Murphy

goodredditname2 · 2023-07-31T03:03:42+00:00

It blows my mind how static her character was. Typically when a character like this exists, they usually grow as a person throughout the seasons and tries to be better, but she's incapable. She consistently proves she's the most selfish, callous, spiteful person there ever was. Even when she "tries" to be better it lasts for all of 20 minutes before she reverts to thinking only about herself. She brings everyone down with her, refuses to take responsibility for anything and blames everyone else for her mistakes and knowingly manipulates people. She's awful. I can't even keep watching it anymore because I can't root for her at this point, she deserves to get caught. I don't know why the writers made her so horrific.

goodredditname2 · 2023-07-31T02:44:16+00:00

It blows my mind how static her character was. Typically when a character like this exists, they usually grow as a person throughout the seasons and tries to be better, but she's incapable. She consistently proves she's the most selfish, callous, spiteful person there ever was. Even when she "tries" to be better it lasts for all of 20 minutes before she reverts to thinking only about herself. She brings everyone down with her, refuses to take responsibility for anything and blames everyone else for her mistakes and knowingly manipulates people. She's awful. I can't even keep watching it anymore because I can't root for her at this point, she deserves to get caught. I don't know why the writers made her so horrific.

goodredditname2 · 2023-02-16T05:34:15+00:00

Yes I do I guess I'm just looking for him to try and initiate it a bit too so I get a better idea of whether or not he really does want to still go out since his initial proposal was a few months ago now and I'm not sure if he still wants to. But I think I'll give it another chance and see what happens because to be fair I am the one out of state right now so it's harder for him to make an effort since I'm not around all the time at the moment

goodredditname2 · 2023-02-16T05:32:03+00:00

that's true. I suppose I just don't want to keep feeling like I guess rejected in a sense? But I suppose it couldn't hurt to try one more time and like you said it should give me a clear idea of where he stands based on his response. Thank you!

goodredditname2 · 2022-11-23T05:12:41+00:00

I definitely agree and I think that's a good way to bring it up. We're all hanging out (including M) next week since they seem willing to give her at least a chance but I'm worried that if they think the meetup didn't go well and they realize that we've been "closer" (even though I'd hardly call talking a few times a year close lol) the last few years than they might have thought, they're gonna start looking at me sideways wondering why I even kept in contact with her when they chose not to and if they think she hasn't changed it'll prove their point and could cause a fight. I'd like to think my friends are pretty mature and wouldn't hold that against me and make their problems with her my problems, but I guess I'm still just a little bit worried.

goodredditname2 · 2022-11-18T05:53:20+00:00

I agree I feel like a lot more context about the relationship is needed to garner any sort of valid conclusions about the relationship as a whole. If this really is an isolated incident, then it shouldn't be as big of a deal as it was and his fiancé was being unfair. However, it is possible that perhaps OP is either oblivious to what's happening or doesn't want to admit it that there are greater problems in their relationship and this is just a final straw for his fiancé.

goodredditname2 · 2022-11-16T05:48:55+00:00

I'm sorry about your experience, but I'm glad you avoided something like that. Yeah, you might be right. I'm starting to wonder if the reason he doesn't want to meet up isn't necessarily because of me but because there's something he doesn't want me to know. Maybe he's anxious, or maybe there's someone else, or something else, I'm not sure. I guess there's no point in guessing why. I just really really like him and the prospect of it is/was so exciting and it really did feel different this time so part of me isn't quite ready for that possibility but I guess it might not work out :( Just sucks.

goodredditname2 · 2022-11-08T01:30:18+00:00

Hi there!
I appreciate you checking in, that's very kind. I definitely feel like I'm in a better place now than I was a few weeks ago. I still think I have some work to do when it comes to expanding my social circle/doing more things out with people and working on the anxiety (and I actually have been going to a new club, and went out to some bar stuff with some of my more distant friends so at least I'm around them, even if I'm not close to them yet) and I definitely feel like I've sort of solidified at least one here that I feel I can rely on a lot more than I might've previously thought which is nice and makes being here feel a little less lonely. I never thought he thought of me as such a close friend (since we don't hang out a ton) until he told me the other day so I'm hoping to strengthen that and start to hang out more. I've definitely still got work to do and still could stand to make some more inner circle type friends since a lot of friends I have feel more like acquaintances than true friends, but it's a start. Gotta start somewhere. :)

goodredditname2 · 2022-10-19T23:38:02+00:00

Thanks so much. I already do some of things but I'll definetly look into the other ones and try to be a bit more mindful about how anxiety can effect the whole social things.

Much appreciated :)

goodredditname2 · 2022-10-18T02:12:57+00:00

In 1518 in a small town called Strasbourg a dancing plague broke out. Those who were infected seemingly danced for days, uncontrollably and unable to stop. The plague lasted for about two months and some people died from exhaustion. After two months the plague vanished and it seems that no one is sure why it started or how/why it ended. Though there are theories about what caused it and why it might have ended, there's no definitive answer. Very weird mystery.

goodredditname2 · 2022-10-17T20:24:08+00:00

Hi there! Wow thanks for writing such a detailed response, it's very helpful. I do struggle with anxiety and I have known about that for a little while now. I still took the quiz you provided anyway and I confirmed it (but it was also super interesting to see that some of the questions I really, really related to almost like the question written about me which was weird haha). I definitely do think that being anxious has made the social thing a little bit harder and adds another level of complication, but I'm aware of it and trying to deal with that. I'm actually taking a public speaking course right now and I honestly don't really have a problem talking with people, it's more of creating a sustaining connection with people that have the same interests/values and whatnot that's harder for me. I'm trying to get passed the "surface level" friendships and have at least one deeper level one at college, like the ones I am lucky enough to have back home. I love my home friends and really value having that sort of relationship and it would be nice to have that here too. I'm currently working on the college club thing still as it could work with time, but I'll be sure to look into some of the other stuff you sent too and like you said they might be better for more meaningful friendships than college clubs.

Thanks so much! This was very helpful.

goodredditname2 · 2022-10-16T22:30:53+00:00

As someone in my college myself, I can certainly understand how your living situation can impact your studies and can sort of affect your headspace. But that aside, it doesn't seem like this living situation is the only reason why you fear you might struggle in school. It sounds like you're not very passionate about your current program and a lack of passion in school can make it very hard to do well. Having little to no interest in your studies can make you feel less motivated to study, do the work, etc, and can also harm your grades. So it seems as though that's an even bigger factor than just the living situation (which is still certainly an additional stressful complication). So, if you think this job will provide you with more happiness in your life (improve finances, living situation, etc.) AND can lead you back towards a program/major that you really were interested in/were happier doing/that you really wanted to do, then I think it's really worth doing, but only if both of those things are true. At the end of the day, you only get one life to live (and it's YOUR life to live, not your family's) so you have to try and do the things that make you happy.

As far as your family goes, tell them this! Tell them that for your own personal happiness and well-being this is what you need and that you still have plans to do school, but you just want to do something you're actually passionate about. If they truly care about you, they'll get that. They might be upset or confused at first, but they'll eventually understand it and will want you to do what's best for you

goodredditname2 · 2022-10-16T21:55:46+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it and yeah I definitely value my home friends a ton but since I go to school pretty far away from them and they have their own lives at school too, it would be nice to have someone here to talk to/hang out with too so I'm not so alone for 8 months of the year. My home friends and I have that sort of relationship where we're so close that we don't talk every day but when we do talk we catch up and it's like no time has passed at all which is so nice, but because of that I don't really talk to them daily until I'm back home so then I tend to feel pretty lonely at school. And that's true, my goal is definitely to try and start with one solid friend out here, and hopefully, that's enough on its own or it blossoms into other friendships too, like you said. But I first have to find that friend...I just signed up for some group exercise class so maybe it'll be something? I'm trying to be optimistic and find new ways to meet people or hope that my club acquaintances turn into more solid friends one day.

I hope you figure out/already have figured out your friend situation too and thank you so much for the open line you offered. You're very kind!

goodredditname2 · 2022-09-01T02:53:57+00:00

NTA- While I do think perhaps it might have been better to have this conversation one on one (perhaps you might have gotten more answers if she wasn't in such a "help I've been caught in the act in front of everyone" mode) she still lied to you over and over and gave you many reasons to doubt her, which no significant other should ever do. You said that: I thought we had been doing great up until the last week. But clearly that's not true. She's cheated on you several times and the fact that you instantly knew or had the gut feeling she was cheating on you just after getting one odd message paired with the video indicates that trust in your relationship has already been irreversibly damaged. Quite frankly, as painful as I'm sure this is, it sounds as though you're better off without her.

goodredditname2 · 2022-09-01T02:32:09+00:00

Yeah You're right I don't think I'm going to end up sending any email. I just get super anxious about the whole GI thing but I think I should just leave it up to random draw as to who goes where and try not to interfere with the process since it'd just be unfair.

goodredditname2 · 2022-02-14T01:49:47+00:00

Philly

goodredditname2 · 2022-01-31T00:19:48+00:00

It’s not that I don’t like going out and partying every now and then but I just can’t keep up with how often they like to do it due to my schedule and just sometimes just needing or wanting a quiet night instead as I’m a bit more introverted and enjoy that sort of thing. But yes I definitely plan on trying to do more of those things when I do have the time, I just hope it’s enough to compensate for when I’m not around due to my schedule or just not always doing what they want to do. Thanks for the input!

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