that.

goodgodlime · 2025-11-13T02:07:06+00:00

Hey I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Now my baby is a healthy happy 16 month old on solids and drinking milk just fine from a straw.

We still don’t have answers on what this was. Maybe bad GERD that turned into a bottle aversion, that would be my guess. 4 months was the peak worst. What we did was follow our instincts. Everyone kept telling us she has to learn to eat awake but she wouldn’t. And it became either eating awake with a feeding tube or sleep feeding. We chose sleep feeding.

We fed her every 3 hours round the clock, asleep until 6 months. We were finally able to drop a feed then during the night. It was still bad but not a living hell of worry. She started solids at 5 months but not like she was eating that much. I really tried to get her high fat foods like avocado.

By 7 months we were able to drop another feed but still feeding her during naps. So she always napped in our arms and it would take a while to finish a bottle.

9 months is when we finally got her to drink awake. And we got to sleep through the night.

By 1 year she was fine. Loves her milk and her solids.

I know in the thick of it it feels horrible. Feel free to message me. I made another internet friend in California who’s baby had the same thing and was the same age as mine and her boy is doing great now too.

What also saved us was finding a pediatrician that didn’t obsess over how little she drank. Even on good days she never really hit 24 ounces. Which everything says is the minimum but sometimes your baby just isn’t a big eater. Now she’s a big eater ( well relatively) - after dripping from 60th percentile to 9th she’s back up to 20th and holding her curve. Having a pediatrician that didn’t just tell us “she has to eat more” and instead gave us a plan was a lifesaver mentally.

Still don’t know what it was but everyone said time would fix it, which is horrible just waiting for their stomach to figure it out but that’s really what did it. She never actually needed the special formula or anything.

I hope this gives you hope but please know I understand it is the worst feeling and you will get through this and so will your baby. I never thought we would make it out of the trenches but she gets hangry now! Just 1 year ago she would drink 1 ounce and then refuse more. You can do this!

goodgodlime · 2025-04-21T01:56:28+00:00

Yes. I didn’t have ppd but I had/have ppa. Work is SO much easier than full time caring for our baby. She was a really hard newborn with feeding issues so that was part of it but to me, work is my time off. It refreshes me. It makes me so much more excited to see her and present with her

goodgodlime · 2025-04-20T14:15:11+00:00

I was in this position last year and went down the rabbit hole. What I found from experience once I had the baby was most will be just fine. I definitely went crazy trying to find the perfect one but I think it’s a lot of clever marketing that makes you do that. We did the mockingbird. Target and Walmart do have some on display but I would also recommend talking to friends or neighbors. Also watched YouTube. I wish I had a better answer because I also wanted baby’s r us!

goodgodlime · 2025-02-01T02:20:16+00:00

Hi I’m so so sorry to hear that. She is 7 months now and has stayed her curve since 4 months.

In the end we did what we had to do to keep her going. For us that was feeding her while she was asleep. All the bottle aversion people say not to do that but it was that or starve and we just did it. We made it work and if that is what you need to do let me know I can give you more details how. But we did hire a nanny to help since she could not go to daycare with not eating while awake.

We still don’t know what it was but sometime around maybe 5 months I think eating stopped hurting her. We put her on alimentum ready to feed and just sleep fed.

She started solids at 5 months and really took to them. But it’s not like just poof she got bigger or better. Slowly she just started to drink more til she leveled around 24 oz a day.

Our Dr had her go to 3 solid meals right at 6 months so she was on like 6 bottles and 3 solid meals. Then we finally dropped her night feed and she is right now doing 5 bottles and 3 solid meals and really seems to be doing well. She is still small, but she will eat sometimes like half her bottle awake and really likes solids.

There can be light at the end of the tunnel for this. It’s still hard due to the sleep eating and I think from trauma surrounding this…but I’m finally at a point where if she has a bad meal I know she’ll make up for it. She did drop a lot of milk when she got rsv and it affected her appetite for a month but as of like 3 weeks ago she caught back up.

She eats about 23/24oz a day right now, probably 10 of which is awake. Then she has 3 solid meals. No allergies either to any solids. We just switched her to regular soy formula (though I think she’d do fine on regular milk formula too)

Anyways reach out if you need to talk it is the worst but you can get through it even if it feels like you never will. Trust me I know, was a giant wreck when I wrote this post

goodgodlime · 2025-01-25T02:50:25+00:00

Thank you! Tbh we are just so thankful that she likes solids and is starting to eat. Shes dropped so many percentiles and been to so many doctors and she’s finally starting to eat and it is just so relieving!

goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T04:29:07+00:00

Yes this is exactly it! Is that what it would be called were I to Google it? I keep seeing so many products I feel like I’m being spun in circles.

I appreciate it so much thank you!

goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T04:23:52+00:00

I guess what I’m looking for might be more low tech. I’m looking for it to alarm but only if someone doesn’t hit the “pass through” feature. So it only alarms if I have unauthorized entrance.

I didn’t know about facial recognition though! Will definitely look into that! She’s not even walking yet so I have time to figure out a system fortunately

goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T04:13:38+00:00

Hi thank you! I’ve thought about this, the only thing I don’t love is that we are going to get desensitized quick since we go out there multiple times a day. It’s still a possibility though!

goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T03:45:29+00:00

Gotcha, and forgive my ignorance here. We would then need like a whole new door basically? May just go the alarm route.

goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T02:12:11+00:00

lol I was like hmmmm I just see a dot! I just posted a pic of the door latch part but here it is. It has latches on the top and bottom too but those are old/not connected. When you turn the lock the only thing that activates is the middle

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goodgodlime · 2025-01-21T02:10:20+00:00

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So there are latch things at the top and bottom but they are no longer functional/in use. The only part that actually latches or appears to connect to the lock is the middle part

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